Dear Answer Lady (or Man),
My boyfriend is a selfish, affectionless, mean, cold, humorless, lazy, depressed, thoughtless, self-absorbed jerk with no hobbies or interests except sleeping and talking to idiots on AOL.
Should I stay with him?
L
P.S. He hasn’t had a job for almost 2 years and he never kisses me. Thanks.
I say give him the keys to the street.
Kick him to the curb. He can join both of my ex-husbands.
Robin
If all of the above is true, one would have to wonder why you would stay with him.
Do your ex-husbands like to hang out with idiots?
Thanks Answer Lady!
CADOp, the answer to that is usually, “But I LOOOOVE him!” What exactly makes the person lovable has yet to be determined.
Another vote for losing the bum.
Eh, I’m not saying she’s stupid; I understand how someone can get caught up in that kind of situation. But seriously, if you’ve gotten to the point where you can ask that question, then the answer is no, you’re better off alone. Don’t let the time that you’ve already invested in the relationship chain you to a situation that you know is bad. If he hasn’t changed in the (at least) 2 years that you’ve apparently known him, it’s not realistic to expect that he’s going to change now.
So I’m the only person who assumed that the OP was being sarcastic?
I was being sarcastic. But I know that’s difficult to pick up in text. Maybe I should have used the roll eyes smiley.
Anyway, I still find people’s comments interesting and useful. Even if only for
(im)moral support purposes. Sarcasm or not.
Heh, I kind of figured you were being tongue-in-cheek, but I wasn’t going to laugh at you without knowing for sure. When I was in high school my mother taught parenting and child development at another area high school. Believe me when I say I’ve heard someone ask a question just like that in total seriousness.
I assumed he had a big dong.
Ha! That cracked me up! It totally explains my subconscious reasons for staying! Even I didn’t know what my motives were until you explained them to me. Thank you. Thank you answer lady!
L
Look, my dong may not be as monstrormous as his, but that’s no reason to call me a lady!
When I hear something like this, I always wonder how the person got into the relationship in the first place. Did this guy change, or are you attracted to “selfish, affectionless, mean, cold, humorless, lazy, depressed, thoughtless, self-absorbed jerk with no hobbies or interests except sleeping and talking to idiots on AOL”?
It could be that the guy is terminally depressed because of the out-of-a-job situation. Which would account for the mean, cold, humorless, etc… It doesn’t mean you have to cut him tons of slack (how someone behaves in adversity is as good a criteria for dating as any other), but it would help in understanding how and why you got where you are.
I woulda been less certain about the validity of the complaint if it’d followed what seems to be the pattern for such questions.
That is, if it’d said, “My boyfriend is [enumerates bad qualities], but I’ve loved him since high school/ we have a child together/ I don’t believe in divorce”, etc., I may’ve thought that the OP really was asking for advice.