Good job, Flammy. Kudos for realizing what you needed to do and doing it, always the hard part. I bet YOU feel better now as well, no?
So now I guess it would be appropriate for me to apologize for agreeing with you, and will do so. Sorry! dantheman, one flogging with a wet noodle for you, hon.
Flam, not to worry, be happy. And the same to the rest of y’all.
It took me some time to sort through my personal feelings, and to realize how wrong I was in my actions. I knew I was wrong, but didn’t know how to make a fuller apology. Had to go through some thinking, as I said in my OP.
Only then did I have the strength to really face up to my actions and the consequences thereof, and make an honest apology to everyone. That was a bad slip of my character, but I’m not going to excuse myself with that or anything else. There is no going back, even though I wish I could… all there is to do now is to apologize, move forward the best I can, and change.
John Carter of Mars: I doubt you’ll lose me completely… my basic personality won’t make any 180-degree turnarounds. But there will be some minor (albeit important) changes.
TLD: The real me went sharply south for a while there, and I sincerely regret it. I accept your apology for stirring the pot, also. Incidentally, what does the foreign bit in your sig mean? I assume the language is Maori / Hawaiian, but I could be wrong.
Astroboy14: No doubt stupid stuff will continue to happen as well, but I will keep something like this from happening again.
dantheman: You know how I feel about the statement you made. But I accept your apology anyway… I know all too well about saying things in a moment of pique.
Snooooopy: Sorry, I’m not into that kind of thing even if you are.
scott evil: I think of you as my buddy from those days, too. There is no excuse for the anti-gay remarks I’ve made in the past, and I regret them. That is not the way I feel about homosexuals at all. I remember those posts pretty well. Hope you don’t mind my posting in your threads again, especially not the one you’ve got planned for next week.
CrankyAsAnOldMan: It was very difficult for me to compose my OP, and to come to the place where I realized I was horribly wrong. Humbling myself was equally difficult, and I remain so.
Krisfer the Cat: I don’t know if I can teach you that, not being an inhabitant of your headspace.
Weirddave: Generally, facing up to what you’ve done wrong is never easy… and neither is actually doing something about it. This was a horrible mistake, and it took time to do both these things. Your bet would be correct, as well.
Blonde: Someone told me that I “worried constantly” over this matter, but I thought I worried for good reason. Now I’m no longer as worried… if I can’t be happy over the events, I will change as a result of them. (and be happy that I have done so)
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I want to clarify something here. My words, although poorly expressed in this particular thread, still hold true; therefore I don’t see anything wrong about agreeing with them.
Addtionally - again, for clarification only - I am not referring to anything that has taken place offboard.
Gotcha. We’ll catch your backside, dantheman.
It’s a Maori saying Ice Wolf told me: “A stormy sea can be navigated”.
Thanks for the explanation… I thought it was Maori, but wasn’t sure. Seems fitting for this situation, too… then again, it seems that I can find applications for this situation in almost everything i read these days! Hahahaha…
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It’s actually more “Choppy waters can still be navigated”, according to a site I found. Yes, I thought as soon as I saw you asked that question, Flami, that the same proverb could apply to your situation.
You’re doing well at the tiller, my friend. Keep up the good work.
Thanks, Ice Wolf… I might email you later on. I will move forward through this… to use the metaphor my friends and I were discussing last week, my race is by no means over. Definitely still have a lot to give, receive, and learn.
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Congratulations lady. I was once in a similar situation where I had to apologize to someone and I wasn’t sure how she’d take it. We became friends. Congratulations on your courage.
CJ
Well done, Flamsterette! That was beautifully done. I can only hope that I would have the courage and grace that you’ve shown in the face of a difficult situation!
You make it sound so cheap.
Regards,
Shodan
Siege: I hope things will work out eventually and we’ll be friends again. If not, I’ll have had these lessons for applications to other situations with oth present and future friends.
Rhaeven: I’m learning a lot about grace, forgiveness, humility, courage, adn numerous other things through this. The lessons may take time to to be learned and sink in, but I won’t forget them that easily… especially since it cost me at least one friendship.
Shodan: Hmm, well… that could be true, or not. Guess it all depends on your perspective.
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