47/male/hetero
No interest at all, but if a partner really wanted it, I’d oblige her.
I once had a partner who really wanted to try it. We started, and she immediately aborted, saying that it hurt too much. Lack of lube was probably a huge factor.
Tha’s not to say that anal play is unpleasant to me. A woman’s tongue or finger in me is a huge turn on.
Ouch Ouch Ouch. I don’t care how much lube. Unfortunately, my man loves it so I will agree to participate sometimes. And quickly recall why I don’t normally.
It is interesting to note that when I suggested using a toy on him, he was horrified.
I think that would be a dealbreaker for me. If he wants to put something up my butt, he’s gotta be willing to get something up his. (Luckily, it’s never come up)
I wonder how many guys in this thread who enjoy or want to try anal would be willing to receive first?
Female, straight, 28.
I’ve tried it a couple of times, but I’m not into it. It’s not painful, but it just feels really weird in an unpleasant sort of way.
Not me.
Poo-tastic? Poot-tastic?
I’ve never done it, though I’d like to try it some day for the sake of a richer sexual memory archive. I’ve enjoyed anal fingering and toys, though for me ass play fans the fire but never starts it. Female, 21, straight-preference though I’ve dated both.
40/m/hetero/married
We do it fairly regularly (at least once a week). The first time was at my wife’s idea. We will often do it while she uses a rabbit vibe vaginally. The sensation for both of us is incredible.
I’m curious if the women who adopt a “okay, but only if I can stick something up your ass too” attitude are actually turned on and sexually interested in doing it to their partner, or are just making it a condition because of a tit-for-tat thing. If the former, I’m always willing to explore new sexual frontiers, and open-minded about doing things to please my partner even if it’s not something that I’d go for. But if it’s the latter, it just seems bitter and retaliatory. I’d much prefer you just say, no thanks, I’m not interested.
I’ve given it once to a girlfriend. Neither of us had tried, we were both curious. We were both pretty meh about it, and didn’t bother trying again. If I were to date someone who really liked it, I’d be happy to oblige, but I have no particular desire to do it again.
Male, 34. I like it, but, to paraphrase Sesame Street, its a sometimes sexual activity. My wife really likes it now, though she had had two bad experiences prior. I’ve also introduced two other women to it who were intrigued but reluctant to anal and they became fans. Others I could tell there wasn’t even a hint of interest and never pursued it.
I learned from my girlfriend from my freshman year of college. She was a kinky redhead and taught me all about it.
It isn’t a dealbreaker though for future girlfriends, nor has it been in the past. I won’t receive, but that isn’t for fear of pain or it somehow making me ‘queer’, but a lack of desire to be the submissive partner.
I don’t do it. While I’m normally not a prude, I don’t know how to not be a huge prude about anything involving anal. It’s just so gross and weird and unappealing to me. I’ve had several guys want to, and I just can’t get into it and I really don’t think I’ll ever be able to.
And I know it’s not supposed to hurt if you do it right, but whatever, I don’t buy it. I had one experience years ago where I was basically passed out drunk and a guy tried it and it hurt really bad. (But that very fucked up experience isn’t the reason for my squeamishness about it because I felt the same before it happened.) Maybe it would hurt less if I was prepared, but I WAS much more relaxed than I would have been if I was conscious, so I don’t know.
Female, 27, U.S.
29/f/married/hetero
It’s not a regular thing, and I have to be in the mood, but I do enjoy it. My first attempt did not work at all - I wasn’t nearly relaxed enough, and tore.
HELL yeah! That’s the best.
40/M/Hetero
I have encountered women who love it, who won’t do it, and who will do it “for me” but don’t like it that much. Oral sex is more of a deal-breaker. Anal is disappointing if they won’t do it but I can (and have) lived without it. I do bring it up to gauge their interest with everyone I date seriously.
Examples from the life of MeanJoe:
Current g/f: Never did it before, I brought it up and she was willing to try but nervous. We’ve done it 2-3 times now and I’m still trying to tell if she is a “do it for me” type or if she is growing to like it herself. Overall, great sex.
Last g/f: Was willing to try it but we never got full penetration, hurt her too much and she changed her mind. I was cool with it, glad she was willing to try and assumed we’d probably try again at some point. (we never did before I ended the relationship) Overall, good sex.
Ex-wife: Loved it, would orgasm from it, and it was a routine part of our sexual activities. When the marriage started going south, it stopped completely. Overall, great sex.
Ex-girlfriend: Would never even entertain the idea in any way at all. She also didn’t do oral. Worst 2 years of my life sexually, just a dead fish.
I’m also curious about those who say “Let me do you first!”. Is it just a shut-down comment or is there interest in (to borrow the phrase from Dan Savage) pegging a guy. I’ve never had that come up (serious interest in my butt) but if it was a legitimate interest I would like to think that I’d be open minded but it does make me a touch… nervous.
MeanJoe
I’ve only done it with current SO, and I don’t really care for it simply because it’s painful for several days after.
I forget that fact when I’m really drunk though.
I rarely drink because I forget important facts like this. 
I’ve done it a few times, but never enjoyed it much. And no, I wouldn’t do it if the guy in question refused to be on the receiving end.
I wonder how many of the shut-down “You do it first” retorts are from women who were pressured by previous partners. There are some guys who hear “No thanks, I’m not interested” and take this to mean they should keep pressuring and hopefully she’ll get fed up and give in. Not surprisingly, those types are usually not so open-minded themselves.
Why- because it would turn you on to do that, or just so he could experience what it feels like?
Male, 38, straight. I like the idea of anal a lot more than the actual execution. Tried it with my ex-wife, it worked ok but not great. I had an ex-girlfriend that was into it, we even went as far as me doing anal and her with a vibrator in the vagina a few times. That was hot!
Current gf wants to try it, she had a bad experience with anal before but does like stimulation there. During our sex talks I had mentioned that I tried it before and it was good for both of us, I just remarked that you need time, patience, and lots of lube. If she likes it, great, if not that’s ok too.
So he could experience what it feels like.
I promise I’m not being snarky in these questions:
1.) Why is that important to you?
2.) Is it a condition for you to give him oral sex that he go perform oral sex on a man so that “he could experience what it feels like”?
3.) Do you enjoy performing anal-play on a man? (i.e. the role-reversal aspect, etc.) Or is this a “it hurts and is uncomfortable and I’ll show him!” kind-of-response? If that latter, what if he enjoyed it? Would you then be more open to receiving?
Thanks,
MeanJoe
30 - female
I enjoy it a lot, as does my husband. The only issue is that he’s a bit big for me to take comfortably. It takes a lot of time and lube as well as using a toy for a bit first to get me loosened up. Once we did it when we were both drunk, and I tore rather badly due to not taking enough prep time and getting a bit too enthusiatic about it. We now have a “no anal if we’ve been drinking” rule.
He likes being on the receiving end too. So far it’s just been me using a vibrator on him, but we’ve been toying (heh) with the idea of buying me a strap on.