Can we please have a better week in the MMP?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Howdy Y’all! I went and did the thing at the church house this mornin’. I parked way down at the end of the parkin’ lot and got myself in and out in about twenty minutes. I successfully managed to avoid the yahd sale crowd. Go Me! After that, we day drank out at the cee-mint pond. I took a plunge and the water was waaaaaaaaaay cold, but it felt good. Nappage also ensued. Sammiches and chips took care of the need to feed. All in all it’s been a good day.

shoe enjoy your day off tomorrow. Sleep in. Give Monkey cuddles.

{{{MOOOOOOM}}} stuff like this is always so hard. Hug your sis and BIL and let them know you are there for them. Hope the day was not too bad.

Sunny I am exhausted just readin’ about the upcomin’ escapades. Hope y’all have a good anniversary. Hope Beamer has a good bday. Hope Beamette enjoys her show.

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Afternoon all. Soccer refereeing has been accomplished, 3 more games in the books, that may be all for the season since I’m leaving Wednesday for my Cruise and won’t be back until the 17th. Went well, helped train a new referee (her first game ever) and in general had a pretty good day. Sitting now and expect I’ll be sore when I try to stand up in a bit.

Sunny, sounds like quite the weekend for Beamer and Beamette; make sure there is time in there for you and husband-unit.

shoe, if you wake up at 6am, just roll back over and pretend it didn’t happen…

OK, tired and in need of some R&R…all y’all take care.

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Happy Saturday!

It was a little chilly at the park this morning, now it’s a beautiful 65 degrees.
We had a bit of excitement, a dog fight between an Airedale and a bullmastiff? Everybody was saying it was a mastiff, but I’ve had one and it was not. The bullmastiff? isn’t neutered, and Airedale has a problem with unneutered dogs.
I felt bad about not getting in there to help break it up, but nope, not happening. I’m too old for that crap. Airedale dad stepped in and grabbed each of them by the collar and separated them, until the bullmastiff? dad could get there.
Fortunately, it was mostly noise and no blood.

No Barky today, so I got to talk with Lucy dad. He has something called respiratory bronchiolitis-associated interstitial lung disease.
I think he is going to have to quit smoking. The doctor told him if he doesn’t quit smoking, he has about five years. I told him his dog is only five years old, so he has to live longer than that because who is going to take care of his dog?
Priorities.

Thanks for asking about my mother Sunny.
She is okay. She had a port put in yesterday and chemo starts Wednesday.
Her spirits are good, but she is very thin and frail, and has trouble walking.
She isn’t eating well. When I was there Monday, we ordered lunch/dinner from a sub shop. She ate one fourth of a club sandwich. Nothing else.
It’s weird to me to see her with grey hair. My mother has always been a bit vain, and she has had red hair for as long as I can remember. I guess with the chemo, she soon won’t have any.
She’s worried about the chemo, afraid of getting sick. I told her to get it, see what happens. If it’s too much, then stop. It’s not like she can’t change her mind.
Honestly, I’m not sure it is going to be worth it. I talked with my doctor about it Monday, and while he is not her doctor, and knows nothing about her specifically, he says the prognosis is never good for pancreatic cancer. It’s what I’ve heard from other medical professionals I know.
But you never know.
So weird that she has it though. She doesn’t smoke, never was a heavy drinker, no diabetes, never overweight, eats healthy, none of the bad behaviors that can lead to pancreatic cancer.

I have to figure out a Mother’s Day gift. I usually get her something edible since the last thing her house needs is more stuff in it. She doesn’t feel like eating, and she is not fond of sweet stuff right now.
Never mind that, da jungle has a whole category of stuff for chemo patients. I got her some lotions, ginger tummydrops, therapy socks, a religious adult coloring book, and some colored pencils.

I just had to ask for a refund from da jungle. I ordered some cat treats and it was supposed to be a 10 pack. I got one pack. I don’t have to send it back.

Swampy, I thought your post said we drank out OF the cement pond. Kind of yukky.
Sorry you didn’t inherit the decorator gene. Gay men who do have the best of both worlds, they know how to decorate and have the strength to do it too.

Happy Birthday Nelson. Attilia, and Beamer.
Happy Anniversary Sunny.

Happy Healing Beamette, and Overlyboy

I wouldn’t know what to say either FCM. My father was always good at that kind of stuff, always knew what to say, always attended funerals, always visited people in the hospital. Always knew when to give a hug, or hold a hand, or just be there.
I didn’t inherit that gene.

I have to find a new PCP.
I canceled my insurance through the state.
Now I have to look at Medigap plans, I guess, I think, I have no idea.

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Try looking up your state health insurance program here:

They are free (your tax dollars at work) and can demystify the process. I have used their navigators several times when I was at a decision juncture with the ADA and then Medicare.

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Back home again. The less said about the homily, the better, except for one word - tangents. OMG, that priest kept going off on tangents.

It was a well-attended memorial. My niece delivered a really sweet eulogy for her brother. She had my mom stand with her to help her get thru it. There was lots of love in her words.

As a very lapsed Catholic, I noticed a lot of changes in the words used in the Mass since I last attended one (my aunt’s funeral, I think.) I also felt really uncomfortable there - kinda weird considering it was such a big part of my upbringing, but there are too many things about the church that I just can’t accept, hence being lapsed.

After the Mass, we all went to an Italian restaurant where my brother had arranged for a buffet and open bar for about 90 people - my sister and BIL had enough to deal with. We talked with some people, and my niece handed out Fireball miniatures labeled “A Shot for Shawn.” Since we had a long drive home, we were among the first to leave.

There was a lot of hugging and not many words. My sister and I weren’t ever particularly close - I’m 7 years older and I left home when she was 12 - but I really ached for her. And I think today is the first time I hugged my BIL - it’s all been especially hard on him.

So now they get on with the rest of their lives.

Oh, one charming thing. When my sister and BIL talked to Shawn’s landlord about emptying the apartment, that jerk said “Well, we usually require 30 days notice…” Seriously, dude?? He didn’t even cut them any slack - if they hadn’t gotten everything out by today, he’d have charged them for another month’s rent. So much for human compassion.

Anyway, home, tahred, burned out. Glad it’s behind me.

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FCM, not all landlords are like that, but I’m sorry the one you dealt with is a jerk. It’s the same thing with used car dealers. That’s generous what your brother did, with the restaurant. And the shots afterward. I wonder if people would understand that instead of a luncheon I think it would be cool to have chocolate covered strawberries and champagne after my funeral.

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I’d understand, smiling in between mouthfuls.

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At least I’m not dusting :wink:

If she does start to lose her hair, please let me know. I would like to make her a hat (knit or crochet) and send it. I can even make it red if she likes.

Moommm It sounds like a long and emotionally draining day. I’m glad you’re home, safe and sound. Did they determine what happened to your nephew?

It occurs to me that it’s just been a long and brutal few years for the MMP (and the world). We lost Herbs, and Rosie, and Ruble, and all sorts of people attached to all of us. This week’s title applies to this year I think. I hope things get better from here.

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I thought Mrs. L.A. was going to have leftover tempura, but she had yoghurt instead. I’ve just finished a salad with Romaine lettuce, leftover rib-eye steak, hard-boiled egg, kalamata olives, feta cheese, blue cheese dressing, and ground black pepper.

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Happy birthday Atilla!

jane the cane, I know Nelson’s birthday because he was born at my sister’s house. She had one unneutered boy in her tribe when she inherited two young, unspayed female littermates when her SIL passed. Before she could get everybody rounded up for a trip to the vet, she found out she was expecting not one, but two litters. :open_mouth: :open_mouth: As I was looking for a small dog through local rescues, she called to see if I was open to a puppy. The rest is history. She actually kept one of Nelson’s brother / cousins, Pugsley.

Mooooooom, hugs to your and yours for getting through a rough day. When I’ve been in the situation like this, I responded with a hug and told my cousin Mike that I didn’t know words for this, but I was there if he needed a shoulder.

Happy birthday to Beamer and happy anniversary to you and your husband sunny.

SIL and I went on a ramble today that was fun. We sat with the statue (pics on FB), got some most excellent ice cream, went to Grinder’s Switch Winery (wine too sweet and too expensive for the type. Likely, it was set up to circumvent local liquor laws), got off on a gravel road to visit an historic cemetery and had a wonderful visit. Nelson was overjoyed to see me when I got home though. :slight_smile:

Stay safe and healthy y’all!

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I think the entire 202x decade is hopelessly defective and needs to be returned for full refund, then killed with fire.

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According to my mom, they probably won’t get the coroner’s report for 2 or 3 more weeks. Since it wasn’t foul play, I assume it’s lower priority than other reports.

Time for sleep, I think.

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Holy bazongas, what a day. We ran out of … well, nearly everything, by 7 p.m. or so. Which meant a lot of pissy/disappointed people. Plus … okay, look, I had to explain Murphy’s Law to one of the teens. It was just that kind of a day.

There was one single lovely spot: guy mid afternoon ordered a couple of sliders, then at the window, asked for two more.
Normally, please don’t change/order more shit AT the window but the guy told me he just saw someone nearby who looked hungry, and that he wanted to treat him.

Well, that kind of thing instantly changes me.

No longer a bitch about the extra order … now, I haz a mission.
I can help someone help somebody else.

I live for this.

Charged him for one more instead of two, and set up the second bag with as much sauce, napkins, plasticware (forks/spoons/knives) etc. as I could stuff in. Best “survival kit” I could shove together. Gave the guy several coupons for free sammiches, and when he said he’d give them all to the homeless dude, I handed him a couple more. “These are for YOU for being such a good Samaritan today.”

Now it’s pouring and the thunder-boomers are a-thunderin’ here.

Those who don’t understand, shouldn’t be attending your memorial anyway.

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{{{all y’all}}}

My day was supposed to be mow the lawn, then paint some of the house, but it didn’t get to work outside temps until noon. I ended up fixing the hole where the damn squirrels chewed through the eave into the house, much up and down ladders. Then I painted about half the south side of the house. Seems I’m mostly recovered from the bug. But I am whooped.

shoe Good on you! And the samaritan.

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I was prowling some old threads (yeah, I’m THAT bored) and noticed that @peedin is about to enter their final week of irk before retirement as of Friday.

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purplehorseshoe, I need to find out my congregation’s policy in regards to recreational alcohol in the reception room. Some congregations are cool with that, some aren’t. When my parents had their 50th and 60th anniversary celebrations, they had to arrange special permission to have the one bottle of champagne that they toasted with.

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But I wanna understand!!

shoe, you helped somebody do good…that makes you an accomplice of goodness… :smiley:

FCM, tough time anyone dies, glad you made it though the service (haven’t been to a Catholic Mass in 30 years).

Apropos of nothing, what do you want to bet someone added the word “Assistance” to it given the abbreviation for 'State Health Insurance Programs would be…

Sari, best wishes for your Mom.

Napped a bit this evening and scrounged some edibles around 8pm, so will probably stay up late before heading to bed. Probably took too much sun again, even with cloudy skies, so bathing will be painful later on.

All y’all have a good night.

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Back when I worked for the food stamp office, I lived to give homeless people food. Knowing that you have made a difference in someone’s life, even if it is just one meal is a wonderful feeling.

I haz a sad tonight. Mom and I are planning to go to a needlework thing in July and I made room reservations at the resort back in March. Today Mom got a call from one of the convention organizers saying that she was going to have to pay more money for the convention because she wasn’t booked at the resort.

Mom panicked and called the resort and spent an hour with a nice CSR (or whatever they are called) trying to get reservations for a convention week in a sold out resort. She was very proud that they managed to achieve this at a much higher cost than the rooms I booked, plus we would be moving three times because the rooms were different types.

Thankfully she didn’t pay for the rooms and she can cancel up to 24 hours before show time, so we won’t get dinged for them.

I tried calling the resort and telling them what was going on but of course they wouldn’t let me cancel someone else’s reservations no matter what sob story I had. This is very understandable, but I know that there are other folks who would like to attend the convention and won’t be able to get rooms because Mom won’t remember to cancel them until she is here so I can nag her.

I love her so much, this is so sad.

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Yep, 5 more days. What a long strange trip the last 41 years of medical librarianship has been. But I’m ready to hang up my cardigan, orthopedic shoes, and glasses on a chain.

I’m a she in case anybody cares.

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Sorry about that, gets tricky with as a big a cast of characters as the MMP has, if your screen name doesn’t hint at gender. :slight_smile: