D’oh! I stand corrected. Time to pull ol’ Harry off the shelf and give the series another read-through…
Esprix
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If you were beginning a relationship with someone, and they told you they were bi, what would your reaction be?
Also, at what point would you expect to be told – first date? Third date? “When it gets serious”? Before the wedding? Or would you not want to know at all? (this assumes continued fidelity on the part of the bi person.)
I’m interested to hear your honest responses.
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Hmmm.
Reaction? Tough question. I can’t honestly say, Chef…I just can’t say. I suppose my reaction would vary based on the particular circumstances. Would it change my opinion of them as a person? NO. Absolutely not. Would it change how the relationship progressed and to what level it progressed? I can’t honestly say, I can give you an I don’t know. Which is a total non-answer, but like I said before I started all this babbling, I really can’t say. Woulda been easier to stick with the first sentence and leave it alone, eh?
When would I expect to be told? I wouldn’t expect to be told on the first date, but I would expect to be told if it looked as though things were going to get “serious”.
As for the honest answer, sweetie, that’s all I’ll ever give ya! 
I gather rain…
Well, Chef, I’ll answer, but I think you probably already can guess what I’ll say. 
I’d want to know as soon as possible.
My reaction would be “Cool, me too! Say, isn’t that couple over there hot?”
Okay, any “normal” people want to try to answer?
Your Quadell
Post whore. 
Reaction? “Cool.”
When? Whenever they felt comfortable, but I think it would be pretty plain from the start that it doesn’t matter to me if they are or they aren’t. I would expect to be told sometime, however.
Esprix
Wow, it’s unanimous! 100% of respondants said they thought it would be “cool” if their partner turned out to be bi.
Your Quadell
Can’t argue with statistics! :rolleyes:
didja hear the one about the three statisticians who were operating a catapult? The first one fired the catapult, and the missile landed ten feet beyond the target. The second one reloaded it and fired again, this time the missile landed ten feet in front of the target. The third statistician started jumping up and down, screaming, “we hit it!”
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Da Chef
Jokes aside (see above) I’m sure the sample (not to mention the sample SIZE) is skewed…I’m sure there aren’t a whole lot of anti-bi people reading this thread, since I’m not in the habit of stirring controversy like the “straight” guy (and what IS up with those quote marks?), pashley.
miffed
Well don’t everybody talk all at once…
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Da Chef
We love you Chef.
They say Jesus loves me too, but he never calls, he never writes…
Seriously, being bi may double your chances of getting a date for Saturday night, but apparently it won’t attract twice as many posters to your SDMB thread. Esprix’s Gay Guy thread has gone to a seventh page, for chrissakes, while I languish with only three. I wonder if I should try to promote it somehow?
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I gotta say Bi-Guy, I find it very intriguing.
Have you ever participated in a threesome?
I think a threesome with 2 bi-guys and a female…ME for example, would be very, very interesting…
What are your thoughts on this Bi-Guy?
Sesquipedalophobia --fear of long words
Well, that’ll teach me. I was sure I had read the whole thing…but I was at work, and I must have been interupted before I got to page three.
So you covered the 3-some thing…
Have you ever participated?
Kelli, the answer to your question is … yes and no.
My one group sex experience was MFF, not MMF. And I’m not sure I can call it a threesome, because I don’t really think there was a point when all three of us were in contact. Certainly the women involved didn’t touch each other.
They were roommates in the dorm where I lived as a college freshman. I’ve tried to remember exactly how we came to make the sign of the triple-gilled aardvark, but that stretch of memory seems to have been lost. Anyway, it was less like three people sharing intimacy and more like two women friends taking turns using a very sophisticated (and grateful! :)) sex toy. I later slept with each of them separately, but we never all got together at the same time again.
Frankly, the experience wasn’t all I’d hoped it would be. Not that it wasn’t fun – it definitely was! – but (and it makes me feel a little embarrassed to admit it) I felt kind of used afterwards. There was none of the sharing I’d been hoping for.
I am much more intrigued by the idea of a MMF threesome where both men are bi, as you suggested. It sounds like a lot of fun, especially if the three people involved care about each other enough to really make it a threesome. (although I’m sure you’d also be okay with having two men just concentrating on you!) If you ever swing it, I’d love to hear how it goes.
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Oh, now, it’s not a reflection on how much people love you. Maybe being bi is boring, but being gay is fabulous? KIDDING! 
Sure - strip. Or offer sexual services.
You gotta pack 'em in any way you can! Sex sells!
Esprix
Ask the Gay Guy! (or, if you prefer the Jesusfied version, Asketh the damn Priest Guy!)
Kellibelli asked:
Well, yes. And they’re lots of fun. So far, the only threesomes I’ve been in have been MMF, but the “more-somes” come in all shapes and varieties.
You have to be careful with threesomes, though. There are all kinds of potential problems - sabotage, jealousy, flexibility issues. . . Seriously though, everyone has to equally respect everyone else, or there can be problems. But when things work out, it can be, well, very fun.
In my experience, actual penetration-type sex doesn’t work particularly well in a threesome situation. One person typically feels left out in those times, and a little resentment can go a long way. That’s why creativity is your friend. And alcohol.
Oh my. (Should this go to the flirting thread?)
Your Quadell
Okay, Quadell, you and I have a duty to help Kelli out with this, in the interests of science. If you don’t want your sweetie to feel left out, maybe she can run the video camera.
Kelli, since this is your idea, and Quadell is in an open relationship, can you guys come to Dallas and grab a hotel room where we can set up the experiment? This ring in my nose keeps setting off the metal detector at the airport…
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Hey, what’s with all the cobwebs hanging all over the place in here? It’s almost like no one’s been in here in days…
(checks last post and sits against the wall whimpering, “they all love Esprix better…”)
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It’s 'cause we’re all green with envy.
Hell, I haven’t had a date in over a year, much less done the horizontal lambada.
Kelli, MMF is the best way to go!!!
Then again when it comes to sex I love to be the center of attention!
Not that I don’t give as well as recieve, I just love having all that naked flesh all over the place.
When we get together nobody is left out. Flexibility in our threesome is great.
Now I am getting all hot and bothered just thinking about them!!
Anyway, we have been a threesome for about four years now. I love them both and they love me. As well as each other.
My husband and our third have been friends for 30 years or so. Actually our third moved in with me before my husband did. We have been married for six years now.
In a kind of related topic…We just had a threesome in our area get their children taken away from them by a nosey mother-in-law.
I think that would be more tragic for the kids to read in the paper and see on the news then thinking that their parents have a third person involved in their lives!
Sexual divients. I think that makes it all the more exciting. Then again I just love sex.
Anything else you might be wondering about just ask me. I am obviously very open about this topic. I also think that commander fortune would be the same way in answering questions. Seems like a great person!
Mistress Kricket
Are you stuck on stupid?
Okay, I have a request. Would all you people who are open about your sexuality, especially the ones who are in open relationships, please plan a vacation to Dallas real soon? I’ll let you know what weekend Mrs. Chef and Chef Jr. are out of town, and then I’d like you to all converge for a group…erm, hug.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not asking anyone to help me circumvent my marriage vows. I just wanna WATCH. The “naughty letters from Cheffie” thread is helping my self-esteem a bunch, but my sex life is getting to be like a butane lighter that’s almost dry.
I admit this request is tongue-in-cheek, but DAMN. Aren’t there any exhibitionists out there who want to help me out?
Please, a bunch of you lie and tell me that you at least WOULD if not for (insert very good reason why not).
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