Astrogirl is mad at me! You female-types are friggin' WEIRD!

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Let me preface this by saying that I have wanted to see Pearl Harbor for a couple of weeks now. BEFORE it leaves the theaters! I wanna see the battle scenes! I tried to talk Astrogirl into going last weekend, but she wasn’t interested… she likes romantic movies or dramas, not explosions… (I tried to convince her that Pearl Harbor was primarily a love story, and the bombs were incidental to the plot, but she wasn’t buying it.)

So Astrogirl is not interested in seeing Pearl Harbor, but I am!

A day or so ago, my friend and co-worker (at the teaching gig), T calls me. “You wanna go see Pearl Harbor before it leaves the theaters?”, he asks. “Yeah,” I say. He says, “I’ll go buy tickets, and we’ll go see it Thursday night, OK?” I think carefully… what’s on TV on Thursday night here in Korea? Futurama and The 70’s Show are over for the season… “OK, do it! I have nothing going Thursday night!” I say.

So, 'round about noon today (Thursday), Astrogirl calls me at the office, where Tommy Two-Ties and I are hard at work (at our own company) trying to finish a project that we have been working on for the past 10 months before the deadline set by our publisher.

We have a normal conversation (her day is going well, etc.) Eventually I ask, “What are you going to do tonight?” She says, “I’m going out with Eun-Shil. What are you doing?” I reply, “I’m going to see ‘Jin Ju Man’ (Pearl Harbor in Korean) with T and his girlfriend.” She says, “Oh… have a good time!” The conversation comes to an eventual close with the customary expressions of heart-felt love and devotion (IE: I say, “Chukshi-ya!” [our private language for ‘I love you!’][sup]long story[/sup] and she says, “Yeah.” and hangs up.[sup]This may seem weird to westerners, but is not weird in Korea…she has co-workers who are listening in, and it’s not cool to talk to your SO and say “I love you” where others can hear you… I guess. Or something like that… Hell, I just live here! I don’t friggin know!![/sup])

So, a few hours later I go off to meet T and his girlfriend… we go into the movie theater, and I turn off my cell-phone (hey! It’s a movie! It’s polite to turn off your cell phone before the movie starts! Right? Right? Am I alone here??)

We watch the movie… good, but WAY too long! (Anyone have any contacts with Hollywood directors? Could you please pass along the fact that 3 hours is WAY too friggin’ long for a movie?)

On the way home, in the subway, I turn my cell phone back on… it rings within a few minutes. I answer. It’s Astrogirl!

(The following conversation took place partially in English, and partially in Korean. I’ll post it in English to save time, if you don’t mind…)

Me: Hello?
AG: Hello! Where the FU** have you been?
Me: Huh? At the movies. Why?
AG: What? With who?
Me: With T and his GF. Why?
AG: I’ve been trying to call you for the past several hours!
Me: Oh. Sorry. I turned my cell-phone off during the mo…
AG: Why did you turn your phone off?
Me: I was in a movie theater! It’s just polite.
AG: You didn’t tell me you were going to see a movie! I was worried about you!!
Me: Yes I did! When you called me this afternoon I told you…
AG: You did? Oh, yeah… you did! But I thought you were joking because I didn’t want to see Pearl Harbor last weekend… [sup]Do you begin to see why we have the “touch your nose” policy in effect? It’s because of sh** like this![/sup]
Me: No, I wasn’t joking… I went to see Pearl Harbor because I wanted to see it before it left the theaters. I didn’t think you’d mind. You said that you didn’t want to see it…
AG: I don’t care about the damned movie!! I was WORRIED about you!! I tried calling you at home and your cell phone…
Me: I wasn’t at home, and I turned my cell phone off during the movie…
AG: I was WORRIED about you!! You never answered your phone!
at this point, the cell phone started to break up as the subway entered a tunnel or something…
Me: Wait! Let me call you back later, OK? I can’t hear you now…

CLICK… silence

After I got out of the subway station, I tried to call her back… her cell phone was turned off! (I can’t call her at the regular phone in her house because hr family doesn’t know that we are dating [a topic that has been hashed over before]).

I walked in to my dorm room to find that she had left no fewer than 10 messages on my answering machine! “Where are you?” “Hello? Hello” etc.

AAARRRRRGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!!! What IS it with you female-types?

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Apologize in a matter befitting your horrendous crime. Flowers, dinner, whatever your usual method of apology is.

And then get used to it. I’ve been trained to buy my gf something off of her wish-list on Amazon in such circumstances. It’s times like that where I’m glad they’ve got their one-click patent.

And then tell yourself, “Only about fifty more years until I die.”

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You men just don’t understand… :wink:

:::: running away, fast, giggling :::::::

:smiley: E.

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I am SO glad this isn’t just an American woman thing. Now that it is known to be universally connected to the XX chromosome pair, I can stop hoping it goes away and just accept the inevitablity of it. SOMETIMES being single and unattached is COOL!

[sub](Note: Not often, but sometimes!)[/sub]

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You mean this has never happened before??? I learned back in college to give atleast three types of notification if my planns diffred from the girlie’s… usuially e-mail, phone, and some sort of face to face or a note. Women are are insane, they don’t belive men when we say something then when it happens they get pissed because we didn’t warn them.

Typical example, you tell your gf to check her oil and air pressure in her tires before a long trip… then when she has a flat… well I’ll let you guess who she bitched at about that one. Oh by the way she did check her oil it was 2 Qts low… but didn’t check her air… UGH!

Good luck AstroBoy… it may save you some time and money to buy a bullet now.

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Bah, UncleBill, I’m not sure it’s a universal phenomenon. I, for one, am incredibly independent (which is why my last relationship went bye-bye). Things like AstroBoy was describing wouldn’t have phased me in the least!

:smiley:

Elly (who is so sick and twisted that she scares sane guys away anyway… :smiley: )

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To paraphrase Mr. Heinlein (Master of Damn Near Everything): If you have an argument with your woman and it turns out you were right, apologize immediately.

It makes no sense, but this isn’t about sense; it’s about FEELING, and you won’t be feeling anything but baffled if you don’t cave now.

My $0.05.

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Women. Can’t live with 'em, can’t have heterosexual sex without 'em.

I, for one, have had enough! Men! I say we stand up against the insanity! Fight back! They get mad at us for the littlest things?! Well I say we get mad back! No more double standards! Don’t tolerate it anymore!

You told her you would be at the movies. SHE didn’t remember, and all this is YOUR fault? I say NAY! I’ve been there, done that, and I’m not gonna take it anymore! It’s her fault she forgot! Fight back! Make her realise that!

MEN! LET US STAND TOGETHER AS ONE, AND FIGHT THE INSANITY!

[sub]Whoa. I’m having issues today. And I think it’s a good thing…[/sub]

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This is why I don’t date girls. :smiley:

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Hmm… Let’s see how often you get laid with that attitude, Mister.

[sub]Note: I am in no way condoning Astrogirl’s behavior. I always remember where my SO is. It’s easy when they’re tied up in the basement[/sub]

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So wait a minute - am I correct in my understanding? You invite Astrogirl to movie. Astrogirl declines. You accept friend’s offer to go to said movie. You tell Astrogirl you’re going to the movie that evening. You go to movie and exhibit politeness to your fellow movie-goers by turning off your cel phone. Astogirl forgets you told her you were going to the movie, and tries to contact you. She can’t contact you, so you go into stalker mode.

After movie, you call her. She remembers that you told her you were going to the movie.

And YOU’RE supposed to APOLOGIZE?!? Because SHE forgot you told her?

This woman is psycho. She should be apologizing to you for yelling at you.

Brrrr… I could never deal with someone who expected me to be available all the time, 24/7. Ya gotta turn off the cell phone sometimes. Yuk.

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Situation: Driving Wife’s van and the tires squeal as I make a turn.

Wife: The tires need air

Me: Well, put some in sometime.

Wife: If I wanted to put air in my own tires I’d have never gotten married.
Situation: The tub is so plugged up that nothing I do can unplug it, and I have a lot of experience fishing junk out of that drain. Completely incidentally, I thought, I am getting a comp day for working Saturday and am planning to take it next Thursday.

Wife: Good. You can have the plumber come then.

Me: You get home at two every day. Why don’t you have him in some afternoon before then?

Wife: They sometimes charge women more than men.

Me: And this justifies us baling the tub for the next week?

Lesson: Give up. They make no sense whatsoever.

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to find a woman of a like mind you have to find a woman who is in touch with her masculine side; or one like elenfair who has been altered by chairs. (smiley)

in your situation you must go with the “i was right, here is a gift.” policy. know in your heart that you did cover all the bases, now cover her in gifts.

how’s the handwriting going??

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A lot of the posts have been saying “give up, apologize and send her a gift”. I think that is sending the wrong message; she forgot where you were going - got upset/worried and yelled at you when she found you. I’ve done that a couple of times - forgot about something, yelled at him for making me worry and then felt like an idiot later when I remembered that he did tell me. (Which is why Astrogirl kept on yelling at you - to cover up her embarassment.)

Don’t apologize and/or send her a gift - it’s rewarding the wrong behaviour. You want her to go to you and say - whoops, I forgot, but I’m so in love with you that when I couldn’t find you I went temporarily insane. I say proceed as if nothing happened (this is what my husband does to me when I suddenly go insane for no reason) and wait for her to apologize to you.

N

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No, we female types are not weird. Astrogirl is weird. Give her a hat, she’ll get over it. :smiley:

I tended to realize that when my ex told me something, that is what he would do. Further, I would remember what he told me, and when he came home I wouldn’t scream and rant at him for doing it.

Sorry, Astroboy14. It’s not ALL women. I personally am a goddess.

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There. Right there. That is the moment you entered The Estrogen Zone. <cue clarinet riff>

You see, she had forgotten you were going to the movies, and got all worried and pissed off when she couldn’t reach your cellphone. Then, when confronted with the truth that she had been worrying for nothing and should have known it, what was her reaction? Relief? Embarrasment? Remorse?

No. It was indignation. You have deprived her of the validity for being upset, and that pissed her off. She had decided that she was going to be angry with you, for whatever underlying reason, and you had the nerve to come up with a valid defense that made her look foolish.

The reason I’m still a bachelor is because I don’t let women get away with shit like this. I can put up with a lot of pettiness and childishness, but not self-righteous indignation. I’ve yet to date a woman who at one point or another hasn’t gone into the mode of “I’m entitled to be angry at you and I don’t need a reason,” (or “I’ll invent a reason,”) “and anything you do to mollify me will only make me angrier.”

The few times where this hasn’t marked the imminent failure of our relationship is when the girlfriend apologized afterwards. And apologies come in many forms. :wink:

Give her a chance to apologize.

P.S. Situations like this are also why I don’t own a cell phone. I think telephones are rude interruptions, and I find it even more unreasonable when people expect to be able to rudely interrupt me no matter where I am. But that’s another thread.

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So – let me see if I have this straight – the title of the movie Pearl Harbor in Korean sounds kinda like “Ginger Man”?

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Another female type chiming in with “you are dating a psycho bitch.” Jiminy, if this is what relationships are like, it’s a wonder the human race has survived this long . . .

—Happy Spinster-Lady Eve

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“flowers, chocolates, promises you don’t intend to keep…”

Oh, and inquiring minds want to know what the nose-touching policy is all about.

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Don’t worry, Astro, things will g-mff…Things will get better mff-f-f! …will get better after your married! Bwahaahaahahhaaaa!

I’m sorry. I just couldn’t say that with a straight face…

Now, then. Time to step up boy! Teach her who wears the pants there! Let her know she’s your WOman and yer not gonna tolerate no guff. Set her straight, son. Ya can’t have her walking all over you fer the rest of yer life!

What?

[sub]Oh…

Yes, dear.[/sub]

Hey, uh, sorry, Astro, I gotta go. I’ve got a, um, thing…