I’ve just got to make a few comments here, now you GUYS and, especially, you gals, listen up!
I listen to talk radio and I read many different articles plus I am on many different message boards from time to time. (I avoid chat rooms because the ‘kidz’ become pain in the asses.) Plus, I correspond with a lot of people via e-mail. Topics concerning women and men in sex have come up time and time again and GUYS, most girls figure the male part of the biological sexual couplet is selfish.
So, I’ve had to write out what a GOOD man sees when having sexual congress with a woman. NOTICE, I stated GOOD MAN, because I am fully aware of the guys (and gals), who hump away with their main fixation only between their legs. (Not that there is anything wrong with that now and then.)
So, for all of you women who figure guys are ONLY turned on by tits and ass, please read on. I will keep this very clean as it is not intended to be an erotic or ‘smutty’ post.
I’ve C&P’d an e-mail to a lady caller who complained about guys on the 92.7 WZZR talk show, the ‘Lunch Hour’. (You can listen from the web.)
Subj: Doggie style – from zzr??
Date: 11/23/99
To: zzrjill(CENSORED)
(In ref. to her comment about ‘doggie style’.)
Well, lets try to explain it somewhat seriously aside from the Lunch Hour.
Quite a few guys – and I’m one – get a different sensation when doing it that way. Plus, they get a different view of the female form, along with the impact of the cheeks along their upper groin.
There is something both pleasant and stimulating about the gentle swell of a woman’s hips, followed by the narrow waist and curving into the wider shoulders, when viewed from that position. Plus, he has the ability to touch the woman’s thighs and enjoy that sensation as well. When the woman has long hair, he gets to enjoy the cascade of it visually across her head and down along her shoulders. If she raises her head, it adds to the visual stimulation and if she turns it, he gets to admire the soft lines of her face.
He can hold her by the ‘ass’ and feel the firm/soft sensation of the underlying muscles and ‘pull’ her into him, which combines a great many sensations. Plus, he can hold her by the waist, just above the flare of the hips and enjoy touching the always strong muscles there.
It is awkward for a man to reach under and fool with the ‘joy buzzer’ but a good man will do it frequently for the woman in such a position. Plus, the doggie style position INCREASES the tightness of the woman and, for a tall man, stimulation often is applied more to the top of his member. (If SIZE counts for the woman, and he is not MASSIVE, it increases the pleasure for her also.)
Men are very visual. Many of us enjoy various aspects of the female form in different positions. Many of us enjoy not only the front but looking at a woman’s back. (Like when she is on top and facing his feet) He sees the shoulders, the width of the torso, the smoothness of the skin, sometimes the slight bulge of the breasts, followed by the gentle and attractive swell of the hips and buttocks and the smooth curves of the thighs.
Facial splooging. Ummm, I don’t know of many guys who actually like to do that, nor many who like to do it out of the two or three available openings. I hear a lot about it and, of course, it just has to be in porn pix.
I forgot to mention a few other things concerning guys and sex.
Good guys, and not those just interested in dumping their load as fast as possible, watch for many things in their partner. Especially the face, if they are on the bottom. They’ll notice if the woman is slightly smiling, if her eyes are closed and how her hair falls around her face, even if the hair is back lit by some soft room lighting. "Big or puffy’ hair can hang around a woman’s face like an ethereal halo, shining, sparkling and accenting her looks tremendously. (The woman who takes extra time to do her hair before sex, in my book, is a real PLUS!)
The closer they get to orgasm, the more radiant the woman will look. Most guys will not consciously realize this and the more they like or care for the woman, the more powerful that ‘glow’ gets. They will also notice the way the breasts hang and swing, the set to the woman’s shoulders, the curve along her sides to the swelling of the hips and down to the shape and form of the thighs and legs. Especially the ass. Even the feet - how they are positioned and what they look like. They will notice the flatness or softness of the abdomen, the smoothness and texture of the skin and even the way the muscles flex. They will even notice, subconsciously, painted toenails.
(A lot of this kinda goes by the wayside if they are thoroughly crocked.)
You’ll find that less than handsome men have a tendency to appreciate the visual and tactile aspects to sex with a woman more than guys who are ‘hunks’ because they don’t get laid as often and a guy who is single and gets it when he wants it tends to be jaded. (The same with beautiful women who have no problem in getting men.)
A man notices the scent and smell of a woman, her hair wash, her perfume and even the soap she used to bath with. A good perfume can linger in his hindbrain long after the act is over. (The scent of herbal essence green apples shampoo STILL reminds me of a girl I knew over 20 years ago.)
A man is very tactile during sex, though he might not know it. The softness of a woman’s skin is a turn on. Especially the flat of the stomach, the firmness of the waist, the inner parts of the thighs and the curve of the buttocks. He can even tell the texture of, well ‘IN THERE’ – you know (mainly digitally). Some women are smooth, some are sorta coarse, some are ‘slightly bumpy’ and some are a combination. (Didn’t know that did ya?)
He can even tell how ‘hot’ you are in there. If you pass out, believe it or not, you’ll stay wet, but cool off considerably. (NOT that some guys often mind a whole bunch.)
A good man will note the texture of your hair, the scent of whatever you washed it with, feel the curve and line of your skull and the density of the muscles of your neck there. He will very powerfully note the softness and lines of your cheeks, the curve and shape of your lips, even the shape and feel of your EARS as well as the lines of your eyebrows. (Women, it was reported in a journal of medicine some time ago, actually have small glands around their lips which produce a chemical that the man absorbs during a kiss. This stuff is apparently mildly narcotic and encourages him to want more. I have not been able to follow up on further reports of this phoneme to verify.)
Have him lightly stroke the UNDERSIDES of your breasts, the lines of your jaw and behind your ears. If he has fresh breath, kissing the eyes is nice. He can also TASTE your mouth and feel your lips when kissing. He can even tell the smoothness of your teeth. The under sides of your forearms can be lightly caressed with his nails also for a treat.
Also the insides of the thighs.
Also, not ALL guys like the ‘natural scent’ down there, so a scented douche or some lightly applied perfume can work wonders.
Now, go practice.
(NOTE! For those of you who figure I was ‘fishing’ for a date, the lady this was sent to lives too far away from me to make it easily possible.)
Mark
“Think of it as Evolution in action.”