Not single, so didn’t vote.
As with others above … That behavior by the average woman is so out of the ordinary as to signal major alarm bells. So the answer is "no’ for me. Back in college and with some sort of stated connection, like she was from the same school, or dorm or whatever the answer would probably be yes even though I’d never seen her before.
Now in a world where walk-up propositions like that are typical or nearly-so female behavior, the answer would be hell yes, every time.
Depends entirely on how she asks. I’m a total slut but I also get flustered easily, and I like at least a modicum of friendly communication established.
Heck, the ones considerably below average appearance could get me easily enough if they chat me up and then ask nicely.
Did you read the OP?
That’s not a flaw in the poll. This poll is specifically to discuss the assertion made by Stoneburg, so if there’s a flaw, it’s in his original statement.
And the poll does not demonstrate how little understanding women have of the male experience. It demonstrates how little understanding MEN have of the FEMALE experience. See the quote in the OP.
Student Driver hit on (ha!) some of the reasons I’m interested in this subject at all. I believe that this meme is ultimately destructive to both men and women.
Thanks for your responses, everyone.
p.s. dbaFred is not my sock puppet!
What’s the saying? Any club that would have my member…
This is probably also true of men. The quote this thread is based on assumes a vast difference between how easy/difficult this is for men vs. women. In reality, there may be some difference, but I think Stoneburg greatly exaggerates it.
It sounds like most people who are saying no are doing it because the situation would be so out of the ordinary as to seem suspicious, which honestly kind of goes against the spirit of the question. Maybe you should have asked it differently, how about “would you say yes to no strings attached sex with a complete stranger (female, no tricks)”.
But the whole point is to test Stoneburg’s theory.
Nothing in there about conversation.
I guess Stoneburg did not consider the fact that most guys would assume its some kind of trick and would turn you down based on that idea rather than on whether they would actually agree to it or not if they thought it was a legit offer.
I had this sort of thing happen to me once, years ago: after some amount of flirty banter with an attractive woman, she said, “You know, you look familiar… Have I slept with you before?” It was a rather huge turn-off. Flattering, maybe, but I’m very much a “looking for a pair-bonding mate” type of person, and the implication of the question (that she has frequent, casual enough sexual encounters that she can’t keep them all straight in her head) first makes me think “she wouldn’t be serious about me”, and second makes me think of the odds of her being a VD vector.
I don’t see how this is a flaw, because in real life one would not be able to “delete the potential for scams and danger” when approached by a stranger offering to have sex.
If it were possible to establish that the stranger was not in any way a threat and that sex with them would be totally risk-free, there would be a lot more women willing to have sex with strangers. But that’s not the reality we’re living in. It isn’t even close.
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I’m married, so I can’t vote. I’d vote no if I could.
I would hope, however, that any guy who would consider saying ‘yes’ would look to this article about hotel crime, the come-on of which seems very close to the exact scenario described by the OP.
Times are hard, some people are desperate, and there are documented cases of this occurring.
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Not single, didn’t vote.
When I was single, I’d go for it after five or ten minutes of flirting or conversation, but probably not if she walked right up and asked me if I wanted to bump uglies. I have standards, dammit.
You said the SDMB doesn’t have “real men”.
Even though I’m not single, and the real answer is of course “maybe”, I’m going to vote “yes”. Because while I would not automatically go home with an attractive woman who asked me to, I am philosophically ok with the idea (presumably as long as no alarm bells were raised and she didn’t seem totally drunk off her ass or something).
Quite frankly I’m surprised by the inflated concerns that the woman is psychotic, trying to them or otherwise set them up or might be disease-ridden. How about the infinitely more likely scenario that she is simply a woman in a bar who is interested in having sex with you? Do men here have so low a self esteame and are so emotionally and socially crippled that scenario doesn’t even cross their mind?
That said, a strange woman coming up to you in a bar and opening with “lets get the fuck out of here” is unusually forward and a bit jarring. But it’s not unheard of when people are drunk.
I don’t like being approached with anything more forward than a warm smile. I would probably stumble for words, and decline.
However, If I had my beer goggles on, and my inhibitions were on vacation, and she lived close by, I might partake. So, it’s 50/50 - sober, probably not. Intoxicated, quite possibly.
Correction: I said the SDMB doesn’t have any “actual” men.
Seriously now, I have half a mind to walk around local bars asking strange men to sleep with me, and documenting their responses. I won’t, though, because I don’t want actually want to go home with any of them, and it’s pretty mean to lead a man on that way, then say, “Just kidding – I don’t want you. I just wanted to see what you were going to say.”
Word.
Reciprocal thread for the ladies is here.
No, because I’d consider it certain that it was (in descending order of probability)
No, and not maybe. Even if she were hot. I prefer my sex to be intimate and personal. No moral judgements, just my preference. I probably wouldn’t even take her number, instead. I don’t even have a problem with promiscuity, but the woman in question is assuming a stupid amount of risk with this behavior – either she’s crazy, an idiot, or a parasite (criminal intentions). No, thanks.
It crosses my mind; it just strikes me as being highly unlikely. It has nothing to do with self esteem; I wouldn’t expect even a woman burning with lust for me to just walk up and ask; that’s just not normal in a woman in our culture. Or any culture that I know of.