Wow. If someone kicked my dog, they wouldn’t be my friend, they’d be my sworn enemy and having a little chat with the police.
Yes, a better description. The point is a large volume of water is needed initially and continual flow to create an effective siphon. Otherwise the siphon breaks and the contents of the bowl have just been diluted instead of all going down the drain. It is more effective to fill the tank and flush then to pour water in the bowl.
Depends on how quickly it is poured. If you have a 3 gallon stock pot mostly full of water and dump that all down at once, you get a pretty good flush. If you are just dribbling water in, it never will.
Yeah, the trick is to dump it in fast. You definitely get the contents down the drain; you’ll wind up with the bowl pretty much dry, and should add a bit more water (not too much or too fast) after the flush so there’ll be some in the bowl for your next use. Otherwise extra cleaning will be needed.
It’s a bit more complicated, but I didn’t launch into the full story since I didn’t think it was relevant.
My friend and I had been out for a run on a trail, and we came across another person with a dog. My dog was not friendly, and started growling and lunging at the other dog. My friend was trying to pull her away from the dog, but since it was a trail, there wasn’t much maneuverability. He was pulling her by the leash, but she was pulling back, so he used his foot to try to move her away from the other dog.
I wasn’t happy about what he did, but I understood that he wasn’t deliberately trying to hurt her. After I cooled down and we talked everything out, I let him be around her again and he’s actually one of my dog’s favorite people now.
This is what I came to ask. The original question would have been 2 to 3 times total, which I would think a reasonable request to a friend, but the 2-3 per week made me think that this was going to be more long term and with that I could understand someone saying “no.”
Not only that, bur also whether you should continue to consider him a friend.
One other possiblity that occurs to me would be if there has been some kind of confluct or ill will between you and anyone else who lives there, for example his wife (it often happens that people don’t like their SO’s friends). Then again, in that case you’d almost certainly be aware of it, and you wouldn’t have opened the thread.
Could you clarify what “he used his foot to try to move her away” means? Did he kick the dog?
My memory is that he kicked her; his memory is that he did not kick, just nudged. It was a stressful situation where things were happening fast. I do know that she did not appear to be hurt or scared of him afterwards, so if he did kick her, it wasn’t hard enough to warrant police involvement or anything like that.
Ok, I can understand in the stress of the situation things can get confused. I think any kind of kick that mattered would have been clear afterwards. I hope you didn’t let this get between you and your two legged friend.
We’re fine now. He’s even used my shower since then!
I have a friend who lives in a nearby city. He and his wife live in a 4000 square foot house with 5 bedrooms and 6 (maybe 7) bathrooms. No children. No pets. Retired. I have stayed there in the downstairs guest suite once about a decade ago.
We’re planning a road trip together in the summer. He’s let me know that staying overnight at his house is not possible. No other explanation. I am just assuming that he and his wife are having problems, or there is some other weird shit going on that I’m unaware of. They know that I’m triple vaxxed, but the last few years has been hard on people’s comfort with sharing spaces. So it might be that.
At any rate, I’m not going to ask, and just accept it for what it is.
Boy - big difference between this and “he had kicked my dog earlier in the day.”
Hope you are taking steps to correct your dog’s behavior.
TMI!!
When my hot water was out for a few weeks last year, I had about half a dozen friends offering me the use of their shower without me even asking. None of them had ever showered at my place. It’s not a huge request as long as you don’t specify a time that’s not realistically doable - it’s just what friends do.
If I specifically asked a friend who’d already showered at my place before and didn’t have an obvious reason for saying no, I’d expect them to give a reason. It’s very odd.
Water company fixed my water last night, so total time without water was about 3 or so days. Took 3 showers at the gym and went #2 at work so wasn’t that uncomfortable.
I told my friend 2-3 times in the week because I was told by the water company it would be done within the week in 2-3 days, so my friend knew I was only asking for 2-3 showers total. My friend doesn’t have a job (wife is primary earner) and he’s got two different bathrooms (a primary and explicitly a “guest” bathroom). The times he took a shower at my house were the typical “Hey I’ll hang at your house after my workout at the nearby park but I gotta shower, can I use yours?” so him showering was part of some condition not an emergency like I had if that matters.
A lot of strangers would be better friends than this friend. I would write him off.
So how does this affect your friendship?
Did he say why he doesn’t want you to shower in your house given that he has in yours?
Did you ask him why?
It’s his wife. Give the guy a break.