Since I know how much you all love answering questions about romance(;)), I’d like to ask for some advice.
Here’s the story:
I fell in love with a girl in 9th grade. Unfortunately, I was pretty messed up at that point, suffering from depression and extremely low self esteem. As a result, I never told her how I felt, and tended to act distant and uninterested because I was afraid of being close to someone. She felt the same way as I did, but due to my behavoir, she never told me her feelings(though they were pretty obvious).
At first, I thought I’d get over her soon, but the feelings didn’t go away. She eventually went out with different guys, but it was easy to see that she would rather be with me if she could(really…stop laughing!:p).
Anyways, my dilema now-She graduated this year and is going to university(I’m staying in high school for 1 more semester). I still care about her, and I’m fairly certain she feels the same way. She leaves for university in about 1 month and I’d like to tell her how I feel and apologize for not telling her sooner. My problem is two fold:
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Should I even tell her? I’ve recovered somewhat from depression and have a higher self esteem, so I think I can get the courage to call her and explain(he said laughingly…)
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How exactly should I tell her? Any suggestions welcome, since I can’t seem to think of a way(except for blurting it out nervously like a :wally)
Any suggestions and comments are welcome.
You should say either:
A) Hey, Baby, I always thought you were one Hot Mama, and maybe we could split a quart of malt liquor and knock boots sometimes.
or
2)Hi. I’ve always liked you, but I was kinda screwed up for a while. I’m much better now. Would you like to go out for a cup of coffee? (Or some other low stress situation.) We could talk. I really like you. Alot.
Either one of those. The important thing is that you talk to this girl. Don’t get your hopes up, but odds are she won’t shoot you down just to see you crash and burn.
-Rue.
Depends on what your reasons are for telling her. If she’s going away, does that mean she’s out of your life?
I think it would be nice to tell her about your feelings, while not expecting a romance to develop. But both of you would probably feel better and it would put some closure on your always wishing that you had. Good luck.
Sort of. The university she’s going to is roughly 1 to 1 and 1/2 hours away. Though to be honest, I don’t think I’d want a long distance(or medium distance), relationship. Anyways, thanks for the advice and kind words.(And Rue, I think I’ll pass on the “hot mama” approach:)).
Yea, give her a bit of a chat and offer a really relaxed date-ish thing.
At least that is what worked on me.
I was in a group of friends deal for a while where there was one guy I had the world’s largest crush on. Nothing…
Until he had to leave to go to university. One evening he casually mentioned that he was clearing up loose ends before he left and he had always wanted to take me out. Would I be intereasted in an evening?
I just about hit him for being such a doofus, but I understood. We rented some movies and showed off cooking things for each other, got into a pillow fight, and in general had fun. He went off to school, I went back to my life smiling.
We didn’t pretend it was going to be the beginning of some big romance, we just wanted to spend some time one on one and re-affirm that we could be happy with each other. Cute, light, fun, and got us out of always wondering what the other one would be like…