Well, I’ve had some stellar sex with girls I’ve met in a bar. I’d say about half of them involved buying girls drinks. But before I give the wrong impression, understand that I’m not implying I got that great sex all those nights as part of a one night stand.
Typically the only way I buy drinks for a girl is after I’ve already started a conversation with a girl. For example, I’ll be at a bar and a girl will, more often than not, make her way up to me (I’m painfully oblivious to come ons, and never have luck when I’m trying to pick up), or at the very least we’ll both notice each other as we try and slide past each other in a crowded place. Once we’ve managed to break the ice somehow and the conversation seems to be flowing and we are clicking on some level I’ll frequently offer to buy her a drink.
It usually coincides with me needing a fresh one myself, so its not exactly a planned ploy to win her over. Also, when I’m a little bit nervous I tend to take alot of sips from my glass in an attempt to keep my hands and mouth occupied, so you can imagine that in these situations I get empty quick.
Anyways, the basic reason that I will buy this girl a drink is as something of a non-verbal expression to show that I’m interested in you, and I’m enjoying our conversation. It kinda says, “I’m getting a drink, and so that you don’t think I’m using it as an excuse to ditch you, I would like to bring you back one. Please stick around so we can find out where this all leads.”. Of course if I see that the physical chemistry is electric I’ll make sure to keep the drinks flowing, hey, I am a guy!
Long story short, yes I think “buying a girl drinks” has played a fundamental role in me picking up at a bar, either for something physical that night (even if it is just a tacky make out session in the corner) or else what later grew into a relationship of some kind.
On the otherhand, I’d definately never be that guy who “sends drinks over” to a girl as some kind of compliment or tacky come on. I can’t imagine I’d be interested in the girl who this actually worked on. Nor would I immediately feel the need to flash my cash in the first minutes of talking to a girl. Both tactics are painfully insecure, and listening to girls talk, they love to use these idiots for free drinks at expensive clubs. Even fairly modest, independant and non-shallow girls seem to be able to justify using guys like that, and to be honest, if the guy is dumb enough to fall for it, I can’t say I blame them.
In contrast however, I’ve seen girls doing the “drink slut” act all night at a club, walking around flashing tit and getting guys to buy their drinks all night. Usually they’ll simply ask for the drinks without even faking small talk. I’m never sure if these girls do it just for the booze, for the attention and power trip, or as a competition with girlfriends. Anyways, when a girl comes up to me playing this act I’ll soak up the flesh, mabye grab her ass, and when she point blank asks me to buy her a drink, I’ll laugh in her face. Yeah, I’m mean, but I’ll sleep fine in the morning.