Well said.
This prune needs to watch that older lady who does the call in sex show on Oxygen or Bravo. It would probably make her :eek:
Sue Johansen! (Yet another Canadian nurse corrupting the U.S. with our socialistic health care policies.)
Your friend’s bigger problem is that she thinks sex should be limited while trying to get pregnant. I wouldn’t be surprised if her husband is deliberately working late, because being forced to have sex on a schedule is one of the few ways possible to make sex dull.
Is it possible that this lady’s ideas are coming from her husband?
If he is her one-and-only, and presumably was happy enough with their pre-marital sex-life to get married to her, maybe it’s HIM who has the “nice girls don’t do X” attitude, which has rubbed off on her.
There are some men who while they’re happy enough to watch porn where women do all kinds of things wouldn’t want any woman “of theirs” doing anything so “slutty”.
Trust me, I had an ex boyfriend like that. Talk about your Madonna/Whore complexes!
“Sluttishness” is determined by what your opinion of a “slut” is. Not how someone else chooses a sexual partner OR what position they adopt.
Slut is one of those transitory words, there is no benchmark slut to judge other sluts on.
A slut is in the eye of the beholder 
And a jerk cums in the eye of the beholder. 
Yes some jerks have a lousy aim
I have to agree with Padeye. When I read the OP, my freak radar read a huge blip. Sounds like someone who probably likes it too much, so she set up some artificial barriers. Probably love it doggy, with hair-tugging and some butt slaps as well.
I am going to try to work this into as many casual conversations as I can.
i think giving a guy you just met a handjob in the corner booth of a bar the other day to be a slutty position, but then i’ve never claimed that i’m not a slut.
and staring into the camera while taking it doggy style is like the sluttiest of slutty positions, imo.
I’ve never understood this taboo against any position that’s not missionary, especially with your spouse. I figure that once you’re married, you should be allowed to…um, express your love in any way you wish. Of course, I’m not married so YMMV.
Three pregnant women were talking. The first said “I was on top when I conceived because that means it’s going to be a girl.” The second said “We were missionary, because that means it’s going t be a boy.” The third woman said “Oh my god! I’m going to have puppies!”
To take the devil’s advocate position for a moment, most people probably have some things they think someone else would be weird for indulging in (eg. Dressing up as Kirk and Spock and slapping each other with Cucumbers listening to the strains of ‘Candle in the Wind’ not that I’ve met anyone who likes that…), though they may be polite enough to not to say so to their faces. This woman just has a much much much lower threshhold. Indeed, nearly penultimately low 
Another thought. I get the impression that there’s a stereotype that a husband would often try to persuade his wife to experiment more than she would naturally want, so experimenting becomes associated with ‘doing whatever he wants’ and froim their to whoredom. I’m not saying that’s true, but that it’s a common sterotype is enough to perhaps give some insight into her position.
She’s pretty strange.
How’d she come up with a 4 am high basal temp? She has no idea how it works. You need to hit her with a fertility book or 3.
Of course she’s probably faint from the graphic text and pictures contained in such a book so it probably wouldn’t help.
Since we don’t have a barf smiley, this one will have to do: :eek:
I sort of assumed this, too, for which my husband has told me he is eternally grateful. I figured - well, I’m going to be married to you, hopefully for the rest of my life. Why not make it a free-for-all? It certainly keeps sex more interesting. I’ve got the option to say no if he does want me to dress up as Spock and slap him with a cucumber (thanks, Shade for that image, by the way), but if there’s something he really wants to try that doesn’t involve a lot of pain, I’m game.
Upon further reflection, I really don’t see anything I do with my husband as whorish, provided he’s not peddling me to others. Maybe I just have a really high threshold for kink. Maybe I am a slut. I’ve never said otherwise, either, but if I am, it’s only with my husband.
I’m not defending this woman because I do think she has some issues, but speaking as someone who was molested and raped as a child, sometimes it is VERY difficult to get past those feelings of guilt about parts of sex. After two years of being with my husband, it’s only recently that I’ve been able to initiate without feeling guilty. It’s not that I don’t want to, it’s that I have a panic attack and overwhelming feelings of that seven-year-old guilt that I have trouble stopping. I would never think someone else is slutty, but I have a hard time not seeing MYSELF as a horrible person for wanting sex in a different way.
Luckily, I have an amazing, wonderful, patient husband who has worked on these issues with me, and things have improved ten-fold. They aren’t perfect, but I’m finding it’s a lot easier to enjoy sex when I don’t feel guilty about having it.
E.
Elza B, you make a good point but I’m not certain it applies here. It would have been one thing if she said, “me on top, I could never do that,” but she said that overlyverbose was “no better than a whore” if she would consider bumping uglies in any but the missionary approved position. I could easily be wrong but that makes me lean toward garden variety prude rather than abuse victim.
Your husband sounds like a good man to help you through these things, not all are so lucky. I used to have a platonic friend who said she could never stay friends with anyone she had sex with. I later found that her “solution” was to host gangbang parties where any man who showed up at her hotel room could have her. When I confronted her about how incredibly dangerous this was she just said she was sewing her wild oats. I don’t know if she was abused but it wouldn’t suprise me.
Then there is the age thing - just how many dog years before you have a consenting adult.
And some breeds are just more slutty than others. I mean, really, have you seen the way some of those poodles move?
Yeah, tell me about it. At least you got by with just hearing the highlights. I got stuck listening to the blow by blow descriptions.
It was pretty funny, though, to see the faces of the guys who absolutely insisted on knowing how she knew for certain he was screwing around. They couldn’t just take her word for it that she was certain, or take my word for it that they really didn’t want to know. No, they just had to know. And then they got mad at us for telling them, because that was just gross and they didn’t ned to know that.
Put that in your OK Cupid profile.
Did this happen more than once? I mean, “let me blow you when your tallywhacker tastes like someone’s fudge factory, shame on you. If it happens ten or twelve times I really need to get a clue.” Criminy, it’s the punchline to a joke.
I concur wholeheartedly.
Actually, I don’t believe in the concept of ‘slutty’ or ‘slut’ or ‘whore’ or ‘tramp’ or whatever. Nobody thinks twice about men sleeping around, but a girl decides to have some good clean fun and suddenly she’s a slut. I think that’s bullshit.
Actually, this is a meme that bothers me as well. It’s like people just can’t get over the idea of doing anything they wouldn’t want their mom to watch. What’s so disgusting about a girl topping a man? There’s nothing wrong with sticking something in the girl’s ass, of course, but the guy’s ass is just off limits :rolleyes:.
I’ve done this quite a bit. Body type probably does have something to do with it, and the legs should be opened up at least a little.
Do people really worry about liking sex too much? That’s horrible. Sex should be a wonderful thing for both partners.