Do you like this guy? Have a secret crush on him maybe? 
The best advice I can give you is just try to talk to him as a friend. It’s hard to tell at such a young age whether or not he’s a player.
I met my now husband when I was 14-15 and he was 15. We both had a big crush on one another for months before we started dating. I had moved to his school my freshman year of high school and he was a sophmore. I sat behind him in history class and was smitten the very moment I laid eyes on him.
We talked a little, much like what you’ve described. I decided the best way to get to him was to make friends with his friends. Him and his best friend at the time started frequenting my house after school (the whole group-friend hanging out thing, less stressful!). We became good friends with a misguided tension between us. Then one day we were all discussing who we had crushes on, I coyly said “not really anyone in particular” while looking right at him and his friend asked him who he liked and he said “no one” but just as I turned to look the other direction, I saw out of the corner of my eye, he pointed at me.
Sooooo, we started calling each other and it took a while, but eventually we got over our fears and started dating. Things didn’t work out at the time, but we got back together and we’re newlyweds. Not that the same thing will happen to you, don’t start thinking about that for a while, please. You seem like a very intelligent girl, I’m sure you’ll make the right decisions. Just be nice to him, swallow your pride and talk to him. What’s the worst that could happen really?
That’s the best I can say. Good luck, keep us updated!
It’s worth mentioning that a lot of adult men have absolutely no clue whether a woman is interested in them.
And teenagers often add shyness and inexperience to that confusion.
So if you like this guy and want to be friends, be reasonably obvious!
It’s like a penis, only smaller.
Tsk Tsk! Trying to corrupt impressionable young girls!
PinkMarabou, you met your husband when you were 14?! Wow, I’ve only heard stories about people who meet their spouses in their teens. Wow. I will definitely try to talk to him more. Well, he called me once, but that was because he needed help with the math homework. Maybe I’ll call him? 
Ethilrist, thanks for the info. 
I learned a new word today!
Yeah, but by no means is that often. It rarely happens really. Just have fun, you’re young. I got married at 25 and I still freaked out over it. Cold feet and all.
Which is why they’re so rare especially at that age. If he’s really nice then it should definitley throw player out of the equation. Sorry just using what you gave me to work with.
It’s alright, eman77. I understand. I’m still trying to figure out what to do…
Don’t worry about a “No” answer. You’re young, so you’ll have a billion more opportunities with guys who in all likelihood may be even better than this one. Trust me, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. The best piece of advice I’ve been given for that kind of situation is “What’s worse? Getting turned down and moving on, or chickening out and always wondering ‘What if I had asked him out?’”
And besides: you’re a Doper, which makes you certifiably cool. If he says no, he’s the one missing out.
I can’t help you with what to say, though. I’m still trying to figure that part out myself.
A smile? A SMILE?? My husband asked for a Mustang GT40. $187K. And he won’t give me any realistic ideas for gifts. Maybe I’ll get him a smile.
All right, everyone, here’s an update. I know it’s been a month or so. Wow, it’s almost been a month and half! But, whatever. I’m more confused than ever.
[Backstory]
The Guy and I are in the tenth-grade drama class together. In November, we did a Remembrance Day play for our school and The Guy was playing this dude going to war…and I was his girlfriend. So, there was some hand holding, but nothing else. Anyways, after the play, people began whispering and saying stuff. It was all, “He likes her.” Although, people did come up to me and say, “Hey, Daredevil, where’s your boyfriend/husband??” But, it died down after. My friends said to me, “There was definitely some chemistry there.” And my best guy friend honestly did think that The Guy really liked me or something.
[/Backstory]
Anyways, the holidays came and went and I didn’t talk to The Guy at all because he went to some cottage up north for the two weeks. When he came back, I started talking to him on MSN again. This is the very first conversation with him after the holidays. It’s strange. On MSN, we can talk for as long as two hours, but at school, we barely acknowledge each other in the hall.
[Long Story Short]
(There was some blah-blah before I got into this.)
Me: So…can I ask you something?
Him: Sure.
Me: Well…there was this rumour a couple months ago.
Him: Okay…
Me: And you know the Remembrance Day play? Well, people started saying that you liked me and I just wanted to know if it was true.
(Pause.)
Him: Hahaha. How come I never heard of this?
Me: I dunno. Yeah, it’s pretty stupid. People say the weirdest things. :rolleyes: So I guess it’s just bull.
Him: Um…
(Very brief pause.)
Him: Yeah.
Me: Haha. But, we’re still friends, right?
Him: =S
Him: Yeah, we are.
Me: Why do I make people feel so uncomfortable? Is there something on my face all the time or something?
Him: No, it’s just that you don’t smile enough. It’s not right.
Me: Why does everyone say that?
Him: It’s true. You have a pretty smile, so do it more often.
[/Long Story Short]
Anyways, so, is he just playing with me or what?? My friends don’t know what to say at all. I was going to ask him if he would like to join me and my friends after midterms to watch “Elektra” with us, but he doesn’t know any of my friends, so he’d be kind of uncomfortable around them. So, I’m not going to ask him. 
What do you all think?
go see Elektra with your friends, then go a second time, with “The Guy” and maybe 1 or two other people that he knows? Just a suggestion. I should think that would make him more comfortable. Then take it from there.
Fair Warning: I am the worst dater in the world. I am hopeless. Take all my advice with a grain of salt or wait for agreement from other Dopers.
To be honest, I think you have been reading a lot into the very few signals he’s given you. So far he thinks you have a nice smile, and you get on OK, and other people think he likes you because you held hands (in a play where you had to). OK, honestly? Not a lot of concrete evidence.
Now you have actually point blank asked him if he was interested, and he’s said no. Now, chances are he’s telling the truth.
Alright, there’s a chance he’s just shy and doesn’t know how to deal with this situation, but I don’t think you stand to gain a lot by hanging on and hoping he’ll come around.
Better for you to just enjoy his friendship, and focus on other things. If he does like you, it will come out sooner or later. But if not, you won’t bugger up the friendship by acting awkward around him, through constantly analysing every conversation you have with him ad infinitum. You should also be a lot happier and more certain about yourself, which is a better place to be.
I say that having been a 15 year old who read alot into stuff that was not there… I had too many wasted hours of that I can tell you!
Just go for it!!!
Ask him out (on MSN if its more comfortable), just the two of you.
Oh, and if you do ask him out, tell this guy that he owes me big time.
See, and I read it as he likes her but is too shy or is afraid she doesn’t like him.
I’m not sure I read “umm…yeah” as a convincing rebuttal to her questioning.
The only way to know is to ask him out on a low-stress, low-expectation type date. You know, like you can go to a soda shop and get a chocolate malted. I don’t know what it is you do these days.
Is this the kissing friend?
I couldn’t tell you if he’s interested or not as there’s so little to go on… just rumors and innuendo. If you like him though, ask him to the movie.
(minus the Remembrance Day play, this is how I got my first date. Asking someone out online that I’d been told like me.)
I’ll note here that at age 15 I would’ve killed for a girl who would just come up to me and say that she liked me and ask me if I liked her too. We are so dumb at that age.
Actually, we’re pretty dumb at every age. I can’t really talk about it like it’s been thousands of years, anyway, as I’m only 18, and would still kill for someone who would just be upfront about things.
Oh, hell. Ignore that post. I must have hit “go to first unread post” by mistake and only saw the last few posts, thinking that was the entire thread.
Ugh.
Don’t, necessarily, take what he said as a rejection. Essentially you ‘outed’ him about something that might’ve been a secret, or at least something to embarass him.
In my limited experience, asking someone if they find you hot is much less likely to work unless they already know that a positive answer will get a positive response.
Maybe he thought you were annoyed at him, and didn’t want to seem like some sappy teen adoring you from afar? (which he may very well be). All in all, don’t be all that wierded if “Hey, there’s a rumor going around that you like me, do you?” didn’t pan out.
Kudos for being direct, but if you want to know for sure, I’d suggest you go all out. Maybe “I really like talking to you, we should hang out together.” Or something…
Just mah two cents.