I’m a long time lurker here, but now I must emerge to ask for some sound advise on a situation of mine.
First, some history is needed. There’s a girl (of course ). Her name is to be Susan. Susan and I are very very close friends (I’m male). Susan has been in a long-time relationship (more than a year) with a guy that I am also friends with. This relationship is quite rocky at the moment, as the guy has a propensity to be a total dick almost 24/7. So the security of this relationship is in doubt. Then there is another guy, who is also a friend with all parties involved, his name will be Shane. Shane has had a rather sad history with women and relationships. He recently ended a relationship with a girl and has been rather down about it lately. I recently got together with a girl (approximately a month ago). She is very sweet, but I’m quite aware that the relationship will not last forever. Everyone involved goes to the same school, a residential high school, and all of us except Shane’s ex and my girlfriend are seniors. The two girls are juniors.
Susan and I trust each other very much, and there is also a strange (and very strong) romantic/sexual tension between us. I’ve never really made any actions on it, since, until recently, she and her boyfriend have been rather close. I made a proposition to her last night about a potential, casual, fufilling totally non-commital relationship over the summer. Basically I asked her if she wanted to have a “physical” relationship over the summer. We also decided that if it caused any weirdness, we would stop immediately. We were both excited by the idea, and agreed no actual intercourse would be involved. We also postulated that we would only do it if we had no SOs at that point in time. We discussed this at length until 4:30 in the morning (thank God for the weekend). Today, I talked to Shane in his room about nothing in general. He revealed an online conversation he had/was having with Susan. He bluntly asked her if she would dump her present guyfriend and date him. She was rather taken aback, and told him that she was attracted to him. The irony of this situation stunned me.
I’m asking for solid advise on the wisdom of the proposition itself and what to do about Shane if I follow through on the proposition or not. I don’t want to harm any of the relationships between these people and the ones with myself.