Sexual tension ( the good kind) starts well before the act. If you are receptive to a partner, you will make the thing possible. For women ( maybe men too ) a hand touch, a kiss good morning can be foreplay. Sweet words ( and jewelry;)) can really go far.
I suppose there have been times where I’ve been sick, and I haven’t bothered trying to make anything happen. But if my wife wanted something to happen, I sure wouldn’t refuse. However the issue has never come up, because when I’m sick I’m apparently sufficiently repulsive that the matter has never been tested.
There are things which factor into my decision about whether I “decide to go for it on a given occasion.” Do we have enough time, for example. Usually, however, it’s my perception of my wife’s likely response. If I think she’s up for it, there aren’t many (any?) things that come to mind that would cause me to forgo a good romp in the hay.
Yes, unless it was quite a serious stomach ache. I’ve had plenty of financial anxiety over the years, and I can confidently state it does not effect my sex drive.
In fairness, that quote is pretty accurate. Terrorist groups would have a hard time recruiting female suicide bombers with a promise of “72 virgin men awaiting them in paradise.”
It’s my understanding that while women may not* consciously* feel hornier, during their time of maximum fertility they tend to seek out the company of men, wear revealing clothing and more jewelry and so on.
Male sexual desire tends to increase the longer they go without sex. Female sexual desire tends to *decrease *the longer they’ve gone without sex.
However, once they have sex men’s sex drive tends to drop drastically, while that of women increases. The more sex women have, the more they want; the more sex men have, the less they want more of it.
This all basically sounds to me like some prehistoric genetic engineer wanted to make men and women to be as frustrating to each other as possible.
And they do. Men sometimes don’t feel like sex because they are ill or anxious or just tired. But for women (warning, generalization), sex is a much more mental process than it is for men, so mental distractions affect them much more (many women can reach orgasm from fantasy alone - its really rare a guy can do that outside the wet dream - your perception of our lack of libido may have something to do with our active sexual fantasy lives reducing the need for physical coitus). And those mental cues for desire or “oh, God, not tonight” are probably FAR more important than what time of the month it is.
All I know is, Mr. Wonderful tries to be around just before menstruation starts, like the day before, because I’ll be looking for him.
The rest of the time could very well be like the OP describes, I’m really not sure, my libido has never been the sole deciding factor in these activities. Sometimes tending to someone else’s libido is a good enough reason.
“My mommy told me that with one of these I can get as many of those as I want.”
Plus, we don’t need a penis to orgasm and even if we like them they may not be the best way to achieve that particular result; the amount of ego-stroking required to make its handle happy can make things really difficult. I should bookmark one of those articles about the amount of women who come much easier by themselves than with their man, next time I see a decent one.
I’m older and my period is more erratic but I can tell when I’m about to start because I start feeling the need to masturbate and I’ll have an occasional sex dream. I’m not the least bit interested in sex; I guess I’d be called “demisexual” if not asexual. I don’t really feel sexual attraction but I do have some physical need to orgasm about three or four times a year. And inevitably a day or two later my period will arrive.
Just a btw: most women’s periods are neither like clockwork nor 7 days long. And a lot of males (I’m including teens) would have more… companionable sex lifes if they didn’t confuse us with some sort of mechanical contraptions.
I notice you aren’t asking Der Trihs for cites; you’re just claiming his statements are false. Are you going by your own experiences, or do you know that what he’s claiming isn’t true?
Regarding his first claim, CBS News has reported on a study that backs it up:
