God, I hate the way it makes me doubt myself when the board hangs on me.
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Da Chef
Esprix, sorry if this doubles on you but I can’t resist the smartass remark.
Whatever you do with a consenting stork in your own home is your business, and I commend your conviction that everyone should have a different stork instead of sharing them, but please leave me out of it, you sick bird-boffer. 
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Da Chef
TAP TAP
Is this thing on?
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Da Chef
Dear Gay Dude(s), I was curious if the gay community has gay idols? (like Freddie Mercury)
If at first you don’t succeed you’re about average.
Well done - sincere, modest, I could dance to it. I’ll give it an 85.
Cruising is just too hard to define. Some guys really are that overt - no fear. Some cruise so subtly no one ever knows they’re cruising at all, or are so slow to realize subtlety when it’s being practiced on them that they miss opportunities. And sometimes what is perceived as cruising is actually just bein’ friendly.
Look at it this way - how do you make your intentions known to a woman in a bar? At work? At the bus stop? Basically, it’s the same thing - some people will out-and-out hit on her, others will just go for eye contact.
If we’re just talking symbols, those are easy and overt - lambda and pink triangle from early on, then rainbow sticker and/or paraphernalia. Lesbians have the purple triangle and the labrys (two-headed axe). Then there are the hanky codes (not much used these days), the green carnation (a la Oscar Wilde), the earring in the left ear, blah blah blah.
Me, I prefer, “Hi. I’m Esprix. Want to get a cup of coffee sometime?” Works like a charm.
I will not touch that one… 
Esprix
Idols or icons? Freddie is more of an icon, IMHO. Idol to me implies more like “hero,” but then anybody can be somebody’s hero. I mean, Alan Turing was a brilliant mathematician persecuted for being gay, but not every gay person knows who he was; George Michael, on the other hand, everybody knows, but he was outed by trying to pick up a cop in a men’s room. If I were to come up with a quick list of people the gay community looked up to in one way or another, off the top of my head I’d say:
[ul]Judy Garland (duh)
Liza Minelli
Diana Ross
Harvey Fierstein
Bette Midler
James Baldwin
Martina Navratilova
Billie Jean King
Greg Louganis
Ellen Degeneres
Nathan Lane
Madonna
George Michael
Liberace
Noel Coward
Quentin Crisp
Ian McKellen
Harvey Milk
Oscar Wilde
Alan Turing
Leonard Berstein[/ul]
Just off the top of my head. Your lists may vary.
Esprix
Dear Gay Guy,
I thought gay icons were all 32x32 pixels, just like the other varieties. 
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Dear Gay Guy:
Much anti-homosexual rhetoric is accompanied by the assertion that homosexuals are inclined to pederasty. Personally, I do not subscribe to the notion that the incidence of homosexual child molestation is any greater than the incidence of heterosexual child molestation. (although there exists a homosexual group called ‘NAMBLA’ who advocates pederasty)
So my question is this: Speaking as a homosexual, what is your opinion of adults having sex with children? And if you think it’s wrong, why?
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If a het man can get in with a comment on lesbian signals, a lesbian friend of mine recently pointed out that the “Xena” baseball cap and “Buffy the Vampire Slayer” backpack she was wearing were clear signals to those in the know.
You don’t have a thing to worry about. I’ll have the jury eating out of my hand. Meanwhile, try to escape.
Sig by Wally M7, master signature architect to the SDMB
Jai Pey wrote, several days ago, when I wasn’t paying attention:
Well, as I have said oftentimes before, it really depends on the women involved, but speaking for myself, it is held in a very high regard indeed. I do so enjoy going down. Interestingly, I like giving oral sex better than recieving it, though I like that well enough, too. There is something about the combination of sight, smell, taste, texture and sound that only going down on someone can give you. Then, of course, there’s the sixty-nine. Best of both worlds! On the other hand, I have had girlfriends (not many, mind you) who didn’t seem to get much out of it. Oh, they’d let me do it, since I enjoyed it so much, but I could tell that they were just going through the motions. (One of these, it should be noted, was pretty much heterosexual, had a brief experimental fling with me before reverting, and was the only woman I have ever met who actually preferred large penises. It was for women like this that fisting was invented…) I would guess that the majority of lesbians do like oral sex a lot. However, I need to conduct a lot more research to be sure…
Heck is where you go when you don’t believe in Gosh.
Dear Gay Guy,
Sorry if this has been covered before, but are you or gay people in general offended when someone says, “That’s gay!”? I use it, and I don’t associate it with gay people when I do so, but if it is offensive, I’d quit it.
Thanks for this thread!
A girl
Yes, but we get many more thousands of fabulous colors that aren’t available to 90% of computer users.
Esprix
Ask the Gay Guy! (or, if you prefer the Jesusfied version, Asketh the damn Priest Guy!)
Boomer! An intelligent post! You make me so proud… {sniff}
NAMBLA has been repeatedly and thoroughly denounced and disreputiated by every major gay and lesbian organization, and every major gay and lesbian I know. 
They exist, but we don’t want to have anything to do with 'em.
Adults having sex with children is wrong - period. Although I will concede there is an argument to be made for the fact that biology precedes legal age of consent (i.e., you hit puberty in your early teens and Mother Nature gives you the ability to become sexually active, but you aren’t legally considered an adult until your late teens), age of consent laws exist to protect young people who are not capable or do not have the simple life experience to be capable of making such “adult” type choices. Of course there are some 16-year-olds who are more mature than some 30-year-olds I know, and vice versa, but there has to be a deliniation somewhere, and I personally think the age of consent laws do so nicely.
I have to admit that I was once duped into having sex with a 17-year-old - turns out he’d lied to me. Aside from that one instance, I avoid any kind of romantic contact (online, for example) with anyone under 18, but I have had younger friends who have needed someone to talk to (usually because they know they’re gay but don’t have anyone else to talk to about it). And the few 18-21 or so year olds I’ve slept with and/or dated I’ve only done so because they were mature for their age, but that’s just a personal observation (as in, if I met an 18 year old who loved Pokemon and started every sentence with, “And this one time, at band camp…” I doubt I’d spend more than 20 minutes with them, let alone date them).
Esprix
Ask the Gay Guy! (or, if you prefer the Jesusfied version, Asketh the damn Priest Guy!)
Oh, God, please, don’t share! The Gay Guy was a little queasy after reading that last post… {blegh!}
(You know I’m just kidding, right? ;))
Esprix
Ask the Gay Guy! (or, if you prefer the Jesusfied version, Asketh the damn Priest Guy!)
No, this hasn’t been covered. Does the phrase, “That’s so gay!” offend me? Eh, kind of, but not in a “you’re a bigot and I’m filing for harassment” kind of way - more in a cringing, rolling eyes, “that was kind of inappropriate” way. If somebody says it, I don’t comment, but I don’t care for it, either - I begrudgingly accept it’s a catchphrase people use. I think it’s more amusing when a straight acquaintance, knowing I’m gay, says it in my presence and then either looks at me with a slightly horrified look, or immediately apologies.
Esprix
Ask the Gay Guy! (or, if you prefer the Jesusfied version, Asketh the damn Priest Guy!)
Thanks for answering. It’s funny you say that, I picked this phrase up from my ex-boyfriend whose best friend is gay. The ex would always be soooo careful not to say it in front of his friend. Then one day I let it slip and the ex was completely horrified. His friend who just rolled his eyes and laughed, he thought it was funny. They were a strange pair. I thought later I should have said “gaily forward” which somebody told me is PC for “straight.” Hee hee!
Anyway, I have another question.
http://www.thecats.com/boyfrien.ram
This is a realaudio file of a song my friend wrote. She wants to know what you think.
Here’s the lyrics, in case you don’t have realaudio, or don’t care to listen. Also, since it’s a realaudio file, the quality sucks anyway.
This song is just musing about how cool a gay boyfriend would be. It starts out slowly, but then it kicks your ass!!! So hang on! (Slow intro/Rock/Fast Guitar TRT: 3:58)
MY GAY BOYFRIEND
Starlight, star bright
First star i see tonight
Wish I may, wish i might
Have the wish I wish tonight
I wish i had a boyfriend
as queer as queer can be
we’d go dancing
in all the gay bars
and chit-chat endlessly
make-up shop together
'cause he’s better at it than I
he’ll give me tips on skin care
and my hair a cut and dye
(chorus)
my gay boyfriend
he’s the best i’ve ever had
better than a cartoon
better than my cat
he’s so god-dammed handsome
the other girls are mad
my gay boyfriend
he’s the best I’ve ever had
shopping with a straight guy
is a nightmare don’t you know
but my gay boyfriend
he puts on a fashion show
he models all the dresses
and then i take my pick
hey, my gay boyfriend
he’s better than a chick
Chorus
having a gay boyfriend
it’s kinda hard to do
'cause the problem is
well, he wants a boyfriend too
i can keep on dreaming
maybe someday i’ll have
a straight guy who’ll love me
and a gay guy for all the rest
Chorus
All I ask is please don’t chew me a new one if you hate it.
Thanks,
A girl
The Gay Guy wrote:
I hear the phrase used a lot on South Park.
Speaking of which, there were all these messages on alt.tv.south-park a while ago, asking if Trey Parker and Matt Stone (the creators of South Park) are gay, because of this one scene where they’re aardvarking in BASEketball. Come on. Trey and Matt are soooooo not gay.
Not to spurn the Gay Guy and the compadres…
Neurotrash Grrrl wrote some neat things:
Testify sister. I’m with you there, 100%.
i KNEW I was a lesbian…
I’m beginning to wonder if you’re an alter ego of mine or something…
Lost me here. Not one for large penises. Or is it penii?
Well, you do your study, I’ll do mine, and perhaps in a few years we can joint-publish or something. I think we’d clean up on the regular pent-up oral-fixated hetero males of the world.
Highest regards at your honesty,
Jai Pey