There’s a couple going in this forum that I want to contribute to but I’m too shy. I go in, I read all the posts, I think about what I want to say - and then I chicken out. I dunno, I sort of feel it’s all too personal to tell people I’ve never met, but on the other hand I do kinda wanna share (God, I’m articulate today) . Am I just demonstrating typically English reserve, or am I being a lily-livered wuss? And am I alone in this?
Is it not true what they say about Geordie girls?
Hey, I’m a lapsed Catholic, convent-school educated Geordie girl! It’s ten Hail Marys just for a naughty thought!
And erm…what DO they say about Geordie girls, anyway?
re: Geordie Girls - “like bringing coals to Newcastle” - can that apply in a sexual context?
I am not shy in the slightest, but have had friends get burned posting about normally private matters on public internet fora. I just can’t see myself taking the risk, no matter how remote…I appreciate the public discourse on private matters, but it’s similar to accessing Internet Porn - seems anonymous, but ultimately, you are umbilically linked via your computer and someone with enough know-how can find that stuff…
I haven’t had a problem with it, my hubby, stormchaser reads here, and occasionally learns something new about me.
Shy? No. I prefer to keep certain personal things personal. I"m not particularly fond of TMI.
I’m usually too shy to read them.
Jenny, there is nothing wrong with that. It just means that you are one of the rare people in our modern culture who still have a sense of shame and believe that somethings are better left in the bedroom, between the people who actually DO them.
Trust me, in this day and age, I only wish there were more people like you.
A friend of mine tells me that when he wants to post a story but is embarassed he says that it happened to a friend of his.
I just picture everyone in the topic naked.
Eeeeek!!! Stop it right now, handy!
To get over your shyness I would recommend sending me an eMail with all of the lurid details. I have a particular interest in your response to the 3somes thread if that helps. Photos would be helpful in case you put Geordie words in it that I don’t understand. Once you have sent it to one person (me) you will be far more comfortable posting to the group in general.
There’s just something very sad about the sex, TMI and flirt threads. Like, those who talk most about it are the ones doing it least.
They also always look suspiciously like attempts to out-do the last poster in the outrageous behaviour stakes. The kind of juvenile bragging that you’re supposed to grow out of. Being an anonymous name on a message board doesn’t excuse you of this.
I don’t usually post to sex-related threads since, well, without a girlfriend that doesn’t really give me much to contribute to such threads.
Ditto, I don’t have much of a sex life to contribute, and generally anything I share of that nature is going to have other dopers tittering at my chronic ability to embarass myself.
Though I find it much less difficult to disclose personal things around total strangers than people I know. I don’t keep secrets from strangers, after all. 
Not me! I’m shameless - I don’t care who knows what about me.
A coupla years ago I adopted a new, “demure” Internet persona … and nothing, but nothing is gonna undo that. 
So no, I don’t post in sex-related threads … although it’s been a hard habit to break. 
Julie
I don’t even discuss the intimate details of my life with my best friends, let alone with strangers. Although the boards do offer a sense of anonymity, I still can’t get over an instinctual inhibition about talking about my sex life.
If the question is from a medical perspective, that’s different. I have no problem with discussing sexual matters in a clinical sense.
I’m not the least bit shy, just boring.
I had no problem posting to the sex threads before I actually knew a bunch of people from the board in person…now that I know people in real life, I feel way too embarrassed to post! It was fine when it was anonymous, but now–probably not.