I was her first kiss, and probably her first boyfriend ever. We’d been going out for over a month, seeing each other 2-3 times a week. So it was hard enough. I think she felt more strongly than I did, which was part of the problem; I just was never going to look on her romantically, even though I do like her.
Tough, but I think I did the right thing. I held her and she cried a bit. I tried to joke a bit which I think helped, but I tried to be nice, too. Ouch. I’m still going to take her to the dance and get dinner now and then, though. But I don’t think we can have anything, well, formal, y’know?
Dunno. Hard to know if I did the right thing, but I think so. had to be honest.
Yes, you did the right thing and in a few weeks, she’ll be fine and you’ll see you took the right step. It’s nice of you to want to still take her out now and then, but just be careful that you don’t give her mixed signals and she thinks that you want to get back into a steadier relationship. Give her the opportunity to move onto someone else who will be more into her and return her feelings rather than have her staying hung up on someone who just isn’t.
Heh. No, it’s just none of your business. And when people do care about each other, sometimes there’s no easy answer. I will say she has less experience in love than I.
Dude, that was far worse to say. You should have stuck with the idea that you don’t like sharing your age online. By saying what you did, it’s clear that you are embarrassed about an age difference, where she is much younger than you. And, as already shown, Dopers will jump to the worst conclusions.
Well, smiling bandit was 28 years old in 2009, but at that time had only two girlfriends and didn’t seem to get too far with them. He seems to have some trouble with women.
Seems a bit old to be leading on some fresh young thing (much less taking anyone to a “dance” WTF) but perhaps lacking in some emotional maturity of his own.
Well, in any case you did the right thing by ending it there, smiling bandit, and hopefully learned something about how to avoid this kind of situation in the first place. Go get the balls to ask out a girl who is in your same age/experience range and you won’t be walking around breaking young girls’ hearts. You got no business going there, especially if you know it’ll get out of control (seeing each other 2-3 times a week, but you aren’t in to her? How does that happen?). The armchair psychologist in me guesses that you are fishing out of the “inexperienced” pool because then it is their heart on the line instead of yours. Get over it, go troll the grad student lounge instead of the undergrad parties, and find a girl who can be your equal.
Easier said than done: it can be tough to find a girl who is both in your age range and in your experience range when you’re an inexperienced 29-year-old.
[Michael Jackson]“eeeeeeee!”[/Michael Jackson]
(Am I the only one who started hearing “Billie Jean” in my head when I read that phrase?)
