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Your lack of sound judgement soars like the eagle.
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This. It’s gonna hurt for a while, no getting past that, but just keep this in mind: the best revenge is living well.
Hang in there!
Because she’s a sociopath. And there’s no “understanding” a sociopath, other than knowing that their brains are damaged and they not only lack the capacity to give a fuck, but they enjoy the act of hurting others.
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Congratulations, Sehmket! This is the beginning of a much better life.
Your OP comes on what would have been my 38th wedding anniversary, if I’d stayed married. I got over it, although you never really forget. I try to remember what some of the good things were. At least I didn’t have kids to make things complicated.
Take care. If you need to vent, you know where we are!
Sehmket. Probably in the future you’ll see the split as a great thing. Sounds like the blaming is bordering on emotional abuse, but maybe really the primary issue is he can’t accept blame for himself.
In time - you’ll find that someone that sees you as his one and only… and someone will find your ex the same. Perhaps with different people both of you can come out better than had you two stayed together.
I left my first wife after 6 years, just not meant to be together. She was unhappy about it but I think she is better without me. She is still married to our friend whom I gently urged them in their friendship as things were winding down with us. She’s still married to him and has 3 kids now. I think her life is better that we split than if she stayed with me.
Left (escaped) wife #2 after a year and a half. Two weeks after we got married, she completely flipped and was psychotic, violent physically and emotionally, delusional (constantly making up stories I was cheating when I wasn’t)… I KNOW my life is better than I split with her!
Congrats! It sounds like you had a big, productive step taken for you, so to speak. Have a divorce party!
Inter Alia - you’ve got it right. It’s GREAT for two people in a couple to each thing each other is great… but, it’s a bit of a problem when one person things they’re better, and expects the other to think and act that way, too.
Everyone’s stories of breaking up and going on to do well are heartening to me. Right now, things just suck, and it can be really hard to see the bright side. But, I know others who have been in my situation have found it, so I’m trying to focus on that.
I saw a tattoo, and the caption says it’s a quote from The Tempest, “The Past is a Prologue.” I’m trying to focus on that as my mantra right now.
In The Tempest it’s “what’s past is prologue”.
Shocking that the original Shakespeare is even better! 
Well I thought it was funny…
So did I.
It’s a fine line between funny and insensitive or something else bad. Timing has something to do with it. And how well the people know each other. It was pretty clear to me it was intended as a joke but obviously some people didn’t perceive it that way. It happens.
Sehmket, I understand it sucks a LOT for you right now. You’ve got a steaming pantload of bad stuff you want to get out and get through. IMO, that’s normal and okay. What you really need is some Tincture of Time and that’s usually slow-acting.
Be strong. You’ll get through this.
The very best ‘New Beginnings’ seem to be always disguised as ‘Painful Endings’! You know you made the right choice, cling to that. Its not his fault, or yours, doesn’t mean this or that, no need to rehash or big picture really, he just isn’t the one. And you know it, deep done. Don’t forget that.
It’s hard and it’s painful, we all feel for you. But we also think you’re doing the right thing! The only way through, is through.
And we’re right here, if you need to talk. Give it time, it’ll get better slowly.
Is your soon-to-be-ex on the SDMB.
Just wanted to make sure you got the quote right in case you decided to make a tattoo out of it as well. 
And if you do get such a tattoo, please get it on your ass. That would be perfect.
Regards,
Shodan
I laughed but I can see where the OP would not be in the right mood for the joke.
And speaking of which, that’s really too bad for everything. Hang in there.
Best of luck.
And remember, the best revenge is moving on and being much happier without him.