I never really thought it was uncommon.
have i?
yes.
but only because the situation was one of those horrendous “I’m not stopping til i make you come” things.
and saying “oh god yes” a few times and breaking up with the guy over the phone a few days later seemed kinder than saying “i hate what you’re doing, you’re crap at this, hurry up and finish.”
in my current relationship, no.
what with all the real orgasms, i simply don’t have time to.
Opal: I suppose I meant “not as uncommon as I thought”. Personally, I didn’t knw this happened to anyone else. However, after some igrnorance fighting and frank discussion on the SDMB I became enlightened. I didn’t mean to put words in your mouth.
I’ve never faked it, but then again, I can [not exaggerating] get off with absolutely no physical stimulation whatsoever half the time. In the other half of the time, though, I’ve still never faked it. I’ve got a couple reasons for that, and they work for me, but YMMV: first, I feel faking it gives the person you’re with a misconception: that whatever they’re doing is working…and if it’s not making me come, it’s not. Faking it will breed misconception. Secondly, I, personally, would feel incredibly stupid faking–almost like I was making fun of the person I was with behind their back. Third, I feel that should I have an off day and not have an orgasm, that’s okay, too. It happens. I’m not going to play make believe about it.
As to whether or not men can tell…I’d have to say the majority probably can’t. Maybe if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, and you really know each other in that sense, it would be more apparant, but for the most part, no, I think one could get away with faking it undiscovered if they wanted–in most situations.
Have never. B can tell if I do actually orgasm (except one time v. early in exploration), and I know when she does. One of us would have to work pretty hard to fake the other one out.
Besides, I’d rather know I needed to do something else than think it’s so wonderful for her when all the time she’s just waiting for me to get done.
fizzestothetop: Orgasms… your username… I’m sure there’s a joke in there somewhere… if only you were a girl. 
fizzestothetop is a girl. I mistakenly posted as her because YET AGAIN SHE LOGGED IN WITHOUT TELLING ME! ARGH!
My first post… talking about orgasms. Of all the thousands of posts here, THIS is what caught my eye enough to register. Hmmm.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that my faking it a few times with my bf really taught me some important lessons about myself (we need to understand what we want ourselves before we can possibly explain it to someone else) and since then, I haven’t done it.
After I tried and tried (God, I wanted it bad) I got very frustrated (geez!) and so I just faked it so we could move on (he was frustrated too because I was). Anyway, almost immediately after faking it, while he was not trying so hard & I was not trying so hard… BOOM. The moral of that story, once the pressure was off, so was I. So now I can tell him what I need to help me. I tell him when to wait and when to go. If it’s there, boy is it there. If not, I am sure to give him one hell of a ride anyway (can I say “hell” here?).
I have faked it lots, mostly cause orgasming is something that is rare even when I’m alone (ask my vibe …it cries in frustration sometimes…but we still have LOTS of fun together!) BUT I love sex and am always enjoying it even without orgasming. I just sooooooooo hate that “I won’t stop till you cum” situation. YES I am reallllllllllly enjoying what you are doing, Yes I have enjoyed making you cum, Yes I want to do this again, but NO I do not need to nor is it likely that I will cum. If you need me to cum then I will fake it, mostly because I understand mens egos are fragile when it cums to this issue. My current partner and I have been together 6 months, we have a very good sex life with lots of experimentation and I enjoy every moment of it. But I don’t cum. I don’t want to hurt him and make him feel like he’s not doing enough (cause he reallllllllllllllllllllllllly is!) I am just not someone who cums…so I fake it and we are both very happy.
Is this dishonest? No I don’t think so, not if cumming means you are having a spectacularly good time and are sharing that twith your partner. I AM having an amazingingly good time …I’m just one of those weird types who is on the verge then can’t get over it. Shoot me for making my partner realise that he has made me feel really good by faking it. I wouldn’t dream about lying to him about anything and I’m not lying about my enjoyment level, all I am doing is making up for something that is “wrong” with me.
Well that’s my theory anyway
And the ripple effect is a doddle…and I don’t need to make When sally met Harry noises either!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRR this part of my post pissed me off as soon as I clicked submit. I am sick of been made to feel like I am abnormal or a liar because I don’t cum. I blame this on crap like Cosmopolitan magazine and the like “How to cum like a geyser in 5 easy lessons” articles. I don’t know if it is a brain or body issue with me, but I have worn out many a vibe searching for the multi orgasmic moment…do you think I would keep trying if it wasn’t VERY enjoyable to do so? No!
I am jealous of all you who are able to orgasm like there is no tomorrow but I can’t. Please don’t make me feel bad by making me feel guilty because I want to show my man how good he makes me feel with a little faked “caterpillar”
Ahhhhhhhhhh I feel much better with that off my chest :o)
You posted something, then got pissed off with yourself and changed your mind? 
oopppppppppppps preview is your friend …even if it never cums to let you know this. I promise I’m not illiterate, I was just faking 
No Samarm I was just faking it
I guess I’ve been majorly whooshed. Sorry!
Oh I love you in a caterpillar way all the same