Hey Incubus, I’ll take the fat chicks you don’t want (seriously, I like big woman!)
For my list, let’s see…
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Busybodies/gossipmongers
Anyone who watches trashy talk shows
Country music fans
Rap music fans
Anyone who doesn’t like cats (I’m a cat lover, obviously)
Alcoholics (moderate drinkers are okay, although I don’t drink myself)
Drug users
Heavy smokers
Anyone who is overzealously fanatical[sup]*[/sup] about religion, politics, abortion, the environment, animal rights, etc.
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[sup]*[/sup] I have my own opinions on these topics, too, but I respectfully remain silent on them and don’t get in the faces of people whose opinions differ from mine. I’m not one to go out and attend rallies/protests, plaster bumper stickers all over my car to promote my side of these issues, etc.
Let’s not restrict ourselves to dating – a dealbreaker for me on a potential employer is someone who does drug testing. I don’t do drugs – hell, I don’t drink or smoke – but I don’t consider what I do on my own time my employer’s business. (I in fact once turned down a job based on this.) If somewhat screws up on the job or shows up loaded, that’s one thing, but smoking a jay on Saturday night ain’t nobody’s business.
Moderator’s Notes:
Can we cheese it with the debate over the merits and historicity of hunting? Way too far off-topic to be continued here—it’s so far off-topic, it’s off-forum.
A Republican
A Libertarian.
A hunter (I agree with Opal - if you get your kicks killing animals, not my business, but don’t expect me to want to spend a lot of time with you.)
A bigot
A fundamentalist of any religion. Not that they would want to date me anyway, probably.
I would never buy a car:
With two doors. I HATE two-door cars.
Painted red or white. I just don’t like 'em.
I wouldn’t work at a job that required me to carry a cell phone or a beeper, or that had me working more than 40 hours a week.
I wouldn’t use a mouse without a mousewheel.
I require my comic books to be self-contained. No crossing over with other books.
I’m a vegetarian and an animal lover and the idea that someone would enjoy killing animals is repellant to me. I’m sorry if that offends you but it goes against something that I feel very strongly about. It isn’t a matter of whether they have a skill, it is that they find pleasure in killing.
As for the Christian thing, let’s call it emotional scarring from my upbringing, and the fact that I’m pagan would make me feel very nervous about working in a place where someone felt the need to display their Christianity. (I don’t care if they are Christians, mind you–that doesn’t bother me. It’s the display that would scare me.)
In any case, I fail to see how my personal preferences could offend you so badly.
I apologize to Opalcat and UncleBeer. My opinions about people who are anti-hunter were not germane to this thread and should not have been aired in the thread.
BTW Opalcat I am an atheist. I could really care less about peoples religious likes and dis-likes. it was the hunting angle my response was referring to.
I would never date a man who:
-posted on the SDMB under the username “maxthevool”
Oh, no, wait, that’s not my dealbreaker, it’s the dealbreaker of every woman in the damn country
Seriously, I would never date a woman who:
-was dumb
-was so physically unattractive that I couldn’t get past it
-was evil
-didn’t share a common language with me
-was over 40 or under 18 (I’m 28)
There are lots of other things that would strongly dissuade me, but those are the only three I can think of that would be absolute vetoes.
Wait a few more years, Max, and those over-40s’ll start looking better.
A funny thing, that I suspect most posters here probably really know, is that in romantic dealings a list of dealbreakers can easily go right out the window. I spent many years in a relationship with a non-drinking, non-smoking, politically liberal Catholic, who did in fact deck me once. That description could easily be my dealbreaker list, and those are certainly not things I seek in a woman.
But all of the above had almost no negative effects on our relationship, and have nothing to do with why we’re no longer a couple. Now that I think about it, when I met her I drove a Chevy with big fat tires and a UT Longhorn sticker in the rear window. In her circles, I was initially percieved as a Steve Dallas sort.
I’ve also spent a few years with a woman who liked to fight and carried a gun, all of the time except for occasional periods when it was lost. And a few more years were spent with an IV drug-user - that seemed like martian behavior to me.
So, as my dating dealbreaker list comes together, I find I am unable to even begin to guess with whom I’ll hookup next, but I suppose there’s half a chance she’ll be a non-drinking, non-smoking, politically liberal Catholic who likes to fight, carries a gun and shoots up.