Suggested by a remark in elanorigby’s current Star Trek thread, which is not otherwise germane.
Assume, for the sake of this discussion, that you are single and free to sleep with whomever you choose, that the woman is likewise. Also assume that she is as hot as Michelle Marsh or Zoe Saldana or whoever the hell lights your fire, and that she is willing to sleep with you, disease free, and guaranteed infertifle, and is known to be the best giver of blow jobs east of the Pecos. How much emotional antipathy must you feel before you say, “You know, I’m not fucking her except with someone else’s dick. And maybe not even then.” ?
Here’s some options:
Neutral feelings. You don’t like her and have nothing in common with her, and you can’t imagine having a conversation with her because you’d be so freaking bored.
She’s a Celtics (C.S. Lewis, Star Trek, Mozart) fan and you’re a Lakers (Philip Pullman, Space 1999, Beethoven) fan, and every time the two of you are in a the same room you get into an argument.
She once publically humiliated your favorite sister for the fun of it and still makes jokes about it.
She killed your dog.
What level does it take for you to keep your pants zipped in perpetuity in her proximity?
Folks go on and on about Britney Spears (or at least used to in the recent past). Every time she opens her mouth my “guy” shrinks like a frightened turtle.
No thanks.
But to be fair to Britney, if I had such intense media attention at those ages, I would probably come off as Forrest Gumps dumber, more irritating cousin.
Unlike billish, I’d do Britney. As long as she has hair on her head.
As for the OP, 3 is definately a no sex situation. 4 Could be also. If she intentionally killed a pet of mine, I’d hope she’s in jail or something for being psychotic. If she’s not, no sex anyways. If it was accidental and she was hot, perhaps we could find a way for her to console me. Actually, she doesn’t need to be hot, just middle of the road.
1 And 2 are no big deal to me.
If she’s not a conversationalist, what else do we have to do together besides have sex?
Situation 2 might lead to a lot of hot make-up type sex. You know the kind, lots of yelling and raised voices and raised blood pressure. That blood has to go somewhere amiright?
If you can’t tell, I’m definately a male in my 20s.
1&2 are no problem. Let’s make with the chika chika bow wow.
3&4 are not present problems, as I have no sisters or dogs. Extrapolating the scenario to include intentional harm to someone/thing I like, and there will be no chika chika bow wow for her.
3 & 4 are just examples, of course. I mean, I’d never be nice to someone who was cruel to any of my sisters, but if you want to get on my good side, do something to my oldest brother.
billfish, I could do Britney as long as it were agreed that there would be no talking during or afterwards–in fact, no talking as soon as she agreed to those terms. Of course, I’m sure she’d reply, “Sure! I have a similar condition about turning all the lights off!”
If she’s really really mean (not just dog-killer mean, but merely hyper-critical and mean-spirited, which is in the #3 neighborhood), that’s likely a deal-breaker, since that side might emerge in the heat of the moment–and who needs that?
Really really dumb–in the short term–is easy enough to ignore.
Which is worse, 3 or 4, is probably worth its own thread.
But, to the op: I wouldn’t think there could be such a situation, for the woman described, except I know better. I once worked with a beautiful woman. Beautiful as far as a check list goes, or just saw her walking down the street, but after working with her, I don’t I could have gotten it up with her for the best bj this side of the Pecos. (Actually, I’m not sure which side of the Pecos I’m on, other than the north side.) She was incompetent, lazy, and interested only in appearing as competent as possible. Everyone got tired of her $hit, and I don’t think any of us would have “done that”, even though I don’t think any of us really hated her.
So put me down for mild antipathy when combined with repeated exposure.
I once went to a party where I struck up a conversation with this hot girl. Towards the end of the evening, and after a few drinks on her part, she started telling me how the spics and the wetbacks and the sand niggers and so on and so on, were all ruining the country and how they should all go back to where they came from etc, etc.
I’m Puerto Rican but look caucasian. I hated myself in the morning for it but you better believe I rocked her world that night. So, to answer the OP, as long as she’s willing to throw down with me I’m always game.
Well, back in the bad old days I sometimes slept with white girl who were willing because they wanted to anger their fathers or boyfriends, and fucking a nigger was the best way, so I can get that.
Answering my own question, I wouln’t sleep with someone who had been cruel to my baby sister, as I reserve the right to murder that person later and don’t wish to leave forensic evidence.
Under those conditions (no strings attached, no chance of disease or procreation, super hot female) dislike or even outright hate would never even come into the equation. Hell not having to be nice might just make it more enjoyable.
Crazy is the only quality that would really cause me to take sex fully off the table. Killing pets or getting kicks by demeaning other people could be varying levels of crazy or mean but I would still have to investigate for my self.
Question (and apologies if I’m breaking up the bro-fest):
Do guys ever feel like they don’t want to have sex with a willing woman because she’s too attractive?
Because I personally don’t think I’d feel comfortable having sex with a guy who was a couple standard deviations beyond my attractiveness level. If the offer was on the table, I don’t know if I’d go through with it.
There is no such thing as too attractive. Not just to males, but in general. I am having trouble even understanding the concept of someone potentially being too attractive.
