In the course of about fifteen minutes I experienced the following emotions in rapidfire:
Sympathy
Amusement
Horror
Embarrassment
Fear
Anger
Disgust
Self-castigation
Gratification
Happiness
A man of about eighty and I exited an eyeglass shop together and, recognizing that he appeared distraught and lonely, I made a pleasant comment in his direction.
Within moments he had launched into a litany of his concerns which included an ailing spouse and a daunting explanation of how doctors had removed his testicles! Feeling queasy and uncertain, I searched for a getaway line only to have him pull me back with, “And then in my butt! They found a cyst the size of a. . .”
What had I gotten myself into with one unguarded moment? As I scanned my mental list of polite exit lines an awareness came over me.
A human being was standing before me who was so in need of a listening ear that he would divulge his deepest concerns to a stranger.
I calmed myself and paid attention, making the proper listening noises in the proper conversational pauses.
When done with his recitation of woes he suddenly looked started and said, “I don’t know why I’m telling you all of this.”
I answered, “Sometimes life just gets so difficult we need to tell someone.”
He smiled in sheepish relief and walked toward his car. Just as I was getting into mine, with no small amount of relief, he returned. What next?
“Thank you so much for listening to me this morning. I feel so much better now.”
On the way home I began to laugh at the total absurdity of my little encounter with what’s behind the facade. Along with the hilarity I recognized the gift I had been given by a stranger - the sense of usefulness to others.
Never yearn to feel useful in your corner of the world unless you are armed with a sense of humor.