At the end of October Iris and I are getting married. We are planning on doing a non traditional wedding and reception but we’re stuck on one point.
We are planning on getting married in the pool that we meet at in the early afternoon. Then later that evening we are planning on having a costume reception. My idea was to have a number of our friends on the swim team come to the ceremony and afterwards have a small team party. Our parents and a small set of people would be coming as well. I figured that the people on the team that we know, but not really well, would enjoy a bit of cake and things like that. At the reception though we were going to invite all of our friends and relatives, but not the people from the team.
So here’s our dilemma, I think it’s ok to have a quick party after the ceremony for the team. She however, thinks that if you invite someone to the ceremony you have to invite them to the reception as well. I think that in reality it would be the other way around, if you invite someone to the reception then they should come to the ceremony as well.
So what is the etiquette for such things, is it ok to invite someone to just one or the other? Not that it matters much since we are doing something non traditional but we haven’t been able to figure it out between us.