Could you boink someone you don't particularly like?

I’m a man. No I couldn’t. I have to like them at least a little bit, usually have to really like them before I’ll even consider it.

Sexual proclivities aside, you didn’t answer the OP: what if you didn’t like the rattlesnake?
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Judge Posner would likely approve of your economic utility analysis.

At 45 I seem to be moving in the opposite direction. 15 years ago I wouldn’t have boinked anyone outside of a relationship I considered meaningful. At this stage I’m pretty sure I am not very good at relationships, but I’d kinda like to get busy. I don’t think it could be someone I actively disliked, but I could overlook a lot of things if I wasn’t expecting to see the guy again.

As a guy, my standards can be as low as “would having sex with this woman be better than masturbating?”

And there are actually instances where the answer is “no”. :smiley:

If I was single and the guy was hot, sure.

No.
But if I would, I wouldn’t bring my “A Game.”
And I’d make her be on top and do all the work.
But no.

It’s straight-up sex, see? I know what I want out of a lover now. So if I end up in bed with someone I don’t like, I highly doubt they will be good lovers, since I doubt they will take my needs/wants/desires into consideration much. Or I may not be comfortable around them.

I’ve learned that hotness means jackshit when it comes to sexual prowess. Not that hot people can’t be good in bed, just that hot or not is no guarantee.