First of all, thanks for the comforting, everyone. I was just so frustrated after two weekends of being completely ignored by anyone that was the slightest bit available (all of my friends (who don’t ignore me) seem to be involved).
Esprix, yeah, I do have alternative social outlets (or outlet, anyway), but it only happens every two months or so. And I’m in the middle of that down period. I want my Bearidise! Altoona doesn’t have much in the way of gay society outside of the bar.
True 'nuf. It is (within reason) easier to end up in bed with someone than it is in the straight world. If you look like Matt Damon. Given a self-selected population (as in the Bearidise bear party events I go to), you don’t even have to have that. But the dark side is that the picky twinks are the majority at the bars and clubs, which are the major social venues in this community.
sigh Don’t nobody worry 'bout me, though. I’ve survived so far, and I’ll muddle through this bout of “I’m a shapeless, sexless blob” eventually.
jayjay (counting off the days till Memorial Day weekend)
JayJay: you are a sweetheart. No, you aren’t a 20-something blonde dance club twink and That Is A Good Thing! You are a swell guy, and in the Infinite Diversity in Infinite Combinations scheme of things, there is a plethora of men out there who want to shag you silly.
Have you checked out your local bear bars or bear clubs? You could also try Girth and Mirth, where you also would likely find eleigible bachelors. There are puh-lenty o’guys–me included–who appreciate a man with a hairy chest and some meat on his bones. I’m taken, by a guy with a build similar to yours, BTW, and I know there are other guys out there who would love to make you happy.
Yes, gay men can be fatheaded jerks–welcome to the human race. Andygirl:
Uh, what happened to Quietgirl? I thought you two were happily partnered.
Esprix
Warner Brothers will have their ninja lawyers over to talk to you about copyright infringement of Daffy Duck.
Let’s not be hard on “muscle marys,” thank-you-very-much. Just because some of us like to work out at the gym does not make us bad people. I like to think of myself as a musclebear-in-the making.
You’re a sweetie, too. I had to apologize to an LJ friend of mine who’s classic twink in looks and wardrobe (but who has an actual personality) because of my rant.
I know I made a comment about “muscle marys” as did another poster. I’ve nothing against anyone who works out. It’s just that I’m a skinny guy and muscles don’t do it for me. I like other skinny guys… So, bygones?
P.S. Do you wave your finger when you say “thank-you-very-much” like I do?
Okay, I don’t like the taste in my mouth that came from writing that. It’s true but a little misleading. Jen and I are taking a break right now. All is well and I don’t want to run a Lifetime movie special. I also don’t want to talk about it here.
Andygirl, all I can say is that your life is your own – but if you ever want to talk this through with anybody, my understanding is that there are about several thousand gay teens and young adults across North America that owe you one. And if I can be any help in dealing with whatever it is, well, it’s not kosher to post one’s phone number here, but Weirddave, RTFirefly, and several others should have mine, and you’re welcome to call anytime.
JayJay, what the heck is a “LJ” friend? All I can think of is “Library Journal” – and while the mental picture that engenders, in context, is quite humorous, I’m fairly sure that’s not what you meant.
LiveJournal, a completely addictive blogging site that’s very popular. There’s even an SDMB community. There’s a link to my LJ in my sig. points Down there.
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OK, I’m going to play Devil’s Advocate, 'cause I’m just that kind of guy.
jayjay, are you frustrated because they’re so vapid and self-centered, or are you frustrated because you find them physically attractive and they don’t feel the same about you? Is this all just sour grapes? (Mind you, I’m not saying you don’t have a point - God knows I’ve met many of the kind of which you speak online and out at the clubs. But at the same time, I’m not above admitting I find a whole lot of those vapid, self-centered, twinkie muscle boys amazingly attractive - despite the fact that they are vapid and self-centered. We’re just talking looks, and that’s what we show off at a club; if I want friends, I have other means of doing so.)
A thin line to walk, but I’m curious which way you’re leaning on it.
I’m frustrated because I’m trying to sustain a heightened sense of self-worth (to get away from the shapeless blob attitude), which I’ve been working on for almost a year and have actually, most of the time, gotten hammered out, and it’s very hard to maintain that sense of self-worth when nobody even sees you.
The rant was mostly frustration. I don’t really want to see anybody getting laid by lava, but it’s so utterly illogical that someone as big as I am is invisible! I’d almost rather have them catch sight of me and gasp in disgust and horror than have them totally ignore me. It’s like I’m not even there.
sigh I’m going to be all right on this. By Friday, I’ll get my equilibrium back. At the end of May, I have a Bearidise, where I can recharge my self-esteem batteries, and in the meantime, I will be losing some weight this time.
I want my Bearidise! Altoona doesn’t have much in the way of gay society outside of the bar.
