Dopers, I need to apologize and change my ways..

Good job, Flammy. Kudos for realizing what you needed to do and doing it, always the hard part. I bet YOU feel better now as well, no?

So now I guess it would be appropriate for me to apologize for agreeing with you, and will do so. Sorry! dantheman, one flogging with a wet noodle for you, hon. :wink:

Flam, not to worry, be happy. And the same to the rest of y’all.

It took me some time to sort through my personal feelings, and to realize how wrong I was in my actions. I knew I was wrong, but didn’t know how to make a fuller apology. Had to go through some thinking, as I said in my OP.

Only then did I have the strength to really face up to my actions and the consequences thereof, and make an honest apology to everyone. That was a bad slip of my character, but I’m not going to excuse myself with that or anything else. There is no going back, even though I wish I could… all there is to do now is to apologize, move forward the best I can, and change.

John Carter of Mars: I doubt you’ll lose me completely… my basic personality won’t make any 180-degree turnarounds. :smiley: But there will be some minor (albeit important) changes.

TLD: The real me went sharply south for a while there, and I sincerely regret it. I accept your apology for stirring the pot, also. Incidentally, what does the foreign bit in your sig mean? I assume the language is Maori / Hawaiian, but I could be wrong.

Astroboy14: No doubt stupid stuff will continue to happen as well, but I will keep something like this from happening again.

dantheman: You know how I feel about the statement you made. :wink: But I accept your apology anyway… I know all too well about saying things in a moment of pique.

Snooooopy: Sorry, I’m not into that kind of thing even if you are. :wink:

scott evil: I think of you as my buddy from those days, too. :slight_smile: There is no excuse for the anti-gay remarks I’ve made in the past, and I regret them. That is not the way I feel about homosexuals at all. I remember those posts pretty well. Hope you don’t mind my posting in your threads again, especially not the one you’ve got planned for next week.

CrankyAsAnOldMan: It was very difficult for me to compose my OP, and to come to the place where I realized I was horribly wrong. Humbling myself was equally difficult, and I remain so.

Krisfer the Cat: I don’t know if I can teach you that, not being an inhabitant of your headspace. :wink: :smiley:

Weirddave: Generally, facing up to what you’ve done wrong is never easy… and neither is actually doing something about it. This was a horrible mistake, and it took time to do both these things. Your bet would be correct, as well.

Blonde: Someone told me that I “worried constantly” over this matter, but I thought I worried for good reason. Now I’m no longer as worried… if I can’t be happy over the events, I will change as a result of them. (and be happy that I have done so)

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I want to clarify something here. My words, although poorly expressed in this particular thread, still hold true; therefore I don’t see anything wrong about agreeing with them.

Addtionally - again, for clarification only - I am not referring to anything that has taken place offboard.

Gotcha. We’ll catch your backside, dantheman. :cool:

It’s a Maori saying Ice Wolf told me: “A stormy sea can be navigated”.

Thanks for the explanation… I thought it was Maori, but wasn’t sure. :slight_smile: Seems fitting for this situation, too… then again, it seems that I can find applications for this situation in almost everything i read these days! Hahahaha…

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It’s actually more “Choppy waters can still be navigated”, according to a site I found. Yes, I thought as soon as I saw you asked that question, Flami, that the same proverb could apply to your situation.

You’re doing well at the tiller, my friend. Keep up the good work. :slight_smile:

Thanks, Ice Wolf… I might email you later on. I will move forward through this… to use the metaphor my friends and I were discussing last week, my race is by no means over. Definitely still have a lot to give, receive, and learn.

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Congratulations lady. I was once in a similar situation where I had to apologize to someone and I wasn’t sure how she’d take it. We became friends. Congratulations on your courage.

CJ

Well done, Flamsterette! That was beautifully done. I can only hope that I would have the courage and grace that you’ve shown in the face of a difficult situation!

You make it sound so cheap.

Regards,
Shodan

Siege: I hope things will work out eventually and we’ll be friends again. If not, I’ll have had these lessons for applications to other situations with oth present and future friends.

Rhaeven: I’m learning a lot about grace, forgiveness, humility, courage, adn numerous other things through this. The lessons may take time to to be learned and sink in, but I won’t forget them that easily… especially since it cost me at least one friendship.

Shodan: Hmm, well… that could be true, or not. Guess it all depends on your perspective.

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