I have a friend who calls constantly. Let me state at the outset that he has very real, but very incurable, problems. But he calls at least once a day, often twice, occasionally three times for no other purpose but to moan and it is getting us down. I know–don’t answer the phone–but he will know it. Is there any polite way to discourage him? Part of the problem, as he reiterates constantly, is that my wife and I are his only remaining friends.
He is 89 years old and his significant other suffers serious dementia. They are not actually married (although he has an “equivalent to married” status under Quebec law, similar to common law spouse) and 25 years ago, long before there was any sign of dementia she signed a power of attorney to her son who therefore collects her collects her not inconsiderable pension and is trying to sell her house out from under my friend. SO is in a nursing home and my friend does not get along with the personnel there and they are punishing him by mistreating her (he claims–I have no way to verify this). But whatever is going on between him and the nursing home and between him and the son, I have heard it all over and over; I have no useful advice.