Bianary- what part of this aren’t you getting? It’s not her smoking habits that she was accosted with, it’s littering. Same as if she threw a fast food bag on the ground.
Look, I’m not fat and I don’t have a particular dog in this fight, but do you really NOT see what is wrong with putting “being fat” in the middle of that sentence? Really? How is “being fat” on the same list of “things about our fellow humans that get on our nerves?”
I suggest you stop digging and think about it for a minute or three.
Don’t flatter yourself toots. The reason I didn’t comment in your “I’m so fucking hot/looky me looky me/I don’t blow because the poor idiot is lucky just to be fucking me/God I fuck so good/looky me looky me/did I mention I am fucking hot” thread is because (1) flaming isn’t allowed in that thread, and (2) you aren’t worth my energy to create a Pit thread of your own.
Since we were already on the subject of you acting like a dickwad, I thought it perfectly appropriate to add my thoughts it here.
Zette, I am more of a riding on top like a cowgirl typa-girl but only after a big, hearty blowjob!
Yeah, ok. The comments on that thread were meant to be humorous. Someone asked me to post a pic, so I did. Is there a problem with that? No one made you click on it. Do you have a problem that a couple of people complimented me? Too fucking bad.
Zette, while I do appreciate your feedback I don’t think that you really got the point of my post. I get the point that we are assuming that the stranger that accosted the OP was doing so for littering (although I think that is really not knowable, and to be honest I would be surprised if that random stranger had the same reaction to a gum wrapper). That is neither here nor there.
I am also not stating that being fat is something that gets on my nerves, but I would be surprised if you did not know that it is something that bothers some people. Indeed, as I go out in the world, I make a deliberate effort to not let any of the things that I listed bother me because life is really too short for that, and it costs me nothing to serenely ignore petty annoyances throughout the day. I save my ire for big things like poverty, disease and war.
The only point that I am making is that (for whatever reason) it is just not OK to criticize strangers in public. I am amazed that we have come to a point where so many folks seem to think that this sort of behavior is acceptable.
Also, I find it rather hurtful that you seem to be accusing me of being impolite as I really made an effort to not be rude. That said, it sees that the way that I phrased my post was construed as rude by you, so for that I apologize.
Don’t like my response to your other post? Too fucking bad.
At the time I read the blowjob thread I just rolled my eyes and thought you were an immature attention whore. However, once I compared that thread with this one (and other threads where you have made hateful remarks towards a person’s appearance) my eye rolling turned into a belief that people in glass houses and all . . . .
Seriously, you shouldn’t be so quick to toss out hateful insults on appearances when you just aren’t as fucking perfect as you seem to think you are.
Look, you don’t owe me an apology, Bianary- I’m just asking you to re-read what you posted and think about it some more. You put “being fat” in the same category as a bunch of social faux-pas and general nastiness.
(droping cigarette butts, <b>being fat</b>, wearing too much perfume, dropping gum, having visible exhaust coming out of their cars, the cars that they drive, not bathing enough, the way that the dress, spitting,)
I maintain that they are not in the same category and that being fat is not something people do to be annoying or because they don’t care about the consequence it has to society. The other items are. See what I’m saying? The fact that some people find it annoying is inconsequential. Being annoyed because someone loads up on perfume then sits next to you on the bus? OK. Being annoyed because someone is fat? Not OK. One thing has a direct effect on you, the other does not.
Accostiing strangers in public? Wrong. Referring to someone as a “fat assed bitch”, as if the “fat assed” part matters? Very wrong.
Well, I’m sorry if you found it “rather hurtful”, but I wonder how overweight people find it when they read “being fat” in the middle of your list of “things about our fellow humans that get on our nerves”? I’m not saying you need to change your evil ways or anything, just think about what your statement means to you and how it comes off to others.
And I got the point of your post loud and clear. Your point seems to be
Whereas I maintain that the kind of people it bothers are not the kind of people I give a rats ass about. It is rude to comment on someones weight (that goes for thin people too- "hey, eat a sandwich already! har har!). Why is this basic tenant about how to behave in society so hard to grasp? I have no idea. But apparently it is for many people.
Some people are going to think that i would make a terrible parent (not an issue, as i don’t want children), but i really don’t see what the big fucking deal is with fucking swearing in front of fucking kids.
If most of the people i know, and most of the people on this message board, are any indication, a pretty high percentage of the adult population swears, whether occasionally, regularly, or all the fucking time. And i don’t really think that not swearing necessarily makes one a better person. I’ll bet Fred Phelps doesn’t say “cunt,” but i still think he’s a poor excuse for a human being.
I think that, rather than making swearing a big taboo for kids, we should teach them to do it properly. It seems to me that swearing is like any other informal or colloquial speech - fine as long as you realize that there are certain situations in which it is not really appropriate. For example, when i’m in a seminar with a bunch of other grad students and academics, discussing slavery in North Carolina or New Deal economic policy, i don’t litter my analytical comments with a whole bunch of expletives. Similarly, i tend to refrain from swearing (or at least try to cut down) when i’m in the presence of someone who doesn’t like cursing - like my mother.
Also, swearing should not stand in for adjectives all the time in general conversation. Using “fucking” as an adjective to describe just about every noun in a sentence, as i did in my opening sentence, is generally just a sign of a poor vocabulary, IMO. But, in the right situation, swearing can be appropriate and very satisfying.
You have a point but don’t confuse swearing with being downright cruel to another human being. A mother calling another person a “fucking fatassed bitch” in front of her kid is a pretty lowclass thing to do.
Yeah, i was more making a general point, because some people on this thread seemed to be implying that Indygrrl was a bad mother simply for swearing in front of her kid. If that’s the worst parenting flaw she has, then i’m not too worried about the child’s future.
Diane I would suggest that anyone calling a complete stranger a ‘fucking fat assed bitch’ would be probably a 'low classed ’ thing to do. the fact she did it in front of her daughter adds to it, naturally.
Ya know - I have a friend that used to think exactly the same way as you mhendo.
Then she heard her 2 year old daughter say “Jesus Fuckin’ Christ” and changed her opinion.
There’s nothing like hearing a small child swearing to make you realize how crass it sounds, regardless of who’s saying it.
Personally, I don’t swear much. I prefer to use other, more creative descriptors. If other people do it, I don’t mind a huge amount (except for “I’m going to take a piss.” - that phrase always makes me cringe). However, when I hear people swear in front of children it really makes me recoil.
It just sounds SO BAD.
Actually, the other thing that kind of picks my butt is when young women (16-20) swear like truckers. I assume they are doing it to sound “cool” or “mature” or “anti-establishment.” Frankly I think it makes them sound like immature bimbos that aren’t intellegent enough to express themselves.
You’re all correct, of course. There is a difference between swearing, and swearing at someone. The latter is intended to be offensive and should probably be discouraged except in extreme circumstances.
Yeah, well, let me be honest and say my daughter has no concept of what those words mean, and if she repeated them I’d do cartwheels. She doesn’t have any real language skills and communicates very poorly. The use of the word “fuck” ain’t gonna alter her life one bit.
I did give the preface to the incident, so scroll back and read it if you want to know why I was in the mood to act like a vile bitch. Not a great excuse, but who hasn’t gotten pissed and said something rude to someone else? I’m not going to make apologies for it, especially since the woman invited trouble.
If you can’t correct someone in public who really hasn’t directly done anything to you WITH A LITTLE HUMOR so that they don’t get crazy on you…KEEP YOUR BIG MOUTH SHUT
Indy was wrong for littering, but the SUV woman is an asshole for the way she handled it.
ps, where is that blowjob thread? And what does it have to do with this thread?
