I know that you think my best friend Rob is a great guy. And cute. And is really into me. Those things are all true.
However, you don’t seem to get the fact that I’m in a relationship. I’m happy. My SO is happy. Rob’s happy. We’re all doing fine. You told me you thought Rob and I would make a great couple. OK. I acknowledge that we would, but it’s not what either of us is looking for.
You don’t have to keep telling this to me every day! Christ, this is so annoying! You don’t even know my SO that well, but you don’t have a problem slamming him in comparison to Rob.
What if I did the same thing to you? You have this girlfriend I’ve never met, but you hang out with this other girl all the time. Do you think you would like it if I told you, “You and girl B are SO cute together! Why aren’t you dating?” EVERY SINGLE FREAKIN" DAY???
To top it off, how dare you tell me it’s cool to cheat on my SO? Just 'cause you think Rob is so cool? GRRRR…
I know it’s not much of a rant, but I don’t have the practice.
I hear ya. My best friend–who I have known for 20 years and thus ought to know better–persists in telling me that this one friend of mine, who I have no romantic interest in whatsoever, is my “soulmate.” What the fuck ever. First, I don’t buy into the whole “soulmate” thing anyway, but more importantly, I can decide for myself who I am and am not interested in. Really!
ugh, this has been happening to me lately as well. my best friend and I get along great, and I’ll admit that I would love to date him…if he wasn’t already taken. And, moreover, has been taken since I’ve known him. So when my roommates all insist that his gf is “ugly” and a “ho” and I “should have him” and “You and K. are going to get married someday”, I get a little testy. memo to roomies: HE’S NOT MINE TO HAVE. EVEN THOUGH I SORT OF LIKE HIM THAT WAY, I’M NEVER GOING TO “HAVE” HIM. got it?
Yeah, she’s a pretty good housemate otherwise, but this is driving me nuts!
Also, Rob came over looking for me the other day and he reports that while he was here, she started telling him the same kind of thing. As in, “don’t worry about Yumanite’s boyfriend, you should go for her,” that kind of thing.
WTF? I have been in a steady relationship, albeit an unusual one, for five years now. In that whole time, we have only had about a month where we had a falling out. If she doesn’t like my SO, fine. I expect a lot of people have that reaction. But she ought to have some kind of respect for him, I mean it is a basic politeness issue.
Wow, your roommate refers to you by your straightdope screen name? How weird :p.
Actually I had the same problem a few years ago. I was really good friends with this one girl, and we hung out all the time. She was engaged to someone else but that didn’t stop my friends and family from constantly badgering me about her. They would go so far as to tell me it was okay for me to “steal her” from her fiancee who was overseas at the time (Navy). It was sooooo irritating.
Then again, I married her two months ago so I might not be the best example.
Yumanite,
Have you tried telling your housemate something like:
“Shut the fuck up. I have told you I don’t want your advice regarding suitable partners. You manage your own pitiful existence and fucking leave me alone.”
Sometimes directness is reqired to break through the thick skull of a clod.
HairyPotter (which, BTW, I find to be an oddly disturbing screen name), I imagine that I will say something like that if it keeps up. For now, though, it is just at the “bitch & moan” level of annoyance, and not the “I’m going to kill this person if she doesn’t stop” level.
Also, if I call her a fucker, she will probably not let me eat any of her cookies for a while. And I like cookies.
