Maybe I’m in the minority, but who cares if she’s a virgin? Is there some age past which being a virgin is abominable? The media crusades against children (~12+) losing their virginity and being sexualized, but when someone’s past, what, 25? it becomes a mark of shame. Like they “can’t” have sex, so there must be something wrong with them.
You even say:
As if this should somehow be unacceptable. Why? Who cares how old she is/was when she first has/had sex?
This is what I don’t understand. When does virginity become a “psychological issue”? What if she was so focused on her school/training/sport that she didn’t have the time and energy to go out clubbing? What if she’s a closeted lesbian who hasn’t admitted her feelings to herself? What if she just honestly wants to wait for marriage, for non-religious, emotional reasons? There’s way too many variables involved in when people first have sex to just say “X years old, what the hell’s wrong with em?”.
I mean, don’t get me wrong. I’d sooner chalk this up to a media stunt or “technical” virginity than outright never-done-nothin-with-nobody virginity, but the notion that maintining virginity past a certain age is somehow “odd” or “wrong”, and thus unacceptable just doesn’t make sense to me. Just like how women are “sluts” after sleeping with X amount of guys.