The child is only 15 months old and probably doesn’t have the visitation “schedule” memorized yet.
The ex-husband is a jerk so why would you WANT him to be around the child.
While infuriating, selfish behavior is hardly one of those things that just happens to come on “all of a sudden”.
Kids are smart - My ex would schedule his visitation, not show up or call, etc. I never said a word about it and now that they are grown, one with kids of his own, they won’t give him the time of day.
If the “EX” was a model citizen and father, I’m guessing he wouldn’t BE an ex
Take a deep breath, accept that he is and will probably always be a selfish jerk and move on. Or drink heavily. I hear that it kills brain cells so with any luck you’ll not only forget about him, you won’t even remember who he is.
Learn to read. I have not insisted that the OP did anything, I have presented it as a possible contributing factor as to why her ex shows little to no interest in his daughter. People who wanted a child generally show a lot of interest in it, and this guy doesn’t even want to do the bare minimum of visitation that he (supposedly) agreed to.
Ah. So then, what exactly were you speaking of when you said “I haven’t a clue if someone like curlcoat can even possibly be serious about some of that blather.”?
Again, learn to read. I don’t have a “viewpoint” in this thread, I had questions. Which the mommy brigade couldn’t let pass at face value and had to create a big deal about. Whether they want to believe it or not, it does happen that women have babies that their husbands/boyfriends didn’t want and don’t like when they are born. If they stay around that long.
Snort. I don’t care about your beliefs. I was merely pointing out that you are the one that came in here all high and mighty about my “blather” and me being “delusional”, without bothering to actually address the issue in the thread, other than that all time favorite; Nobody Knows All The Details. Which of course hasn’t stopped you from offering advice to the OP and Edward The Head because of course your situation would apply to everyone elses.
“Learn to read” TWO times? My feelings are TWICE as hurt now. And of course you’re right. I did use the term “blather,” which at the time was not in particular reference to you. Were I referring to you specifically, I would’ve chosen a more derogatory term, because it appears you are unable to voice an opinion or ask a question with anything resembling civilty. If you aren’t capable of not sounding like a defensive lunatic, don’t be surprised when no one takes you seriously.
And if I want to offer advice, given that I have been through a similar situation, I fucking well will, and whether it’s good advice or bad, it’ll still be a saner contribution than anything I’ve seen you put forth on this board in any thread.
(Learn to read. Seriously–someone of you…caliber…should be able to do better than that.)
Oh brother, the irony burns. And the backpedaling attempts to blur everything. I’m sorry, but there is simply no reason for me to be civil to someone who pops in with “I haven’t a clue if someone like curlcoat” (me)" can even possibly be serious" (i.e. is she trolling?) “about some of that blather.” (pro tip - blather is not a civil way to refer to someone’s post.) If you want to be bitchy, you should expect that the person you are aiming at will respond in a way you won’t like.
The best part about all of this is that you are the one that is coming off as the defensive lunatic. You insult me and all I said in response was “Unless I was obviously being sarcastic, I was serious. Simply because you don’t agree with it doesn’t make it blather, tho it’s kind of ironic that you threw that into a post about no one knowing the whole story.” Pretty mild, and an adult secure in her opinions and beliefs would have responded in kind instead of going off on more personal insults, lies and exaggerations. Whatever hot button of yours I’ve touched, you need to get it under control unless you like this sort of thing.
You know, curlcoat, in the interest of fostering compassion rather than contempt in my life, I think engaging you is not a good idea. I should have known better than to try.
Remember, curlcoat is insane to the point where she will advocate whatever action that is more likely to hurt children. She’s not just your average child-free person. She actually hates children enough that she enjoys the thought of them being in anguish, and if the moms can be in anguish too, all the better.
None of which is even close to true, nor could you possibly come up with a cite that would get any where near proving it. What else do you lie about? And, what else are you hyper defensive about?