Your instincts are 100% correct. If she is waffling in her desire to be part of a couple with you after 6 weeks that’s a personality that is not going to dependably commit to you for the long term. She may go back and forth, but a woman who cannot make up her mind to be a couple with you after 6 weeks of taste testing is not a strong candidate for a healthy, committed long term relationship.
Mercurial women (or mercurial people in general) can be lots of fun in the short term, but are extremely bad bets for long term happiness. This is not to say she won’t commit to someone at some point, but it appears that someone is not going to be you.
Yeah, so I took tdn’s advice, and went out to a show with some of my dudes.
I’m now the proud owner of a 21-year-old’s cell number written on the back of a coaster. Feeling a little tipsy, somewhat sleazy, and inordinately proud of myself.
God bless college girls who shop at American Apparel. And PBR. And Jameson. Hic.
Love interest left a message on my phone about an hour ago. Maybe I’ll call her tomorrow.
I’m getting a feeling that you are both pretty young (early twenties) - from my 42 year old perspective, I can assure you that when you are with the right person, it isn’t this hard - you spend time with each other because you want to. On the other hand, your twenties are for dating the wrong people so you can recognize good when it comes along. Maybe you’re both getting antsy because it is getting too serious too fast, and you’re both too young for that right now.
Uh… so you have a relationship with someone you think is great and you want to break up only because you think you’re seeing each other too often and things are “going too fast”? That’s… really dumb. Sorry but if you’ve only been going out 2 months you just need to chill the hell out.
I had a similar experience a while back, in which my then-GF was feeling a little boxed in and hated that all we ever did was hang out every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. She needed her space. She laid this on me one Friday night, and we were feeling pretty bad about it the next morning. When she went out shopping the next day, I just decided to leave. No note, nothing. I just went home.
And instead of moping, I did stuff that I never had a chance to do. I created a great day for myself. I swear that women can tell your mood even if you’re out of contact and miles away.
She called that night and apologized and invited me over. “Please? We can just hang out. I just want to see you.” Nope. I was having a great time just chilling at home. I told her to call me the next day. Or not.
The next day I reluctantly decided to go over to her place just to see if I wanted to hang out with her for a bit. That was the best sex I ever had with her.
Maybe you’re both getting antsy because it is getting too serious too fast, and you’re both too young for that right now.