Sometimes, yes. Even in my 20s there were plenty of times I’d rather be doing something else besides having sex. Not everyone is in the mood at any time all the time.
One of my exes gave me a complex, and I am trying to overcome it.
I apologized to him and told him I would be less needy. Baggage.
You are correct. He called me yesterday morning, and said, It’s been 3 days right? Come down and we’ll have sex. He said he was happier when he was single. I said, well weren’t not going to have sex then. My heart has to be in it. He doesn’t call in a half hour as he said. So I call him and he’s like I don’t feel like company now. I enjoy sex but I’m only doing it for you( he is always the initiator though and once said he wanted me every day). Then just let me hang with you. No, now he’s pissed cause we’re not going to have sex. I’m “loony” and a fool. He’ll call me later. Never called. And here I am thinking, Am I at fault here?
Oh, he’s pouting now? He’s clearly not mature enough for a “serious (even though it’s supposed to not be) relationship”. And it’s never too late for you to mature, either.
This is like all of the worst relationships I have every had all in one neat little package (with one exception: he is getting laid).
But more seriously, if you have to force it, it’s not there. It’s either you or him, but it’s not there. I have my own personal opinion about who is at fault here, but it isn’t important. Nobody is going to change. You will keep butting heads until someone gives up and leaves.
I got over wanting to see him every day. He explained MS can make you lash out(I have checked with a board about Ms and they say it’s a common symptom). So I went t over to watch KillTony last night, and I can disregard when he blows up. I do help him some, eating-wise. I feel like Love games-the only winning move is not to play.
What do you mean it’s not supposed to be? Do you know us? This is a regular boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Someone said it was fwb. Are these “friends” supposed to be equal? Why has he introduced me to all as his girlfriend, why is he buying me clothes, a love seat, concert tickets? You assume because of the age difference? My former 3 boyfriends were in their forties. No one I’ve ever spoken to thinks I’m older than 45. If that’s what you want to believe, enjoy. It’s been almost a year and we’ve worked out our difficulties. Thanks.
Didn’t mean to insult. And did NOT mean the relationship was “not supposed to be”.
But I’m glad you stopped back with an update. I’m happy for you, and I’m sure others here are too (even if some of us are surprised:).