In my original “Esprix & Dr. Boyfriend” thread I opened to discussion my thought processes behind my decision to move to San Diego and reluctantly tell Dr. Boyfriend this news. I had posted it merely as a sounding board, as I didn’t want to discuss too much with my friends at home because I wanted him to be the first to know (at this point only my friends in California and he know; no other friends or family have been told).
Well, the cat’s out of the bag, and not in a good way. Dr. Boyfriend was bored last night and decided to go surfing the web. Being a first-year resident, having that kind of extra time is very, very rare, so of course I would never have expected that he would think to himself, “Hmmm, I wonder what this Straight Dope thing that Esprix keeps talking about is all about…”
Do you see where this is going?
Needless to say, I got a very frustrated phone call from him last night informing me he’d read the above thread. I raced over and we had a long heart-to-heart, but the damage was done. He now knows I’m planning to move to San Diego and that our relationship is coming to an end.
I had been getting more serious-minded relationship vibes from him since right before I left for my two-week vacation in the beginning of August, but wanted to take that vacation as I use it annually as a time for reflection to make absolutely sure I felt I was doing what was right for me. At the same time, right before I left I decided to join my family in Disney World during Labor Day week (next week), so that only gave me 2 weeks in between vacations. Knowing Dr. Boyfriend as I do, telling him this news and then leaving for a week would have been a bad idea, so I decided to wait until I returned from Florida so we could sit down and have a good evening together and try to, as Webber put it, “take the hurt out of all the pain.” Obviously that idea’s all shot to hell now, and the best I can do is pick up the pieces.
I’m not going to get into the details of our talk, but I will say that he is mad that I didn’t tell him or talk about my thoughts earlier (my response was that I didn’t want to tell him something I wasn’t 100% sure of myself, and really wasn’t until my August vacation), and I was kind of caught off guard by the fact that he’d invested a lot more emotionally into this relationship than I had (which really shouldn’t have been that surprising).
I don’t know what this means for us for the near or far future, but I figured I’d just update everyone and let you know that the Straight Dope Message Board ruined my life. Bleh.
Esprix
