I’ve had success with: slow way down briefly, then speed up again, repeat as long as she’s still enjoying it.
I vote for slow down a little and drive it home (as it were).
Follow my instructions closely. 
They will probably sound something like, “FASTER! HARDER!” There comes a point in time where I wanna be pounded. Give it all you got and don’t stop until I shut up.
I would have to concur with this assessment. There’s a point at which I want NO CONTACT but it comes (heh) very suddenly, as MsWhatsit points out. Which might be exactly why cjepson’s technique works on his (?) partners. Someone research this over the weekend and report back!
I’m completely non-responsive to stimuli no matter the source. The cause might be emotional but the effect is the same; at my age, I don’t intend to go into analysis to sort it out.
Some do but others prefer to see the evidence all over the place. I think the key is taking time to know what your lover likes instead of expecting to be able to please them all with the same magical technique.
I’m sorry. 
Note to self: Completely reconsider retirement-living plans.
Ma’am, Yes, Ma’am! Aye, Aye, Ma’am!
And yes, there is never one single fits-all “magic move”, but from my POV that’s fine, this is to me one of those areas in which appreciation of the effort counts highly.
Lots of folks mentioned “practice.” Well, if practice makes perfect then I guess I will lose my touch as I no longer have a special someone to practice with. As far as taste - once you have tasted it once, you have definitely NOT tasted it all. It varies from man to man and it depends on what they have eaten, and or ingested into their body, whether they smoke, etc. My last lovers cum was the sweetest and best I have ever had the pleasure of swallowing.
Don’t you wish they taught this sort of useful stuff in sex education classes?
Or lots of evidence.
Any other guys here who think BJs are kinda Meh…!
Once or twice a year I can be in the mood for it but more often than not…(far more often than not) I find them an interruption and a boring change of pace. ( even though I love giving oral sex to a lady)
I don’t think it’s the learning that’s the issue. I’ve learned how to do lots of things I don’t particularly want to practice doing.
Certainly there are times when I’m in the mood, but not generally. However, I’m so spectacularly talented, as well as enthusiastic, the absence of this is rarely, if ever, an issue.
+1
I love to give head. I love it considerably less when some unimportant aspect of it makes ME physically uncomfortable.
Once my ex and I were well into our relationship, we made a deal: he would get an absolutely mind-blowing blowjob, my absolute best, without any restraint, drawn out to maximize his pleasure… but he had to sit on the edge of a table or desk so I could do it sitting in a chair. That prevented neck pain, jaw pain, everything. We’d put a pillow on the desk, I’d adjust my chair, and he’d get 20-30 minutes of bliss.
Amen. I met a man a couple of years ago who absolutely fell apart when I made the slightest physical indication that the way he was kissing me wasn’t working perfectly. We ended up having a conversation I still can’t believe - he’s a middle aged man and he still labors under the impression that he’s being unmanned by a woman letting him know what she needs sexually? Oh please.
We didn’t get much farther than the kissing.
Oh, I am SO calling stealth-brag on this one!
Communication. This doesn’t have to entail “directly telling a lover that his or her skill at a certain sex act was under-par” (nor does the situation necessarily indicate a lack of skill on their part).
People like different things. And there’s no need to stop the action for a lecture on proper technique. :smack: Just make noises, verbally direct them (“Ohhh, yes! Do this, do that…oh, yeah, that’s it!”), even manually direct them by moving them or yourself until they are hitting your sweet spots, then give lots of positive feedback.
Any unselfish lover, male or female, wants to please their lover but most aren’t mind-readers, and even the highest “skill level” can miss the mark and/or seem mechanical if the approach is 1. wrong for the particular partner 2. treated like an act/task in which the receiver is passive.
I was not BORN an excellent fellator…my late husband trained me (same way I trained him to be the amazing cunnalinguist he was:D).
Would I be out of line to ask a slight hijack question about breast-play?
I know that the light touch of the ball of a finger around and under her breast w/o ever touching the edges of her areolas can add to foreplay. What if, during, you gently placed one nipple between thumb & forefinger for a very light 30 degree twist with a little less force than you might turn the key on a Rolls Royce…for about maybe 4 Mississippi…and then let go? Might that add to her enjoyment?
Or is that just a YMMV?
First off, don’t overthink the actions on breast touching. Your descriptions show you’ve put a lot of thought into what you’re doing; unlike blow jobs or cunnilingus, it’s much more free flow. Try different things, ask how they feel. Palm of your hand can be really soothing and satisfying; rough pinching can be too. All on the same woman.
It’s very largely YMMV, and it varies widely by sexual encounter and where you are in the whole sex act with the same person. If my SO were to come up to me right now, grab a boob and twist with his whole hand, it would hurt like the dickens and I’d probably punch him. If he does it halfway through some pretty hard sex it’s gonna feel great.
Above all you want it to become part of everything else you’re doing; do it while making out to rev her engine. If you’re counting to 4, you’re not enjoying yourself and chances are good she’s aware that you’re overthinking it too.
Cold also influences things; a light brush with a tshirt can be extremely painful in a cold bedroom. I suggest a well heated bedroom; I could be wrong but I think this applies to most women.
I am personally not a fan of the nipple twist.
Well, maybe if I’m really het up I don’t mind it, but generally speaking, stop trying to tune in a new station, dammit!
Pinch, pull, rub, suck, nibble, even bite, okay. No twist.
YNMV (Your Nipples May Vary.)
When it comes to sex, assuming everyone is interested in giving and experiencing more pleasure (sometimes they aren’t, strangely) pretty much everything you can imagine is YMMV.