It seems both of you are failing to communicate clearly. If you want to have sex, if you want more attention then that should be clear. If he wants to play video games instead then he should be clear. Nobody should be waiting around waiting for someone else to do something.
This is a recent thing
If you’re having sex almost every day, how much more attention do you want? Ay, carumba.
Please it’s unfair to judge the OP’s needs and expectations. I’d love to have a girlfriend who is interested in sex every day. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not an imposition. It’s just a matter of two people being clear about their needs, their capacities, and their expectations. And their willingness to be up front and honest with each other.
You’re right, of course. My apologies.
You’re young and in love, you probably think sex every day and constantly running over to his house is the perfect relationship. But if I were your boyfriend, I’d do anything to get some time alone. I need time by myself to recharge.
I love my wife, but we’ve developed separate lives* so we don’t stifle each other. Or maybe suffocate is the word.
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*F’rinstance, she went for a long walk with a friend this morning. This afternoon, I hung out at a coffee place (with my books and moleskines) for a few hours, then worked out. We ate dinner together, then I watched some sports at the local tavern. Now she thinks I’m watching TV with her, but I’m also posting here.
Not young. 61.
You’re 61, he’s in his 30’s, you’ve been having sex “pretty much every day” since January? I just want to make sure I have all the facts straight.
You’re old enough to understand that you’re in a sex-only relationship, and since that’s what you’re getting, you should be satisfied with it.
No I am not in a sex only relationship.
Um… I have a feeling this is not going to end well.
Well then you say something like “Looks like you brought your massive tool…now why don’t you put it to work?” and que up some porn music.
Seriously though, I hate to say it by if you are dating someone half your age, they only call you at odd hours. and they would rather play Madden Football than have sex then they might just not be that into you. As a member of Gen X, I’m not an expert on…well…either of your generations, but it seems to me younger people tend to be very passive when it comes to dating and often hope the other person just “goes away” when they express ambivalence or disinterest (ergo “ghosting”).
I assume that means multiple sclerosis, and that it’s bad enough that he is not able to work.
Even if he was healthy and athletic, demanding that he have sex with you every single day for months on end, otherwise your feelings will be hurt, would be excessive.
If he has a serious illness, then you are really being far too demanding. Apparently MS symptoms can often get better or worse over over a few days or weeks, and maybe he just isn’t feeling that good at the moment.
Phoning him at 7am in the morning, upset because he hasn’t contacted you since 3pm yesterday? ![]()
Cut the guy some slack.
What do you guys do together besides fuck?
I just read through a bit of OP’s post history and I’m somewhat at a loss for words. This is not a normal relationship. I’m struggling to balance the fact that people basically housebound with a debilitating medical condition probably won’t have what most people consider “normal” relationships, with my personal opinion that this guy deserves to have a relationship that’s more normal than this one.
You make a lot of sense. I am not the one initiating sex. Hold on, I was going to reread what you said and reply more.
Watch shows, such as Game of Thrones, KillTony, Bobs Burgers. Listen to Eminem or Rebelution. I also make him supper once a day. we have seen each other every day since June, so I am glad I came to solicit opinions here. I now realize I was overreacting. Thank you all.
Couldn’t you have just waited to reply?
Everything here, both the story and the actual posts stinks of attention seeking behavior.
Meh. Too many fumbles, not enough touchdowns.
This reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where George tries to eat, watch tv, and have sex at the same time. It works, until it doesn’t.
Could have worked better with the old Atari 2600 controller.