Emotional/Romantic Triangle. Help please.

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A couple of things to think about:

  1. Do you respect either, both or neither of these guys. If you don’t respect one or both it won’t last because so many of the conflicts that you will need to resolve have to do with your individual world views. Examples include some of the things that you are worried about with both, work ethic, individual responsiblity, openess, etc. These attitudes and patterns are formed during the teen to early adult years and from my experience don’t change.

  2. Physical intimacy is important. Masters and Johnson published a book by the title of “The Pleasure Bond” which points out that physical intimacy which leads to pleasure is a normalizing factor in relationships.

  3. I’ve been with my sweetheart for almost 25 years and I can honestly say that about 75% of being together is about being compatible roomates. How do these guys stack up here?

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Sheerah,

Don't be discouraged that he's a cop. I knew someone who was a cop who kept calling his ex (from his home phone, the moron) and hanging up when she had an order of protection. He was never violent, but it (rightfully) creeped her out. He ended up fired and in jail for a month. Maybe in a small town it may be different, an old boys thing, but maybe not.