I’m not looking for a sweeping generalisation given the complexity of the topic, I’ll be happy with a non-negligible tendency one way or the other.
How many (straight) husbands can (honestly) claim their wife is the most attractive woman they’ve dated? over 50%? Under?
Does anyone have a clue? I sure don’t.
ps: You might want to avoid posting in this thread if your wife reads the SDMB 
Do men usually marry their tallest girlfriend?
Do men usually marry their smartest girlfriend?
Do men usually marry their richest girlfriend?
Do you understand how stupid all these questions are?
Over 50% will claim it.
Under 50% will be honest.
In the wise words of Jimmy Soul…
Sounds like that saying, “it’s always in the last place you look.” (Of course it is … because if you keep looking after you find it, there’s something wrong with you…)
It’s true for me, IMO, but observing some other people I know, I’d have to say it doesn’t always hold. The men dated other, more attractive women than their wives-to-be, but those women also tended to be crazier than their wives, and so things didn’t work out.
Men generally marry the first woman who says “yes”.
Me.
However the number of women I have ever dated is 2. And it’s not really so clear that I ever did date the one that ended up being my wife.
-FrL-
Is the classically beautiful, incredibly sexy, nasty spoiled bitch attractive? Yes? No? What about the person you love? Myself, the most attractive person to me is the person I love - who I recognize is not classically beautiful.
And of course, just because you didn’t marry the perfect woman doesn’t mean you didn’t want to - sometimes it’s not all up to the man alone. If I was married to person I want to be (I’m currently single), I think she’d be in a fairly close contest for beauty with the other two women in the contest. (They’re all pretty plain.)
I think my brother figured this one out a long time ago.
A lot of men, he said, reach an age in life where they figure they ought to be married. Maybe their friends are all married, or maybe their parents are hassling them to give them some grandkids, or maybe they’re tired of the dating scene. Whatever.
And they look at the woman they happen to be dating at that time and go for it.
Well, my dad divorced my mom, who was a knockout, and several years later married a woman who looked and sounded like Olive Oyl.
Wait, those questions are stupid? Oh boy, you are not going to be happy when you hear about some of the questions federally funded social and psychological studies try to answer!
Don’t get me wrong, I am honored to see my thread host your 444th post and I wish you many more, however, it’s not constructive to mock people for asking questions. How am I supposed to know which of my questions are stupid? I am but a humble man seeking wisdom from smarter folks.
If you had read some of my previous posts, you would have realized by now that I clearly am immune to shame, dignity and taste. You would be better off explaining why you think my questions are stupid and possibly converting me to your point of view. I am very influenceable! very!*
*Especially if you are a pretty woman.
When my mother first met my (now) wife, the first thing she said when she got me alone was “she’s very pretty”.
I don’t think she ever called any of my previous girlfriends pretty.
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Sounds like a survey to me. Off to IMHO.
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Well, that’s true for my husband. His ex-fiance was hot, but psycho-jealous, and unfaithful. I’m girl-next-door-looking, but only nuts in ways he can tolerate, and be almost as likely to kill someone as to cheat (and that ain’t likely–I HATE violence.)
Well, in my case, the answer happens to be “yes”.
But that isn’t the *reason *I married her…
I just got lucky
Men generally marry the girlfriend they find most attractive.
And I don’t mean just physically attractive.
I’m really puzzled by the caveat, “do many (straight) husbands” claim they married their most attractive girlfriend… it makes me think, do repressed homosexuals may marry better looking chicks?
But anyway, I’ll just give a shot in the dark. I’d say 15 to 30% of men marry the most attractive woman they’ve dated. The girl I almost married was wonderful in many ways, but to be completely frank, there were a couple of knockouts in there before I found someone I thought I was really compatible with.
There’s an awful lot of crazy hot, crazy crazy women out there.
Yeah, as a believer in the theory that craziness and physical hotness* tend to be correlated, I’d be surprised if guys are that likely to marry their hottest gfs.
Guys are willing to date the crazy hot chick for sex in the short term, but the smart ones don’t want to be legally bound to the crazy chick no matter how hot she is.
*or to be more fair, I guess I tend to expect the extremes of physical attractiveness, either way, to both lead to emotional instability due to being treated in abnormal ways by general society.
(duplicate)
I married my most attractive girlfriend, also the shortest.
Honestly, much of the time we were dating I was wondering why she was going out with me. She was quite a bit better looking than any of my previous girlfriends.
She’s the only one I asked, so I also married the first one to say “yes”.