Of course it’s not the worst thing in the world, but you also have to recognize that your current personal integrity about relationships is directly opposed to your long term goals. So at a certain point, one or the other will have to give.
There’s nothing wrong with not marrying and having children if you don’t really want them. I didn’t and don’t plan on it (well, the children part, I don’t entirely rule out marriage). But if that is something you really want, you’ll have to reevaluate your view on relationships as:
The thread does kind of feel like that scene in Airplane where the passenger is panicking, so someone slaps her to calm her down, someone else slaps her, and eventually half the plane lies up to take turns slapping her.
Hehe. That was me. I was posting from a place where jobs have beauty requirements, there was a very narrow standard of feminine beauty, and gender roles were extremely lmited. It was a difficult thing for me to live in evey day, and something that a lot of American women have difficulty with. It was a process for me, and one that ended well- I turned that energy into a women’s career seminar an monotring young women through anorexia, abortion andthe early stages of their career. They still come to me for frienship and advice.
I did come out changes- in some good ways and some bad ways. But I think the biggest change was that I learned how to stop drifting through life, and keep my energy focised and moving forward.
I know you didn’t want to read dating books, but what you were saying about wanting to be the one in charge, cancel dates, be the pretty girl in a whirl of panting guys was reminding me of something…tickling a vague memory in my brain…aha!
One of these days I am going to sit down and write a book called “Breaking the Rules”.
Rules girls are painfully obvious and guys can exploit many of the restrictions the rules reccomends to merrily do as they please and still keep the rules girl happy.
