Okay, so last night, emboldened by everyone’s encouragement, I sent another email to K. asking her for V.'s phone number.
It’s now 3:56 p.m. local time, and I have yet to receive a reply from K.
What am I to conclude?
Well, I would conclude that K. is…busy?
Sorry about the flippant answer. I’m just passing along the advice I get from other people. Someday, I’m going to listen to it myself.
Just as an amusing aside…the last time I asked a female friend for “info” on one of her female friends, I learned that she was not single, not straight, and indeed the GF of the female friend I asked (and I previously did not know first friend’s orientation). But hey, at least she was over 25.
Fiver: I’d conclude that K is asking V if it’s okay to give out her phone number and doesn’t have the okay yet. So my advice is that if V shows up to your next meeting, see if she’d like to go get coffee after–low pressure, no expectations, gives her a chance to size you up without other people around.
Oh, and good luck!
Another lady who suffers from too busy a schedule and periodic shyness checking in. Yes, she probably told her, and yes, it’s a good thing, but the ball still is in your court. Unless V has said something like “Oh dear,” you’re probably in good shape.
Going out for coffee after the next meeting sounds like a good idea to me, and you can offer the excuse of wanting to talk a bit more about something which was discussed at it. Also, if she sees you and smiles, your chances are looking even better.
Good luck!
CJ
agree with Aleq that K is probably asking V if V wants you to have her number or not. She should be asking, anyway: she shouldn’t give it out w/o doing so. Coffee does sound like a good idea, as long as you check her signals first, and make sure she’s not throwing you evil looks or something. Good luck!
Hey Fiver, nothing ventured, nothing gained. K. has probably told V. that you asked about her, and it was probably to catalyze something.
Pay attention to V. at the next meeting (I mean discreetly, don’t stare at her fer God’s sake! ;)) and see how she acts. If she’s not shooting Martian death rays from her eyes and bristling whenever you glance in her direction, I’d say a low-impact “get to know me” meeting is in order. Coffee after the meeting sounds like a good idea.
Good luck, happy hunting, and keep us posted!
Zap!
I guess I didn’t make something clear about the investment club: we meet monthly, and the last meeting was just this past Sunday. Getting or not getting her number, and going out or never going out will all be long settled by the time the next meeting rolls around.
And there’s still been no reply (36+ hours on), but per y’all’s advice I’m not letting it bother me.
Mom always said “Faint heart neer won fair maiden”
Best of luck
Retief
Well, it’s now been almost a week since I asked K. for V.'s phone number, and there still has been no response at all.
Should I maintain my optimism? Is there anything else I can do?
100%.
I have always heard some pretty sound advice on this sort of issue to be: “You hesitate, you masturbate.”
Can’t find whom said this originally, but from my experience it seems to be fairly accurate.
(what an interesting first post…)
But what about my most recent question?
Hmm, interesting conundrum. You’ve done everything in the right order, it seems, and the ball is in K’s court. A week to get back to someone on such a simple question seems like a long time, though. Could you call K and ask if there is a snag in your plan (such as V being out of town, etc.)? K might not have even got your email. I would definitely call K and get an update on what’s going on.
Yes, maintain optimism. K. is proably checking with V. to make sure it’s ok to give her number to you. They may have gotten bogged down in a communication snafu.
So, what do her wrists look like?
The Devil’s Grandmother:
Crystal! You’re embarrassing me!
This afternoon I stopped the handwringing as I realized this is K I’m dealing with. We’ve been buds for seven years. I don’t have to wonder these things, I can just ask her. So I did.
K. has not spoken to V. Pay up, everyone who thought she had.
K. was busy all last week and even out of town for part of it, so that’s why no response.
K. says she spoke too soon when she said V. is single. She’d thought V. had recently broken up with someone, but apparently he’s still in the picture.
Hey, no big. This was a fun thread, anyway. If something happens after all, I’ll let y’all know.