Yeah, kinda like that. And what jimpatro had to say as well. Sometimes, even if it’s with a casual toss - sometimes you fuck, sometimes you have a squeaky, sometimes you hammer, sometimes you screw, sometimes you get laid, sometimes you just make love nice and slow and all friendly-like.
Horse patooties. I can have a deep, wild, sensual, intense, passionate time with someone I know casually. I can make love with someone I met an hour ago and that I don’t plan to see again, or I can fuck my boyfriend, tout dependant. There’s a time for everything.
I’ve found that sex can be more satisfying when it’s backed up by romance, but that’s not a criterion. Sex is for pleasure, a complete, worthy, and necessary goal in itself. And my sexual and emotional potentialities are not limited by your imagination.
Guilty. Stopped all the action for, um, 15 seconds while I declared temporary insanity & promised never to do it again. :smack:
devilsknew, you related to Smoove B?
OP: I wouldn’t have aproblem with it but I’d be sure to clarify the terrain later over beers.
Throes. Throes of passion.
Unless you’re a tosser.
Not even gonna get that out of me. Once upon a time, a lover gave me a funny look and said “stop calling me God.” Not a peep from me since then.
Horrible. But why would you let one lover ruin the rest of your days?
I think you’re on to something there.
And I would also say the worse thing you could do is STOP right there. On the one hand what if the person in question IS beginning to have feels that go beyond friends with benefits? That would have to be the most awkward and painful moment for either of you to start talking about that. Particularly if what you want to say is “no I don’t feel like that”. If you really think he/she is getting the wrong idea about the relationship wait till you’re both dressed (and, possibly, have both had a stiff drink) to bring it up.
On the other (and I would agree, more likely) hand, if they were just talking, all you’ve done is create an awkward moment in an otherwise perfectly good fuck.
Now THERE’s you a perfectly good sig.-line! 
devilsknew
Oh… yeesss theeree isss!!! Never count out recreational sex.
I agree with the idea that the term “love making” can be simply a description of the desired tone of the encounter.
Most guys I know would say “Man, who pays attention to what’s said?”
My fiance and I only use the phrase ‘make love’ when we’re trying to make the other person laugh. So if someone said that to me during sex I’d be laughing so hard I’d have to stop.
I believe that you can “make love” to someone, but I also believe that if you say it out loud you sound like a Doris Day/Rock Hudson movie and you should probably rethink your sexual vocabulary. That’s just goofy. Fuckbuddy or lifetime romance. Either way. It’s just freakin’ goofy.
I would start laughing. I wouldn’t even worry about what it meant.
I would just laugh.
A lot.
Thanks guys,
Some of you kind of touched on the real purpose of what I was trying to get at in this thread. I’ve had problems in the past where I start a casual realotionship, then later on down the road when I see or date some one else; The lady gets all indignant with me.
I was more or less trying to figure out what the hell it is I’m doing that leads these women to believe I wanted something more. I mean if I would have known from the word go that they were going to get their feelings all hurt over this deal, I never would have done it. (At least I like to think I wouldn’t have.)
This last one in particular, I was EXTRA carefull with. I tried to make DAMN sure I didn’t do or say anything that might have been misleading. But sure enough, this last lady I was with wound up get’n all pissed at me. So I went back in retrospect and tried to think of what I did wrong. My OP was the only thing I could think of.
I’d like to rationalize it that women are just f’n crazy, but lets face it, I’m the only common denominater here as trite as that sounds.
(FTR this last lady I was with was the only one who touted out the whole “Make love to me bit” Also, I’m not a total manwhore. When I say past experiences I mean through out the entire course of my life.)
I’d say it’s the sex.
The thing with feelings is that you have no control over them and they are unpredictable. It is easy enough to say, yeah lets just have a casual relationship. But having sex would indicate that you like each other to some extent, and with two people involved it’s hardly surprising that at least one of you may develop deeper feelings.
Also consider this. Is it possible that Lady Friend already had deeper feelings for you and then when given the option of casual sex or nothing, she chooses casual sex? Then when it’s over or whatever her feelings are hurt because they were always deeper than what you realized.
The fact is that, like threesomes, casual sex isn’t always as straight forwards and glitch free as you’d like it to be.
Holy cow! All this time I thought 1920’s style “Death Ray” was a boardism had no idea you were an actual member. Go figure.
As for me I have been married since 1987, so I’m am not to familiar with the idea of casual sex. The last time I had it I was a teenager. But I don’t see whats wrong with mentioning love. I mean during the act at least are not the feelings a little stronger than casual aquaintance? Besides doesn’ the rule “What is said in bed, stays in bed” still apply?
Personally, it would bother me because it would suggest that the other person was heading toward warm fuzzy feelings. For me, 99% of keeping casual relationships casual and drama-free is being very careful to keep any warm fuzzy feelings at arms length. I would see it as outside the bounds of the previously agreed upon terms of the relationship.
Maybe it’s because I’m a middle-aged romantic who’s never has casual, meaningless sex, but I like having a “warm, fuzzy feeling” while having sex. To me it adds to the enjoyment of the act. If I don’t feel something for her, I might as well be by myself. But then, I’ve always been more concerned with her pleasure than mine, which I guess negates the whole concept of “meaningless.”
"You don’t always have to fuck her hard
In fact sometimes that’s not right to do
Sometimes you’ve got to make some love
And fuckin’ give her some smoochies too
Sometimes you got to squeeze
Sometimes you got to say “Please…”
Sometimes you got to say “Hey…”
I’m gonna fuck you, softly
I’m gonna screw you gently
I’m gonna hump you, sweetly
I’m gonna ball you discretely"
Tenacious D
The boardism came first. The whole thing had me in hysterics and in a drunken moment I changed my board name to honour it.
Is this a joke?? You get busy, man! Make love, bone, do the nasty, whatever. It’s just an expression, for crying out loud!
I don’t know… even if someone didn’t mean in the sense I take it, it would give me pause. However cheesy other people find it, I think that making love is a different term, and signifies a different act, than fucking, or what have you. In my mind, making love signifies a physical display/connection of your deeper emotions. The other person might not’ve meant anything by it, and I wouldn’t kick a casual partner out of bed just for saying it, but it would give me pause, and I’d probably stop what I was doing and ask what was going on. If it’s supposed to be casual sex, and someone’s asking me for something that I’m not comfortable with in that context, I’d want to clear it up, and end the tryst is necessary.