How, exactly, is she “not letting you” move out? You have already said you understand the basics of financial management; this means, I’m sure, that you are ready to get your own apartment and pay for everything. So – do it.
This way you may invite whomever you wish to stay with you for as long as you like.
You guys can even make a vegan feast dinner and invite your parents over! It will be fun!
Trancey, the fact that you don’t understand the costs involved, and justify them by saying things like “So I’ll only take one shower a day, that will make everything even out” is just more evidence that you have not a clue in the world about the costs and burdens of adding another person - whom NOBODY has ever met - to the household.
Anyway, so FORGET about the costs. Pretend this guy was giving you $5,000 a month to live there. HE IS A COMPLETE STRANGER AND IT’S NOT YOUR HOUSE. No matter how much twisted rationalization you are making in your head. It’s not YOUR house. If you are so absolutely sure it costs SO little to support someone, and it’s SO easy to get your own place, then do it. You have no concept of what it costs, based on your childish estimates. If your mommy is preventing you from moving out simply by saying she can’t let her baby go, then you are not so independent as you think, are you.
You are 18 and legally free to leave at any time. But it’s easy to talk about it, isn’t it, and not so easy to carry out. Or if you don’t truly realize that yet, give it a try. And if your parents tell you they don’t want you to leave, you can choose between a lifetime of your parents or shacking up for a couple of months with a guy you’ve never met. And then supporting yourself 100% afterwards, since your parents probably wouldn’t welcome you back with open arms.
And if this friend truly cared about you, he would not want you to cause a rift with your family over him. If he’s so capable of finding a job and taking care of himself, why isn’t that an option for him anyway? Could it be because it would be IMPOSSIBLE for him to support himself on the $50-$100 a month he plans to “pay” your parents?
You really need to get your head out of the sand and grow up.
I don’t know about the full extent of Trancey’s situation, but if it’s someone over the Internet, there always a chance that things are not what they seemed to be. Unless I myself have met the person face to face and contiune the friendship offline, I would not take too much risk with that fellow. It easy to sound polite online, and also easy to pretend to be someone else.
Trancey’s parents are not needlessly concerned. They are being rightfully careful about this potential addition to their household. That they even agreed to two weeks of trial is amazing.
Just my humble, two cent worth.
Again, it’s not about the money. I would NOT feel comfortable having a complete stranger stay maybe one NIGHT, let alone a whole summer.
It’s the inconvenience of having a guest-not so much the cost.