I’m confused by parents right now especially mine. My parents raised me to be completely independent of them. When I became too independent I was asked very nicely I must say to become less independent of them or leave home. So I left.
Now I’m in sort of a situation where my parents want me to move back in with them. They think they are helping me which is great most parents should want to thier children help if they can. But I refused.
My situation had all but worked itself out when I go this offer to move back home so I declined. Now my parents are mad at me.
They do not need me home, it would be a burden on them if I came back, the great relationship we have now that I’m not under thier nose would be ruined, I’d have to get rid of my cat and I’d have to get rid of all the cool stuff I’ve accumulated just to fit neatly back into thier tiny house.
One long run on sentence but it made my point.
These are all valid reasons for not going back. Seeing as you all don’t understand my family history I’ll tell you it’s not a pleasant story. I’ll say that it could have been better not because I was spoiled as a child it’s because I did not know how to communicate with them. There are otherreasons but for respect for my parents I’ll not say them to complete strangers.
The fact is I have, even if I have not matured, outgrown my parents house. I’m sure they know this because I’ve told them this. They’ve even agreed with me on it back when I was doing fine.
But now after I gotten myself out of a bad situation I’m getting angry calls not only from them but from peripheral family memebers as well. They’ve all united to scream mean nasty and ugly things at me for refusing to move back in with my parents. I’m angry and truly confused about this because everyone in the family knows how bad the situation will be if I ever go back there. I’ve handled my Mom and Dad pretty well but to have other family memebers team up to make me feel bad just pisses me off.
In my family you can’t scream back no matter how old you become. If you do it only gets worse because you’ve disrespected them. I’ve never been the one to take that kind of abuse from any one but I’ve watched my words with all of them up until today I’ve had enough and I refuse to take any more. I don’t care what they think I should do half of them don’t even live in the same state as I did with my parents. The other half hasn’t talked to some of my family for years, they have no right to even critcise my reasons for not moving back in with my parents. One of them had to never to call me by one of my cousin’s names and she’s in a totaly different situations. I’m convincesd that some of these people are just looking for some one to yell at because they know I won’t yell back.
Now Mom the most impotant character in all this knows exactly what’s going on. I’m sure she called everyone she knows and told them what I’m doing. A) it’s none of thier business and B) it’s none of thier business. My mother and I are exactly alike in personality and I know that we clash. We’ve clashed so much that I once left the house to walk off my anger with her only to come home and find the locks were changed. Yeah I said I wasn’t going to mention stuff but to make a point you know. Why would I want to come back to that when this same woman is my best friend now that we have our own persoanl space. We NEED our own perosanl space why would any parent want to ruin that I don’t know.