Well, I’ll likely see her briefly at work on Monday, if not, our shifts overlap on Tuesday by 15 minutes. I guess I’ll just see how she acts when I see her then.
I still can’t get over how damn confusing that voice mail is. I mean, taken at face value, there’s nothing to question, but of course, that’s not how girls work…
Dude, you’re obsessing. If she wanted to go out with you she would have made rearrangements.
To prove a point I once asked a girl out twice a week for almost year to see if she’d ever say no, but she always had something on. I pointed out after a while that I didn’t actually want to go out with her anymore and all she had to do was say “no” to get me to stop asking. She had some choice words for me then, but she still didn’t say she didn’t want to go out…
Well, she did say “next weekend.” Anyways, even though it may not seem as such, I really don’t care that much. But I mean, if there’s still a chance, I’m not going to let it go, but I’m not going to go all out either.
I don’t think she’s brushing you off. On the other hand, I don’t think she’s madly in love with you either, but hey you haven’t even gone on a first date yet.
Just be nice when you see her Mon or Tues. Tell her it was a shame you couldn’t do a movie, but don’t drag it out. Then call her again later in the week and ask her if she wants to try again.
This sounds like the best idea. I mean, I’m not going to be broken up if that doesn’t work out, but I figure I’ve gone this far (which is far for me), I might as well see it through to the end. Worst comes to worse, she brushes me off again, at least then I’ll know for sure 
Older Guy Dating Critique…
First mistake… You talked to her about this date on Sunday the 16th, got her cell number at that time and the next time you try to get in contact is Wednesday the 19th?
Way TOO long of a wait time. Lets start with the premise she was interested (after all, she did say yes and she did give you her number). She worked over at least a dozen scenarios of why you were asking her out and how she was going to react in the first 24 hours after you set it up. By day two she was thinking you were blowing her off. By day three she was working up a good head of steam about it. Your phone message defused the anger, but she was already over you by then anyway.
Even if you said “I’ll call you mid week to settle out the details” the wait time was to long.
Second mistake… A Movie? We’re talking about sitting in a dark theater with a guy you’re going out with for the first time? Where you can’t talk? A first date is dinner and a walk somewhere intersting. Depending on your style and the lady’s stil it may be dinner and dancing. A movie without the offer of dinner beforehand is a friends thing, not a date.
Well, I’m not going to pretend like I know what I’m doing, but I’ve heard that you don’t want to call a girl too soon, lest you appear as if you have nothing more to do. I thought Wednesday was a good time, that’s at least three days notice.
I agree with your logic here, but it seems the movie and dinner thing is still the standard, from what I can tell at least.
Man, I gotta say, I’m getting Deja vu reading this post. Reminds me quite a bit of my thread, only more sane. I’m not sure what to make of your predicament, but my last experience in asking a gal out, in addition to some of the threads here similiar to mine, have made me cynical enough to make me vote for “brush off”. But, I say go ahead and invite her out for another time. Maybe even a third. The three strikes deal sounds like overkill, but if you’re still befuddled after the second invite, you might find yourself going for it.
As someone who was in your exact position a month ago, I have suprisingly little advice to give. Just be cool about the whole thing; don’t wind yourself up too tight.
Haha, JoeSki, when I made this thread, your thread came right to mind. That’s also why I’ve been leery of this situation the entire time.
Any updates?
And just out of curiosity, what made you decide to ask this particular girl out?
Nope. I’ll potentially be seeing her today during a shift change, tomorrow for sure, but I don’t expect anything of significance to happen, because I’m sure as hell not mentioning anything related to the call. I don’t have high expectations that she will either.
But if anything does happen, I’ll update this accordingly.
Oh, and as to your second question: She’s pretty good looking, and we seemed to get along well. I think my reasoning was that, since I was quitting soon, why not? I had nothing to lose.
I’ve read that the way to tell if it’s a brush off or not is by the specifics, or lack thereof. For instance:
“I’m busy, but let’s get together another time.” This probably shows lack of interest.
“I’m busy, but let’s get together tuesday, at 6:30 maybe?” This shows definite interest.
She said “next weekend” which is pretty vague, but a bit better than “some time”. I’d say it’s worth giving her another call, because at this point it’s inconclusive. I wouldn’t get my hopes up though.
You’re making a lot of sense.
What are your thoughts on the “call me sometime” line? What do you make of that?
Alright, saw her at work for maybe three minutes, and beyond a greeting and a smile, nothing was said.
Yup, I’m leaning towards complete uninterest on her part.
Yeah, but did you talk to her?
Don’t be falling all over her or anything, but if you want her to like you, she’s gotta have something to like. Talk to her. Be interesting. Be funny. Or at least be nice. Don’t avoid her; if you assume she doesn’t like you, it’ll be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Life is terribly ambiguous.
Hmmm, that sentence could be interpreted in so many ways.