You tell 'em Steve-Dave.
I’m sorry for your losses. You can help those who are also suffering by being strong for them, and also by sharing your feelings.
That’s not the part AU highlighted, I don’t think that’s what he was saying.
Sorry about that!
Wow. Warm thoughts to you and your friend. Don’t feel bad about not knowing what to do or say. Nobody ever does. Just be there for him.
Give him a bottle. Wouldn’t counsel that ordinarily, but if he’s dying, why should he have to die sober?
I don’t think he means he’s dying, just that he’s having a real bad time.
Does not it suck to have such a snarky and uncalled for post as the first reply to a pit thread which as a result almost anyone reading this thread will see?
Anyway, I do see it was a stupid-ass post and apologize to everyone especially the OP.
How insensitive I have shown myself to be…
That’s really awful, yancy. Best wishes to you in this difficult time.
I think I’m going to shift this over to MPSIMS, where you’re less likely to encounter… certain kinds of comments.
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I don’t know if I’m the right person to give advice, or even if you want to hear any advice now, but I’d suggest you talk to your friends who have endured these losses and let them know that you’re there to talk with, should they need it.
I’m very very sorry. You have my sympathy and prayers.
My thoughts are with you and your friends. What a terrible thing for all of you to be experiencing.
I was counseling a woman the other week who had lost her son in Afghanistan in November. He left behind three very small children. The family dynamics are too convoluted to get into, but suffice to say that she was expressing her helplessness when faced with a crying 4 year old saying over and over “I miss my daddy.” She said all she could do was cry with her, and say that she missed him too; I told her that was the best thing she could have done for that child.
So cry, scream, sit silently, laugh… whatever… with your friends. It’s the best thing that you can do for them right now.
Ok, that sucks.
I totally get the reference to the rest of the world going on as normal and not understanding how that works.
Anything I say in support will sound like a platitude, so I’ll simply say to stay strong for yourself firstly and secondly for what you can do to help others.
Sorry for your loss, and I’ll add a hearty FU Universe as well, losing loved ones sucks big time
This is a warning for you. Your post in this thread is completely out of line.
Even your apology later seems more of a fun poem for you.
Don’t post in this thread again.
I apologize. I see the thread was originally in the Pit when AU’s post was made.
The reported posts that came in was after it had been moved. I just noticed that now.
I’m thereby reversing the warning as it was in the Pit at the time and okay for that forum, not to mention, I don’t mod the Pit.
I’m terribly sorry for your loss, Yancey.
And you wonder why you rub people the wrong way? Maybe it’s because you come off as a smart-ass asshole kid. Being an asshole is bad, umm’kay!, and being a smart-ass is bad, umm’kay. Learn to recognize that you’re a kid, and probably don’t know as much as you believe you do about ‘Life, The Universe, and Everything’ and grow some humility.
People will stop shitting on you all the time, once you learn that simple life-lesson. Best life-lesson I ever learned, and I learned it at approximately your age: You aren’t as smart as you think you are. There are plenty of people smarter than you. Even if you are the smartest kid in your class, there’s always someone who knows more about the subject (whatever it might be) than you. There’s always someone better than you. Stop assuming you are ‘the best of the best’. You’re not. And when you try, you come off as an idiot. Try not to do that, and people will like you better. and stop ragging on you.
Let’s not get this thread hijacked by that comment. Use the Pit if you wish, but keep this thread on track, please.
I’m so sorry, Yancey.
It’s surreal when people just keep going about their business like nothing happened, while your world and that of your friend’s is completely shattered. I know that feeling.
Yancy-My heart breaks for you! 1 clarification though (hope this doesn’t come off mean) you’re friend lost: 2 son’s and the gf of one of them?