[RIGHT]Casual Sex is like a meal at a fast food restaurant. It’s not as desirable, good or enriching as a five course meal at a classy restaurant - but it’s better than going hungry.
(Well, I’m in my late 30’s - so let me amend that to a 3 course meal)[/RIGHT]
Y’know, thinking about it a little… it would seem, to me , that if there is the degree of responsibility, trust and communication that many have mentioned about their “fuckbuddies”, that makes it really not that “casual” after all. It’s not monogamous commitment, and it may not be capital-L quasi-religious-experience “Luuuvve”, but it’s not “fast food” either (more like the family-owned corner diner).
I am envious of those that seem to be having casual sex. But, in my heart of hearts, I know I could never do it. I mean, even if I weren’t already happily married.
Kind of a fanatasy versus reality thing. While it might be fun to imagine having casual sex, I don’t think I’d be able to er,um,ah… perform… if the person meant nothing to me.
Maybe I’m just too old. Or not quite old enough. I “came of age” in the mid to late 70’s, in the midwest. So I guess I missed the free love hippie generation as well as the hedonistic ‘me’ generation.
Like I said though, I am kinda envious of those that are engaging in what they think is casual sex. But at the same time, my reaction is also…What’s the difference between casual sex and mutual masturbation? With STD’s and pregnancies and all, there absolutely has to be protection! But, it’s just 2 people getting off, coincidentally at the same time. Reminds me of a John Prine song, was that “Donald and Lydia” ? Lydia was in the title somewhere. sigh a mind is a terrible thing to lose sigh 
I can’t speak to how different a hand job/blow job vs. sex is for men, but for women – at least, this woman – there is no substitute for a penis. Orgasms are great, and the non-penetration stuff is definitely very nice, but I always always always want the penetration. No vibrator or dildo can ever feel like the real thing, or move like the owner of one – even an owner who’s not that great in bed. 
How does using a condom/birth control equal mutual masturbation?
And…? What’s wrong with “just” getting off? You may not be able to have sex for sex’s sake, but that doesn’t mean no one else can. 
Well, that certainly gives a whole bunch of us much needed reassurance/hope…
I think he just constructed the paragraph haphazardly. I think he means that to him, with all the precautions involved in responsible sex, there had better be some sort of emotional investment.
Yes.
It depends on the person, and what their reasons are. For example, if they do it because they don’t know any other way of being intimate, then yes, I might think less of them, or feel sorry for them. But if they do it because they are in a place where that is all they want (i.e., just broken off a long relationship; more interested in the sex than the commitment; etc.) then I wouldn’t think less of them at all.
Not with me.
Not at all. Casual sex is NOT for everyone.
Define “worse.” I have found some casual encounters to be far more satisfying and less complicated than some with romantic partners. But often, I get more emotional satisfaction from romantic partners than with casual encounters. But it really depends what you mean by worse.
Condoms, yes, but if you’re having casual sex, please avoid spermicides if at all possible, as frequent use of nonoxynol-9 can induce lesions and ulcerations to genital mucosa, thereby increasing the probability of transmitting infectious agents.
After my first week at Planned Parenthood, I decided that I will never be single again, as I can never have sex with anyone else for the rest of my life 
Ignorance is bliss… 
pretend the hyperlinked bit is also in a quote box, please.
Casual sex: I’ve never really done it, but I don’t judge others who have. If my friends have confided in me about it, I’ve just asked them to be careful and enjoy themselves.
It’s just not something I can do.
Stuff you really didn’t want to know:
I was conceived in what was definitely not a serious relationship. More of a one-off. My mother didn’t tell my father about me, so he wouldn’t try to marry her. She really didn’t like him. Then she raised me in a religiously conservative environment.
After all that, while the idea of casual sex in theory may have some fantasy appeal, the idea of actually doing it, in reality, gives me the wiggin’s somethin’ fierce.
Don’t worry I won’t take that approach… I hate “possesive” atitudes even within regular relationships. Naturally it wouldn’t be easy seeing her with someone else… but its her choice and its not my business of course.
The funny thing is your mentioning immature ones… I certainly am immature in a lot of things except this. I hope women aren’t avoiding me due to that ! hehe
This other stuff would mean more comitment and less casual no ? Isn’t that worse ? I think I’m misreading something…
:smack: I’m sorry - I misread your post. For some reason, I was thinking you wanted to make it more serious, but perhaps she didn’t. Forget anything I said in my last post. You’re right - that would imply it was more serious.
I’d just say that you should talk about it. It’s kind of an awkward conversation, but it could certainly be worthwhile so you both know where you stand. Make sure both of you are into making this just an occasional, no-strings thing instead of a longer-term relationship. That’s what I did and it worked out quite well, though I guess it’s easier for a girl to ask that of a guy than vice-versa.
Sorry 'bout the misunderstanding. Just goes to show I shouldn’t be posting when I’m trying to cut back on caffeine.
Not immoral - as long as both parties share the perspective of the import of the encounter.
I think that the right casual encounter can be as mindblowing and fulfilling as the right sex in a relationship. It’s great to have dinner with your love thang, but it’s great to have dinner with a sparkling, witty, personable individual you just met, too.
Your post was so much the opposite… that I figured you’d mixed stuff up !! Well I guess I should avoid outside the bed activities in order to keep it casual ?
You might have wanted to use another conjunction there…
I’m not opposed to casual sex, it’s just never worked out for me and I’d prefer a romantic connection.