I wonder how many more people are going to post some variant of “you’re way way overreacting” before it is understood that this person has absolutely zero intention of changing her mind based on facts, or any kind of appeal to her apparently nonexistent parental goodness.
Face it guys, she wants to cut her kids out of her life and she’s going to.
Let’s go do something else.
What?
A 14- and 16-year old have to dip into their savings to finance $10 weed per week?
But seriously:
Do you have a (former) pothead* friend/acquintance you can talk to to get some perspective?
(*Look for higher education: odds are 50/50. Colleges and Universities are like Sodom and Gomorra:) )
My “pothead” friends all grew out of it at some point, they all hold nice positions. Some pot/weed when you’re a teenager isn’t really a predictor for the future; one way or the other. Alcohol and tobacco are much harder to “grow out of”.
Interesting. Do you have a hypothesis why you feel this way?
That’s comparable to my experience. No addiction in my blood family, but my husband’s mother was a raging alcoholic when the kids were in high school. She’d been “recovering” for several years when I met her, and hasn’t had booze in decades, now. But husband and his sister learned to cook early on, because otherwise they didn’t eat. His sister had some drug issues, and his brother had some major drug issues. Both clean, now. His father and uncle were also alcoholics, although the father (who abandoned the family) cleaned himself up. His uncle died a drunk – it was one of his greatest pleasures, I think. His paternal grandmother suffered the DTs when she was hospitalized for something else, because she lied, and didn’t warn them how much she drank.
My husband, oddly enough, is fine with my light drinking, and isn’t worried about whether the kids use drugs. Nor am I. (Well, I’d be concerned if they used hard drugs.)
It’s pretty weird to view “prison” as the “natural consequence” of pot use. It’s been legalized in my state. It was pretty rare for someone to be incarcerated for pot even before that. Especially white, middle class teens…
Hey! That’s just rude.
We has good edumacations here abouts. I can cipher and even read a book/w pictures.
(17 new weed dispensaries, as well)
Arkansas: the Land of Opportunity.
(emphasis added) There are so many things wrong with just this one post.
And more importantly:
If Declanium were my mom, I’d have to be bombed 24/7.
Wait, new info! I read him the stuff I said about him in this thread over dinner. He said that he had actually smoked less than a half a dozen times, more like 3 or 4, not counting the gummy bear incident. He was just rounding up. THEN I turned my head for a moment and turned back to discover he was eating my cauliflower right off my plate! :mad:
You’ve been vindicated. Marijuana did indeed turn my perfect child into a liar and a thief.
He’s stealing cauliflower, so not just a thief, but some sort of deviant, as well.
The Cauliflower Thief. Next year’s indie darling.
Just a guess, but I’m thinking she kray.
I’m joining Ulfreida anywhere else.
She even done gradumated from the 6th grade! 
Make that 7th grade.
Jethro ain’t got nothing on me!
(:))
Are you a double naught spy?
Fucking amateur. Hit up a Narc-Anon meeting sometime (a support group for friends and family of those with drug issues) and listen to some stories. Talk to the mom whose kid had a $200 a DAY pill habit and has OD’ed four times now but is somehow still alive. Talk to parents of kids who didn’t get that lucky. Talk to parents whose kids robbed them blind for dope money. Talk to the dad who found his son’s dead body. Then tell your story. You probably won’t be laughed out of the room, but guaranteed it’ll be a topic of conversation after the meeting breaks up. There are people who would give everything they’ve got to have your fucking problems.
You’re not getting it, expectopatronum.
That’s EXACTLY what I don’t want in my future.
It’s why the emotional distancing is starting now.
Based on what you’ve told us, there is zero indication that’s in either one of their futures. You are fucking warped.
That’s understandable.
And that’s the best way to ensure it happens.
Would you be saying all this if you caught them drinking a beer?
Caught drinking one beer?
As opposed to 10 months of smoking once a week or more?
Yes to the beer
Ok, this clinches it. Its an act.