I thought I was bad. I feel better. If a guy doesn’t briefly check out a woman, he could be gay. That won’t lead to happiness for you. Its actually funny to think a woman looks like a male athelete!
I have to say, telling someone you’re looking at an attractive woman because she reminds you of a male soccer player and then googling up a photo of said soccer player is either a) the most brilliant made up on the spot bullshit excuse I’ve ever heard or b) the absolute truth to a guy who likes sports.
You said he looked up at the TV during dinner. By any chance was there a sports event on?
I would totally fail your test. Most people would. My date would get nervous if I didn’t take my eyes off her for hour except to read the menu or address the staff.
Hard to tell what really went on that night because of the shrieking levels of jealousy coming out of the OP. But yeah, knowing whether this was a first date, their 8th, or they’ve been cohabiting for a couple years would give us valuable context.
IMO the guy’s story about the soccer player and showing the OP the pix is so improbable that the guy had to be sincere. Damn near nobody caught babe-gawking is good enough to invent that story, and come up with a pic in real time that support’s his resemblance contention. We also didn’t get anything from the OP about how much she agreed or didn’t agree with his assessment. That might help us evaluate that part of the story.
You’re right that this relationship may not have legs. But for me, the slightest hint of jealousy is a strong signal to run the other way as fast as possible. That shit only gets worse. Assuming the OP is playing straight with us, I hope he’s running right now.
The OP’s date most definitely failed the test!
Should have been maintaining — or should I say, mantaining! — aggressive eye contact with the OP at all times, and monitoring her every moves.
That is indeed the true test of fidelity and worthiness among a sexual partner.
Or, you know, tried to make her feel comfortable, as I said.
But I do really like gals who are constantly fidgety with their eye contact, always looking at someone or something else. It makes me want them more, and I assume they feel the same way.
Gavel comes down that this guy was pretty much a complete knob.
But an inventive one, at that.
Still, it’s on the OP for not saying, “Why the fuck you checking that bitch out, mofo? Eyes on me! And hell no you ain’t watching no goddamned soccer game when we on a date! Cancel that shit! You wanna fuck or you want to be dating your right hand in a few hours?”
Yes, I am a licensed dating expert.
I once noticed my sister’s eyes flickering around while we were at a restaurant. “What?” I asked her. She whispered that there was a woman behind me who looked disturbingly like a Muppet and it was freaking her out. I casually got up and went to the restroom. On the way back, I glanced at the woman. She looked uncannily and unpleasantly like a Muppet.
Sort of like a controlling stalker. That’s the way to go!
Anecdote: On my wedding night, we went to a pub attached to the lovely hotel we were at. It was game 3 of the Stanley cup finals. Went into double overtime. I did not have my eyes on my lovely bride at all times. I did not monitor her every move.
She’s a wonderful, wonderful partner. Happily married after 34 years.
Bonus points if you can guess the winner of the Stanley cup that year without googling.
Edmonton Oilers?
< leans into microphone > WRONG. They are the evil empire.
One of these things is not like the other; it doesn’t seem like “aggressive eye contact” at all times is a way to make your date (or anyone) “feel comfortable.”
But, what do I know? Unlike you, I am not a…
Oilers?
I know nothing about Lacrosse 
I’m pretty sure it’s the wrong team. (Do they have teams for butterfly catching?)
Oh…wait. that’s a basket. Egg racing? 
Must be Calgary Flames then.
Are your feelings valid? Feelings are neither valid or invalid. It’s how you act in response to those feelings that matters.
However, your feelings are not rational or healthy.
Did you feel like you should have had 100% of his attention? That’s not love, it’s obsession.
Do you feel like he should never look at another woman when you’re around? That’s not realistic - woman are about 1/2 of the people around you. Can you avoid looking at any other man when you’re out in public?
Above all, what you felt is not healthy, and will cause relationship problems.
You will either destroy the relationship or get cheated on.
Cheaters know how to avoid getting caught checking other people out. You go with a guy who never looks at another woman, it’s likely because he knows he needs to hide that interest.
Finally, it’s not “men look”, it’s “everyone looks” I am willing to bet if a Ryan Gosling/Reynolds or a Chris Evans/Pratt (or whoever you like looking at) walked into the restaurant your eating at, you’d be checking them out.
It’s just that there are usually a lot more good looking women than men around
Boyfriend may have hit on a devious way to leer at women in front of his girlfriend with no repercussions. Unfortunately, his plan backfired.
Please tell me this was the night (morning?) the Dallas Stars finally, raggedly, won.
I got into so much trouble with my parents for staying up to watch that one to the bitter end, but I was dating a hockey player at the time.
/hijack
Montreal.
Yes, partners/people, often notice other people. Sometimes due to their attractiveness. Such is life. We’re human, we notice stuff.
It is decidedly a mark of remarkable immaturity that one react so visibly to the sudden appearance of beauty. A mature being sees, notices, glances but does not visibly react. (Wildly over the top events are clearly a different thing.)
He did nothing really wrong, but seems immature. You seem wildly insecure and should address your issues. They’re not going to fix themselves.
If your boyfriend thinks any woman looks like a guy, I doubt you have any need to feel jealous. 
My gf doesn’t mind that I flirt with bartenders. The idea that an attractive woman is bringing me a fresh drink when I’ve finished mine is so wonderful I just have to flirt a bit.
Meanwhile, she’ll talk to a guy who is sitting next to her and discover that he’s having his kitchen remodeled and ends up getting the name of his contractor. I’m oblivious to their topic of conversation and don’t mind when I see him write something down that she puts in her purse.
And we will talk to each other and eventually head home to our dogs and bed. I think we have a healthy monogamous relationship.
Glad to hear!
Very good answer here.
My only thought is I do not agree with his assessment.