This is why I don’t bother give Rik advice.
Anyone want to make a bet on how long until we see a new thread from Rik saying "Help! My ex-wife stole my identity and I’m super-deep in debt all of a sudden! If only I’d known I could have prevented this! It was completely unforeseeable though! 
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I’m guessing 3 months. Anyone else in?
You need to remember that the universe you put your words out into when you’re thinking through them is a message board read by hundreds of members, maybe more. They’ve had a diverse range of experiences and if you post enough you’re going to find another person who’s been in that situation and will want to comment. We’ve been wildly sympathetic to your problems, big and small, over the years. The frustration sets in, and a pile-on can ensue, when you complain about the same or worsening problem you ignored our suggestions to resolve. I suspect your sister has similar conversations w/ you.
I don’t wish you ill, nor do I think anyone who’s posted in this thread likely does.
Here’s the link to WA state’s forms for various marriage dissolution steps. The sooner you file, the better or else the judge may kick it back and tell you to file for divorce instead the more time has passed.
It won’t be his fault, though, the US Wildlife Service should have told him, dammit. What are other people for if not take responsibility for his life?
That’s FISH and Wildlife, thanks very much.
But they work with gulls, right?
Only gulls from the sea, not gulls from the bay. You know, bay gulls.
Is it true that bay gulls, normally prefer salmon?
You still haven’t added any insights into Stephen King’s IT.
:mad:
How about the quintessential Lawn and Walmart Parking Lot gulls?
Get a whole lot of gone between you and her. And get yourself into AA or something similar. Until that happens, your life is going to suck diseased yak wang.
Oh I get that one for sure. I lurked since 2001 and joined in 2005. I got hit in the head and I didn’t post for quite some time because I noticed that the clarity of my posts was not the same, I dunno why. Anyway I’m glad you seem to be on the right track. I hope it works out for you bro. This kinda shit is always of the storm variety.
This needs to be repeated, in case **Rik **missed it. THIS IS IMPORTANT.
“I have no credit”. This is a silly, meaningless statement. Everyone has credit - good, bad or middling. What you mean is " I owe no money and have no credit cards at the moment."
Well guess what? She’ll get credit cards in your name, spend money and screw up your credit again. Back to your 20’s . Another decade to get out of debt. She sounds like a pro at identity theft.
Okay, I am not trying to be nasty, but this is not a personal blog, nor is the Dope a substitute for therapy. If you’re having these kinds of serious issues, it sounds like you might need to see a professional.
Perhaps you should stop and think that maybe, just maybe,“if a whole bunch of people” are doing so, there just might be a reason for it. Sometimes, people need to be harsh to get the message through, you know? 
Good luck, dude. And get thee into AA, or some kind of rehab.
Rik, I think it mostly boils down to one issue. Does your wife *want *to improve or not? (I’m not advocating divorce.)
Another lurker here. Been reading Rik’s posts for quite a while, though I haven’t given advice (mostly because wiser folks than I already had).
Well, I had a dream last night. I was part of a group trying to talk sense into Rik (who was sitting at the next table in a random high school cafeteria, for some reason).
But he wouldn’t listen because he was drunk.
So, yeah, I guess his story has affected me. And a lot of other internet acquaintances.
I’d suggest actually closing the account and opening up a different one - ideally with another bank - NOT just another branch of the same bank. Yes, it’s a hassle, but: if she’s been removed from the account, I could see her going to a branch, trying to access it, and managing to convince someone that the removal was in error.
Talk to a lawyer about your income tax liability for this year. I doubt an annulment or divorce would take effect prior to January 1, which means the IRS would most likely consider you two married, which affects how you file your tax returns. I’d imagine you’d file married / separately - for most people, a bad idea, but in your case I’d guess it’s the right thing to do.
I have no clue whether an annulment is any different than a divorce, when dealing with all the various legalities. Maybe the annulment could happen faster (if your state has waiting periods before a divorce can be finalized).
Nobody can know but her whether she wants to improve - everyone else would just have to rely instead on her saying she wants to improve.
Given everything Rik has posted in this thread, especially the more recent posts, if she said she wanted to improve, anyone who believed her would be a gullible idiot, and would just become the victim of the next wave of fraud and trouble.
My “I have no credit” meant, specifically, that I have, on at least three occasions in the last five years, applied for credit cards (all before I met my wife), and was turned down for a specific reason: I have no recent credit history. Given that I have not done anything to build a credit history since the last time I was turned down, I’m reasonably confident that any attempts, valid or not, will get the same result.
That said …
Holy fuck, my wife was right. She had her day in court in the other county, and she was released, and she will be home tomorrow. Godammit.
This makes perfect sense to me and I encourage you to keep doing it if it helps.
That doesn’t matter, you should still check – better safe than sorry. To be blunt, just blindly trusting is what got you into this mess in the first place.