I had a bit of an odd question that I’ve run past some friends and gotten their take on, but figured that this whole community might have a bit of a different view on the topic. First, though, some unnecessary history!
About 5 months after getting out of a 4 year relationship (and after a very fun rebound relationship overseas), I was starting to realize that after graduating university and working in a job that consists of me and 4 other guys, meeting new girls would be a bit tough without really putting a bit of effort into it. To this end, I put up a profile on PoF and OKcupid after being told by a couple friends that they had met their partners on either or.
Fast forward a solid 6 or 7 months later, I’ve garnered a couple dates off the sites (nothing long term), but a bit of an odd phenomena surfaced. So… here’s the question:
I used to think of myself as very broadly open minded when it came to women. I’ve dated girls of all shapes, sizes and races without a care to how she ‘fits’ into the Hollywood beauty profile. Since I’ve given this whole internet dating thing a whirl, though, I’ve become incredibly hesitant to even reply to a girl who doesn’t have a picture on her profile.
Case in point, there’s a girl who recently added me to a ‘favorites’ list. Once I picked myself up off the floor and got over the trembling and shakes, I looked over her profile. On paper, she seems like a thoroughly interesting girl; we share a fair few hobbies and I even love the way she writes. Still… no picture means I’m waffling over whether to fire off a message.
Does this make me shallow? Does the fact that I don’t want to APPEAR shallow and actually ask for a photo factor in? Is this all just an unhealthy level of background paranoia and I should get over it and ask the girl to chat?
Having lurked here for years and years, I do very much value the opinions of those on this board! If you’ve experience in the internet dating world, so much the better!